I am wondering, my bf says that when I am on top that it just doesn't do anything for him. He sometimes goes soft (well when I would be on top that is) and others he doesn't but still doesn't enjoy it. There was one time that I had helped him reach orgams without having sex, and then he fell asleep. So later on when I was ready, I made my move on him. I got him erect and put on a condom. I started to roll him over to get on top and he woke up immediately (which is what I thought) and we had sex (him on top). I love him on top, but I thought that I would thrill him and get on top also pleasuring myself. He told me that he woke up when I started giving him a handjob and that when he realized that I was going to get on top, he took control. He says that he doesn't know why but he just doesn't get pleasure out of it. Why is this?:confused:
Sat, 08/25/2007 - 00:42
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Being on top doesn't please??
Lack of interest, lack of erection = lack of desire.
There is no explanation for our sexual desire, the intensity of that desire, or our lack of desire. It simply is there or it isn't, as it is.
It can't be sparked at will when it doesn't exist, and it can't be extinguished at will when it does exist. Asking why someone does or doesn't have specific sexual desires is a futile exercise.
Desire is. Our only choice is whether, when, and how we act on that desire.
Summer...Is this the same guy you are having all the sex/relationship issues with? Or someone new???
Same person, He told me that I should do it faster (at least that's what I got out of it) and I can't go that fast.
[quote=summerbreeze;191698]Same person, He told me that I should do it faster (at least that's what I got out of it) and I can't go that fast.[/quote]
Have him guide you through holding your hips but remember sex is not everything; therefore, this is not a big deal if he likes exactly what you do since it's the experience in your relationship; him helping you.
IF he wants it faster then he'll have to help by thrusting upward with his hips helping to move you and not relying just upon your energy alone.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;191828]IF he wants it faster then he'll have to help by thrusting upward with his hips helping to move you and not relying just upon your energy alone.[/QUOTE]
thats what i was going to say....speed is kind of limited for the girl when she is on top...
Well I haven't really been on top much in my life. So I don't really have much experience with it. We have only had sex maybe 3 times with me on top and the last time that, that happend was about 3-4 months ago. I asked him if it was just that position, (we were on the bed and I was facing him) he said that he likes being on top doing most the work, it turns him on more. I just want him to relax and enjoy sometime. It has been on my mind for a couple of weeks now. lol. Anyone have any tips on being on top?
Things between us are great now, so much more open and pleasing. We're opening new doors everytime he comes home.;) So I'm not really worried about it, just want to see if maybe I can open another door make it even better.
If you can try to get so you have you're feet on the bed or whatever - I mean not so you're on your knees but on your toes like squatting? You can go up + dn more - but dont go crazy and bounce on to the floor lol!
Slyvia that ONLY works if you are tiny. But us long-legged ladies are NOT going to get up on our feet and still expect a guy's penis to reach us!
That's called asian cowgirl and yes the woman does move more, the thrusting tends to be deeper since your using your whole weight on your man.
One thing that makes it more practical is to hold on to your man's shoulders or something. Since he'll be more or less supporting you and directing you with his hands lifting you up and down, he might be able to control more...
Look on the main page : [URL=http://www.sexinfo101.com/sp_womanontop.shtml]woman on top and more specifically, asian cowgirl.
Also to spice things up a bit more, cufs on the bloke are quite nice too :p.
Don't forget to experiment!
this should please him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
when your on top turn around and crawl torwards his dick(My BF Told Me He Loves Watching My A** And Loves Watching His Penis Go Into My Vagina). Keep Crawling Till Your Past His Dick. Then Turn Around And Give Him A Blowjob. Then A Little Dick Massage. Then Tell Him To Roll Over And Lick His A**. My Man Loves That.
OK, I didnt even know it had its own name. Thanks! :)
I'm 5-7 so i don't think I'm really 'tiny' :D
[quote=Sylvia;191972]OK, I didnt even know it had its own name. Thanks! :)
I'm 5-7 so i don't think I'm really 'tiny' :D[/quote]
I used to be 5' 10", Now 5' 9" (aging thing) and have really long and very strong legs....I look like I am trying to be a contortionist! Sort of the same with my ankles by my ears...not fun!!!
I think that it is not connected with his desire. May be it is connected with the "construction" of your bodies. Try to find a position when he feels you.
On the Asian Cowgirl thing: it's not like I'm in a position to do it or anything, but I've seen it done up to 5'6", which I don't think is tiny either. I suspect it's more a matter of flexibility in the knee joint than anything else. Baseball catchers certainly squat low enough, and many of them are well over 6 feet. (And no, that's not a commentary on the sexuality of baseball catchers, particularly the ones who are well over 6 feet).
Squatting isn't the issue - the issue is up down up down up down rapidly repeatedly repeatedly repeatedly faster faster faster- get it?