yo! 
i got a problem!
my girlfriend of just over two weeks went down on me tonight and it was my first time...she's given alot of head
it felt realy good but i didnt come...after a while i told her i wasnt going to and she just stopped
she said it's the first time thats ever happened to her and seemed embarrassed
i told her it was chill and that i realy enjoyed it...but i honestly felt like a tool, and im kinda like "w.t.f." right now
soooo...any advice from anyone on what i should say to her or what i should do to make it so that doesnt happen again, if possible 
thx, nat
Uhhh... not all guys can reach their climax during oral sex, i have that issue... or at least it ((usually)) takes forever for me to get anywhere near my orgasm.... soo don't sweat it...
Not entirely the same situation, but a recent ex of mine gave me a handjob (first ever
) while we were making out. At first i was feeling a bit nervous about reaching orgasm, but i just relaxed and enjoyed it and finished within 5 or so minutes.
Lay back and enjoy it i guess, best advice i can give myself.
yep! could have def been a factor.
Thats what i was thinking.....
were both 17 and im like a 1/2 year older then her
im not as worried because i saw her again tonight and had fun with her and everything seemed fine
i am still sorta weirded out tho, why do some guys cum when they get head and why wont i?
i kinda feel like it wasnt enough for me even though it felt good
What I think, is that often times, guys can feel like they are inconveniencing their partner during oral sex, and therefore, may want to try to orgasm quickly. And many out there know what happens when you try to orgasm...it doesnt happen!
Also, since this was your first time, you may have been a little overwhelmed. That happens as well. You are so caught up in what is going on, that you really aren't having erotic thoughts (usually a must for folks to orgasm).
As a survival instinct, your body is tuned to only have sexual stimulus reactions (like orgasm) when it feels safe. Being uncomfortable, nervous, or disoriented counter-acts sexual reactions, and this can easily be the case during a first oral sex experience. This is also why some men have erection problems the first time they have sex.
In conclusion, just relax, and try again if you feel comfortable with the situation. Let her know that it is not her job to make you orgasm, like the above poster said. Her worrying about it is only going to make you worry about it, thus making it continue. Make sure she knows that, even if you don't orgasm, it still feels wonderful, and thank her. This will make her feel more comfortable with you not orgasming, thus making you feel more comfortable. It will happen, trust me
EDIT: Also, do you feel completely physically comfortable with her? After two weeks, you may still not be that comfortable with her presence to be that intimate, particularly if you are new to sex. If you think this may be it, try to just continue making-out, and doing other, less-intimate forms of foreplay until you feel more comfortable with her.
How old are you both?
This is something that is very common. A lot of guys can't cum when they first start getting head, a lot of guys can't cum from oral sex at all! It is not her fault, assure her that it is not her responsibility to make you cum. Just remember to relax, no one is doing a "job" is it supposed to be a fun thing.
-Mariah
thanks for the input
i dont think nervousness was my problem because i realy know this girl we've been pretty close even before we started dating
i didnt think of this when i posted but a friend of mine mentioned that it might have been a factor- i was stoned while she was going down on me
he said that smoking reefer before fooling around can affect how long it takes you to orgasm...is that true?