"Being sexed to the cellular level is outside my scope of experience."
This inexperience is common in both men and women. I am here to help.
What is meant by "sexed to the cellular level" is total involvement of body and mind without any reservations in sex with this particular partner to the point where you cannot remember your first name. The oxygen the orgasms have pumped into your brain has overhwlemed your neurons. That's the definition.
Now for the technique. The first thing to do is to change your attitude about sex and your sexuality. Do not just accept sex and sexuality, EMBRACE it! REJOICE and REVEL in sex and in being sexual. There is nothing here about romance or 'soulmates'.
Next - nevermind about the extra 10 pounds, your bad knees, the wrecked roator cuff, whatever - doesn't matter. Forget about 'trying to please'. Forget about 'not being comfortable'. Those don't matter either. Toss your fears and insecurities out the window. Let your passions, lusts, desires free rein. LET IT LOOSE!
Will he/she think I'm a... - PFFT. Please, stop worrying. If your partner is male, he will be entranced, feel priviledged you permitted him a glance into the hearrt of your being, and a huge ego boost because he helped bring it about. If your partner is female she will be overawed, impressed and also get a huge ego boost because she helped bring it about.
Be advised this has nothing to do with 'positions', kink, lingerie, toys, etc.
What is has to do with is leaving your fears outside the door. Whether you've known your partner for 50 minutes or 50 years - doesn't matter. If you unleash the raw power of your sexuality you will both experience sex at the cellular level.
I shall give you an example of just such an experience.
The darkened room was hot, with sweat glistening on my naked body, I strode from the bedroom to the darkened sitting room of the suite. I reeked of sex. My auburn hair wild about my head, my predatory eyes locked those of the next man. At that moment, he caught, as he later said, a glimpse into my secret heart. My men. My prey. My eager victims. It was primal. It was glorious!
No pretenses. No defenses.
Being this 'open' is scary to most people. We run around wearing masks trying to protect ourselves - afraid of being used, hurt, misunderstood, demeaned not only is his/her eyes but also in our own. I understand and this sort of rampant sexuality, unbridled passionate sharing of delights may NOT be for you. But that would be a shame - a life only half-lived.
Please, at least try.
Nice quote there. ;)
You've put a nice big smile on my face! After the horrid week I've had with work, thank you very much. :D
You're welcome.
Glad you enjoyed it.
EEK, beautiful post! And in some way I'd say your post is very recognizable to me. In other ways; I don't. I'll try to explain.
The moment when I am at a state during sex that I don't care about any insecurity, pretense, defense, fear, etc happens almost as instantly as we start (though I'm sure it's grown to become this way over the years ;)). The moment I let go in every way, happens usually after first penetration. Which in some primal way is very romantic to me, since it makes us physically united. The moment I get lost in time and space, I feel as if I could be clawing the earth, breathing fire, rivers are flowing through me and I'm floating across the stars at the same time. As if I'm connected to the universe itself. This is also the moment I feel very much melted and fused together with my lover; our energies flow together as one. I shiver, howl, growl, bite, grab, which I'm not much aware of at the time, but I remember the echo's of it after. And somehow we used to always find the evidence on him :rolleyes: After many climaxes I feel like a little feather coming down towards the earth, that can also be blown up towards the high heavens by the slightest warm breeze. Only to swirl all over again :)
So when you say there's nothing of romance or soulmates, I guess I've never felt it on a cellular level... In another way I'd say I have, even like body-transcending. Although I must say that what I'm trying to describe here, is certainly not the kind of romance with candle light and red roses:p
LOL No, RR, you've experienced it. Congratulations! Clawing the earth and breathing fire! Yes! Exactly!
When I say romance and 'soulmates' - I am refering to the "little girl/boy lost" attitude exhibtied by adults who should know better. There has to be "meaning" and they have to be in a "relationship" - and it is all in capital letters and cloying sweetness. (Excuse me, I think I'm going to be ill.)
All of that has nothing to do with the deep, often dark, bond where silence also 'speaks' that forms - yes, at the cellualr level - between those who share such an experience.
Great post as usual EEK. Could you possibly include this post with the program perhaps?
G-dubz
Darling - you KNOW The Program is the basic primer showing you HOW such primordial sex at the cellular level is to be achieved esp when coupled with The Four Hotspots and Body Worship.
Give them all a try.
LOL EEK. I see what you're saying but that's not what I meant. I was talking about a master thread of some kind where this topic along with the Program, the Four Hotspots, and the Body Worship topics are in the same place.
I read this post last night, my first thought? Ha! This will kill me, being sexed to the cellular level. My death certificate would give the cause as death by orgasm, which is not a bad way to go. :D I think this is why I'd want to wait until I hit menopause before I could be sexed out.
The problem is, I know the way my body can be sometimes. Foreplay in general is intense enough. There's something cellular that I feel with foreplay alone.
Heck, reading this particular post created some sparks of desire, lust, etc.
So then naturally now, I have some questions.
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When I say romance and 'soulmates' - I am refering to the "little girl/boy lost" attitude exhibtied by adults who should know better. There has to be "meaning" and they have to be in a "relationship" - and it is all in capital letters and cloying sweetness. (Excuse me, I think I'm going to be ill.)
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Ok, let me emphasize the particular issue I have with this quote
[QUOTE]There has to be "meaning" [/QUOTE]
I cannot explain it, but for every person who says that sex does not need to have a meaning, it will eventually throw me into a rage (particularly if this discussion is brought up during the time I'm PMS-ing, then this is a topic that throws me into an instant rage...I assume it's hormones and my greatest desire to want and need intimacy at around that time).
(Watch the episode Bad Moon Rising on Everybody Loves Raymond, you'll get the idea)
It's one thing to have sex...for the sake of closeness, relationship or not, this I have no issue with. In fact, this would be the basis of which I wouldn't mind having sex because of what it can invoke.
But to have sex with no particular reason or meaning?
How is it even possible to be sexed to the cellular level without sex having a meaning at that point?
I'm not even talking about planning on having sex.
I just can't see sex without having some symbolic meaning.
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How is it even possible to be sexed to the cellular level without sex having a meaning at that point?
I'm not even talking about planning on having sex.
I just can't see sex without having some symbolic meaning.[/QUOTE]
Hi,
What I take from it, is that sex can be looked at like a physical stimulus/response thing. All the additional emotions that are attributed to it are done so by our upbringing and our own minds only associating sex = meaning.
For example, say you go to a restaurant and the chef there makes a mind blowing chocolate nightmare cake. One that in the little menu blurb is always confettied with words like "PMS cake" or "sinful" or "decadent". And they're right, you could totally write home to mom about this cake. It makes your mouth feel like a kid again. You remember all the lesser cakes you've ever had, and how they some how cheated you from this experience, because you thought all cake was that average. You've driven past this place for YEARS, and this heaven was waiting there ALL ALONG!
Does this mean you have a relationship with this chef? Did it only taste good because of who he is to you? Or, was it simply a stimulation of your taste buds, albeit in a way you've never had before?
I am in your camp, but I understand now how sex can be broken down to this core level, free of the baggage it's had added to it. Since I'm married and monogamous, I can't help but have "meaningful" sex on this emotional level, but I see now that if that situation were changed it makes sense. I would think sex just for the sake of the sensation would be much easier, because there wouldn't be the song and dance associated with it. You could just ask "sex please?" and the answer is "yes/no" and done, there you go. Everyone wins. :)
lol, Firmus, you have just read my mind. I was tempted to equate sex with food, but I realized if I did, the argument would have been moot because, humans have to eat for nourishment and eating is a innate primal mechanism, just like sex is an innate primal mechanism for the means of procreation.
you can do both just for the sake of comfort, boredom, etc...
SG: Tsk, tsk, tsk - about meaning - please SEX is NOT a TOOL to add meaning, find meaning, build meaning into your life. Your life and the meaning in it is something you have to find & build on your own. Sex is not the answer to the question "why am I here?"
So foreplay is intense? That's no reason for stopping, shutting down to 'keep control' - no - keep going!
Firmus: Monogamy is no barrier to enjoying sex at the cellular level, as I hope you have discovered.
g-dubz: I like making men work a little.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;274501] I like making men work a little.[/QUOTE]
HA HA HA. Ok EEK fair enough ;)
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Firmus: Monogamy is no barrier to enjoying sex at the cellular level, as I hope you have discovered.[/QUOTE]
Oh right, I was just meaning for the "meaning" side of the conversation.
We're still working on the cellular level aspect. I'd say we're a bit past standard "man on top, get it over with quick" version. I never realized how scripted we used to be. Creeping hand, sigh of "ok", automatic foreplay, standard-issue orgasm, sleep.
I feel that we could easily-ish fall over the edge into cellular level, if "she" just gives in. I quote because I don't believe for a second it's her fault, but rather a combination of her inhibitions and my fretting too much to achieve a new level of sexual bliss, and that consumes my conscious thoughts in the moment. 2 nights ago was the first time in my life I've even not climaxed and I gave up, all because my mind was so deep in "she's not digging this!! I'm not doing this right!! She's not doing this right!!"
The biggest hurdle I think is we're basically relearning each other from scratch. We got so rutted that anything non-rut has been forgotten. Even something as simple as a handjob is outside our expertise now, which adds to our frustrations. We're so hit and miss. One night will be magic, and the next time boring.
I think I need to go through and read all the "starting out" type threads, as I just glossed over them in the thought that "well gee we're way past that being together 18-ish years" when really we can be just as ignorant.
Ruts are definitely dangerous!
EEK, A deep bond that speaks at a cellular level; that's exactly what I love about it!
Sensual, what could be wrong with such intense feelings during foreplay? I remember how every time I thought the sensation couldn't be more profound and yet; every step during my sexual journey, it did. It's absolutely wonderful to rejoice in more and more pleasure, when you thought you couldn't bare no more. You surrender to it and embrace it. I totally understand why the French sometimes call orgasms "little death's". Very happy ending, I'm sure.
Firmus, have mercy on me! Describing chocolate cake with such accuracy; I'm nearly drooling here (damn Pavlov-effect). And uhm... you must have never met a true chef. You'd know that the more passionate he prepares your sinful cake, you'll definitely taste it. The best are those that work with heart and soul; they basically have an intimate relationship with their ingredients. Or if you will: the sex preceded it ending up on your plate ;):)
And why think of anything apart from the sexual sensation as difficult? Or even "baggage"? I'd rather call it the cream and chocolate-dipped cherry on my sinful cake! :p:) True: the body's physiology works on stimulus-response. And physical stimuli in itself can provide absolutely great and fulfilling sensations. True; mental and emotional aspects can get in your way and disturb pleasurable sensations. But it also works the other way around. The body doesn't just work on mechanics, it works on hormones and hormones are greatly influenced by anything that lives in your mind and soul. Me drooling at the thought of chocolate cake is just one of the examples of how powerful this connection between mind and body can be (and that's just rather simple advanced conditioning). Iow: the physiological processes in our body can be greatly amplified by our emotions and thoughts. They can be our extra stimuli; adding tremendously to our experience of sensation.
[QUOTE=RedRoses;274515]EEK, A deep bond that speaks at a cellular level; that's exactly what I love about it!
Sensual, what could be wrong with such intense feelings during foreplay? I remember how every time I thought the sensation couldn't be more profound and yet; every step during my sexual journey, it did. It's absolutely wonderful to rejoice in more and more pleasure, when you thought you couldn't bare no more. You surrender to it and embrace it. I totally understand why the French sometimes call orgasms "little death's". Very happy ending, I'm sure.
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...I guess there's nothing really wrong with it. But when things happen beyond your expectations, it's truly mind shattering, but then you more...or another level of it. In my case, I recall feeling hazy,getting dizzy or feeling like I'm about to pass out. :o then we'd have to slow it down just so that I can catch my breath and all.
Do I miss those intense feelings of intimacy? Definitely. The reason why this occurs was always due to some sexual tension that we both had...and still do at this point even though it's almost been a year since we parted as friends.
Even after we went back to being friends, we've acknowledged that there's sexual tension between us. Is it enough to act upon it? I'd honestly have to say in due time, it will be.
Perhaps, this is the reason why whenever we meet up again, it's generally intense...
I'd say if it wasn't for distance now, we're probably dancing with fire at this point. :/