My other half convinced me to do the whole anal sex thing a little while ago and because it was something that he wanted and im always up for trying something new, I did it. However, now i have asked him to do the dominant thing with me and take control and that, but he wont do it, he says it would feel weird. How could i convince him at least try it a little bit??
Please and thanks for the help everyone! xx:)
Wed, 06/06/2007 - 16:23
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Being Dominated??
I doubt you can convince him, either someone is up for it or not. You probably need some insight from Evilevilkitten on this one, she is the Dom here.
Don't settle for a Prufrock life style! Force the moment to its crisis!
Recently someone here made a thread about what she was intending to do for her boyfriend's birthday (or their anniversary, or something along those lines). She bought some "adventerous" clothing online and fixed up their room with candles and the like.
Here's the link:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/21663-do_you_think_boyfrien...
If that can't bring the man out of him, who knows...
Often there is anxiety from males to exlore the "dominant" role due to fear that they may hurt, frighten or shock their partner.
Society demands of us guys to be gentleman (although very few are), gentle with the "fairer" sex, compasionate, considerate etc etc etc, which is in my opinion why alot of woman would like some degree of dominance from their partner at times.
You need to talk to him, so he understands that by being dominant (within set and agreeable parameters) he is not going to be disrespectful to you as a woman and it is not "anti society norms".
Talk and temptation.......thats what I advise!!
He already has considered it. He's also tried it a little bit. Anal sex is a dominant sex act. Been there; done that. The desire to control is in him or it isn't. He's reluctant to go further and you should NOT push it. Most men seek to explore initmacy without dominance. I suggest you go there first. Here's a possible scenario you can try.
It is my own original technique called stroking the bones. There's nothing light and tantalizing here. Now it is just controlled masculine strength and ardor as you with heavy hands ignore the usual erogenous zones and instead focus on the bones in my body. Sliding down the arms, across the shoulders, along the ribs, around the shoulder blades. Your geased hands holding and moving me as you exerting all of your strength. Then the spine from the back of the skull slowly down all of the way to my coccyx. Oh that feels so overwhelming! Again and again! Aah!! Then the pelvis and the down the legs. I had been kneeling at the edge of the bed, now I rotate to face you as you kneel there and wrap myself around you - totally ignited. On hand firmly holding me to you as your mouth seeks my breast and your other hand finds my G-Spot again.
That should give you both something to do without going completely into the D/s thing.