Of course this is possible.

Pull your punches. Instead of spanking a fanny with energy, pull back so there is only a hint of what you are doing. Instead of spanking, give one weak whack, and if another one if desired, then another. These may sting a little, but you are not delivering a beating or using any sort of force. The same thing for shaking her. You can grab her on the shoulders and appear to be shaking forcefully when in fact it is little more than a gentle tug-of-war. It's all about the acting. Make it appear that you are being forceful or mean, so that is what she is focused on more than than harmless act that is a part of the script.

As for a rape script, as a guy, please understand the trauma and pain associated with a real event vs. the fantasy. Do not confuse the difference. I recommend that the two of you talk about what is or is not acceptable, then, work within the framework. The script may be very different for a young virgin and an older experienced woman. Personalities enter the picture too. One naive woman may have one fantasy whereas the guy may have a very different concept of what the script involves. This is why it is important to have a discussion beforehand. Once you have an agreement of what is and is not OK, wait to implement the script. Part of the fun of any script is that the actions are a surprise and unexpected. If she knows you are going to spank her, do it when she is least expecting it; the same goes for the rape or any other playful acting you decide upon. If you have to wait a week or so, then wait.

Have a safe word that is not a part of normal conversation. This is used any time one or the other wants to put an immediate no questions asked end to whatever the two of you are doing. Words like "stop", "no", "don't do that" are not to be used as they might be part of the script and should not have a double meaning.

Guitarist - dominance with some physical energy is your best bet here. Wrestling, a bit of pinning down onto the bed, using language like "you will" instead of "do you want to?" or "do you like?", being commanding, spanking is done lightly but repeatedly just enough to make pink and the slightest bit of sting after a while, hand in the hair and being demanding.

The thing to be careful about is that this might be the beginning of a descent into true S&M - so go lightly and play this way infrequently. The inexperienced should not be quick to go there as you can do very real harm.

In exchange you can also try to get her to appreciate the subtleties of sex by doing more Body Worship.

Your girlfriend seems to want you to be more dominant and self-assured. I may be wrong, but perhaps this is a reflection of her feelings towards your relationship in general and this is her way of asking you to take greater control and be more decisive in certain situations.

For us women, a confident male is very much a turn-on and maybe this is something you need to discuss with her to improve your relationship in general.

For what it's worth, I love being dominated during lovemaking. "Rough play" is an integral part of our sexual relationship, but it only works because my husband is naturally confident and self-assured (but definitely not arrogant or cocky!)

Best of luck!

Try "Rumpelstiltskin" for a safe word. Works for me anyway....

By the way, interesting story analconvert.

Whereas I dominate dominant men - it is much more fun that way! Submissive men are too easy!

Trying to dominate while being dominated is orgasmalicious lol

On occasion we will hear about a girl who has a rape fantasy, yet it really isn't as acceptable for a guy to have a raping fantasy. I knew a relationship that nearly ended because the guy brought up the role-playing idea, his girlfriend was disgusted.

If she was disgusted, then it wasn't meant to happen.

It's all about the illusion of force.

Pretty much everything I do has been said:

Wrestle, pin her down, light bites, put your hand through her hair, or if she doesn't mind, very lightly pull on her hair. Rest your hand around her neck - DO NOT SQUEEZE, AT ALL, but just leave it there.

Let her struggle, then pin her again.

It's all good fun - just have good communication, and a safety word is a must.

Mine is "Water"