the first time might have been unintentional but if he's doing this repeatedly then that's just not nice and he's getting his thrills by seeing you choke and/or gag. he's not doing this because he loves you and finds it erotic. It's a sexually aggressive tactic. Imagine how he might feel if you bit his cock and then laughed about it saying you were only playing and didn't mean anything by it, then did that again and again knowing he didn't like it.

your best bet is to let him know that it's not ok and that if continues to play that way, then you'll just quit giving him head. He'll probably laugh it off, but stick to your guns for a few weeks and he'll get the message loud and clear

Hate to say it, but I your husband is an asshole.

Unless you're asking for it, he shouldn't be doing that.

You didn't marry an asshole (at least not that kind of asshole), so let him know and tell him to stop. If he doesn't he should have a fight on his hands.

Just my 2 cents on the matter, but I think the situation speaks for itself.

Extremely poor manners on his part. I'd strongly encourage you to decline giving him any fellatio until he sees your point and will more properly behave himself.

some women ask for that to be done, so if you haven't voiced your problem with this then how does he know you don't like it? if you tell him you don't like it then he still does it, that is when there is a problem.

Wetsuit says it best with his first line. If a woman does not ask for this, it should not be done. That is one reason we have teeth!

Sorry brandye but all I can think is OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bassgirl, what we consider (un)acceptable may differ each person. What matters is; how do you feel? I think that by posting you show how you know his behavior towards you is not right.

I agree that no man should do this to a woman, unless she's asked for it or he's asked her -prior!!!- and she likes to comply. For one logical reason; because she can't speak the moment he does it. In the case he does it unasked, expect her fury (or indeed: her teeth to speak for her :rolleyes:). Though personally; I would try not to hurt him, assuming he's just making a big mistake. If he sincerely apologizes, I would forgive him. Once.

Back to you, dear Bassgirl. I'm assuming you've made it clear to him that you didn't like it, is that right? Does this mean that even though he knows you don't like it, he still does it again and again?! And even laughs about it!?!? :eek:

If that's true, then personally; this would be one of the deadlines I draw in a relationship. I apologize if this comes down as very harsh. If you read other posts of me, you will see I'm usually rather forgiving and last to say things like this. But in my opinion such behavior exceeds "not loving", "not nice" or "poor manners", I'd even call it more unacceptable than simply rude. This is not about gagging, it's about forcing a sexual act. To me; such behavior equals misuse of my body, abuse of my trust in him, disrespect to my feelings and seriously insulting the integrity of our relationship. If he were my husband, I would make it damn clear there is no joking or game in doing this to me. That if he EVER does that to me again, he should consider the divorce-papers signed.

I'm with RR on this, it's not funny nor is it respectfull. Your husband sounds like another porn educated asshole. It takes all kinds to make a world and I guess that there are some women who actually like that kind of treatment but it wouldn't be so "funny" for your husband if you liked it. Whether you've talked to him about it before or not, I'd guess that he already knows that you don't like it and that adds to the "funny" factor as well as the creepy, exploitative and dominace factor of the aggression. He gets off on forcing his "rather large" member down your throat and watching you gag and suffer.
I've trained my husband well and he very well knows what the limits are. You need to clearly and without hesitation tell your husband that you no longer enjoy offering him oral sex and the thought of his "rather large" penis in your mouth disgusts you to the point that you are removing it from the sexual menu until he's willing to make it more enjoyable for you then list what your demands are. If he wants oral sex, he will meet your demands and stay within your limits and if he fails, bite him HARD and say "I'm only playing, I don't mean anything by it-I think it's "funny"!!!!! He'll get the message loud and clear!!!!!

has he stopped?

I'm sure the girls in porn videos know to expect it and probably get paid extra for it, but you're neither. take oral sex off the menu completely for a while

Hes a jerk for it. Does it turn me on when my partners gag? A slight bit, but Im not going to force a woman to choke. I did have 1 girlfriend who loved when she would choke and I would "force her". It ended with pan dulce all over my lap and sheets..

Never did that again with anyone...even if they ask ahah

Agree with my sisters..take control and tell him what you dont want and to stop before he can be aggressive to any other situations you will have in the future..

I have a question for you..

Why AREN'T you immediately stopping and walking away?

That's all you have to do, really. Just stop, walk away and DON'T come back.

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[quote=evilevilkitten;274118]i have a question for you..

why aren't you immediately stopping and walking away?

that's all you have to do, really. Just stop, walk away and don't come back.

.[/quote]

agreed!!:d