So my best friend and i had sex the other night. afterShe told me she really enjoyed it but she felt like a could have been more dominant and like i was holding back. Now i love the idea of overpowering her. I like to bite and be rough but i am worried about hurting her cuz she is 4' 10'' and weighs 93 pounds. Im 6 1 175 so i am a little scared yet oddly turned on. Anyways. any advice on how to be more dominant or get over my fear of bitting her too hard or being too rough. She says she can handle it but i am just worrie cuz i tend to forget my own strength.
Wed, 01/28/2009 - 07:34
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Being more dominant
I have a similar problem too Ducy, not so much because of extremes of height or anything, just in general.
I suppose being a bit more forceful, gripping her tightly without crushing her, moving her into position rather but being careful not to throw her around left, right and centre.
I don't know about the dominant thing, but every small woman I have ever been with really liked to be on the receiving end of vigorous aggressive sex. Also the taller and larger women I have been with craved to be on the receiving end of vigorous aggressive sex. Maybe I wasn't paying attention, but I believe most of the mid-sized women I have been with were fanatics about being on the receiving end of vigorous aggressive sex.
Women enjoy tender romantic lovemaking, but for the most part I think they enjoy vigorous aggressive sex at least some of the time.
Lol i don't doubt that most woman like aggressive sex. I just am worried about hurting her. Like bitting too hard or being too rough. I guess the title should be asking about how to get over my fear of hurting her
Make a safe word.
If you're being too rough then she can let you know.
Although she's small, she's probably capable of doing that, you know?
I have never known a women who didn't make it known if things got too intense, too hard or too rough.
I haven't either. I was being facetious.
I guess your friend stopped ignoring the obvious? :) I'm not as small as her, but I don't think there's too much for you to worry about. If someone bit me too hard I would say "ow!" I can't really think of how you could be too rough unless you were squeezing a particular body part really hard or something along those lines. But having a safe word might make you feel a little more comfortable.
just be agressive. grab her hair, sqeeze her breasts and be generally forceful
You actually don't have to be rough or forceful or anything of the kind to be dominant.
Look at me. I dominate dominant men and they are all much bigger than I am. They could snap me like a twig. Yes, they really are dominant - esp with other women. But with me - they are good teddybears and do as they are told. The only 'punishment' I mete out is - I ignore them if they do not comply.
It is called "force of personality"
You must think of yourself as Dominant. You must believe that YOUR wishes are their commands and act accordingly. You do as you wish and they must comply or be gone.
If you BELIEVE it, so will they.
Do not ask - calmly tell. Never raise your voice. Never lose your temper. Never accept anything but respect from your submissive. Yes, that is the correct term. Either they accept it or they can take themselves home with their desires unslaked. Never be indecisive. You set the schedule and plan the scenario.
You do not demand their submission, you invite and then permit them to submit to you of their own free will. They get nothing from you without that submission.
It is a most elegant system. No special equipment required. Not undo exertion on your part. And you can be as loving as you care to be - or not.
And it is very, very effective. *a most evil grin*
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;233277]You actually don't have to be rough or forceful or anything of the kind to be dominant.
Look at me. I dominate dominant men and they are all much bigger than I am. They could snap me like a twig. *a most evil grin*[/QUOTE]
i never said u had to be forceful. but it is what a lot of girls like. my fiancee loves when i hold her down and agressivly force her to take it. it ties into the whole rape fantasy on her end. also she is pretty strong and could take me if she wanted too.:rolleyes: lol
Then for a change I suggest you ask her to take you.
lol i have but she enjoys being dominated too much.
Perhaps because she has never tried being dominant herself?
its true she is not very dominant. but its ok. we have a whole list of stuff we made together of things we want to try so we are busy and having fun! and i love her so i enjoy pleasing her more than being pleased. lol not that i dont get pleased however! (wink, wink)