Loud sex rocks!!!

Hmmmm...I couldn't imagine trying to quiet myself down anymore than I could imagine trying to make myself louder. If it's not you, don't do it. I mean, if you want to try, go ahead, maybe you'll feel a bigger release...who knows. But it seems to me that if that's what you "felt" when you were going through it, then you would already be doing it. I'm relatively quiet until I start to cum. Even then, it really depends on the orgasm as to how loud I get.

I'm personally not a load person. Every now and then you might here a quiet "oh god" or "god that feels good" out of me, but other than that, I'm quiet. Even when I have an orgasm, I'm still quiet.
My guy however loves to grunt and groan and moan all during it and I love the noises he makes when he's cumming. Hearing him do all that turns me on.

The last time we were together he didn't even know I came because I was so quiet about it. We joked about as well and I made fun of him for all the little noises he makes.

He would love it if I was a little more vocal about it but it's just not who I am.
I think in a way it's more natural to some than to others but I also think that over time you could train yourself to be a little more vocal.
So, anyways, if you want to work at it, work at it. If you'd just rather remain less vocal, then so be it. There's no harm either way.

I feel so shy and embarrased in the bedroom, I just cant be vocal. Sometimes when I get close to orgasm I even feel like I'm breathing to loud. I would like to feel more comfortable with it but I cant-Its not like my guy is super loud either, its those quiet moans and longful humming that turns me on about him. I think if I would be louder he would too, I just don't know how to do that. Advice would be appreciated.

girlysexnerd,

My wife is pretty vocal at times. As a matter of fact I will still joke with her and say that I can't hear out of one ear due to her screams on our wedding night.

In the beginning, she wasn't as loud and I think she was trying to hide it. The first couple of times that she got loud I think she was embarrassed. I told her that she shouldn't be embarrassed and that any feedback that I got seemed like a compliment to me (even if it was incoherent animal like noises LOL). A few times we have had conversation about her loudness and I tell her that I always thought that all the loud screaming in the Porno movies was faked, but now I'm not so sure! After a particular loud session I'll sometimes joke with her and say that she should audition to do the voice overs for the pornos.

She now doesn't try to subdue the loudness and I think that she enjoys the sex more because of it.

I like it too, as it makes me feel good that she's enjoying it so much that she's having that reaction. I myself am not very loud, but when she gets vocal I do find myself joining in a bit.

I wouldn't expect your partner to become as loud as a woman can be though. If he's not, that doesn't mean he isn't enjoying it just as much. Keep in mind that the male partner is usually more in control as far as speed, angle, depth, etc..so we are kind of already expecting what's next (since we have to make a concsious decision before it will happen). The female however is getting a surprise constantly and doesn't really know what will be coming next. I think that is the main reason that women tend to give a lot more vocal indication of pleasure. They are somewhat overwhelmed with the experience and lose control enough that (if they are comfortable with it) the loud noises just come out.

Just try to remember that there is no reason to hide or subdue anything that comes naturally. If you want to scream or shreek, why not? Let yourself go. Enjoy the moment and have FUN!