I broke up with a girl years ago (numerous years ago), and I haven't had sex with or messed around with another girl since her. At first I was heart broken and didn't care, but over time I got over her but then couldn't get out of my rut. I need to get out of this nonsexual rut badly. I'm a very sexual guy, so not being able to release/use that energy has me thinking about sexual things a lot.

I'm a nice guy and always seem to meet a girl randomly, but ends up as only friends and nothing more. What should I do to get out of this rut? I was thinking, should I just go ahead and pay for it just to get out the rut? I know some people think of paying as no bigger and others do, but what would be best way of getting out my very long rut? I'm not a super model, but I think I am average looking, and I had no problem finding a girlfriend when I was younger, but in the real world it's a little harder. I have even tried the bar scene and I have met two girls that way but one just wanted to cuddle and the other one just wanted to receive but nothing in return, which is ok with me but it would be nice to end my streak.