> Well what is difference between orgasm and ejaculating for men. I think we get a orgasm when we ejaculate ? Tell me is it correct ?

The two events are separate yet usually occur within a split second of each other. The orgasm happens first and the ejaculation of semen quickly follows. The movement of semen down the urethra along with muscle contractions intensifies the pleasure of an orgasm.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm

It is rare although sometimes possible to have an orgasm without an ejaculation or vice versa.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm#Male_multiple_orgasms

...and
http://www.jackinworld.com/library/science/physorg.html

> I just want to ask that what is average time for a man to ejaculate after Inserting his peni because i can perform foreplay for more than a hour but when ever i insert in it i just ejacuate just after 2 or 3 mintues.

This is quite the average, so do not think you are abnormal or handicapped in some manner. You do not suffer from a common condition known as Premature Ejaculation because this happens generally within the first minute--like upon entering, upon the first or second return stroke, etc. Any time a man climaxes after the first minute or so then you can call it an untimely event. The fix for both are the same. Brandye champions the "squeeze technique" that you can GOOGLE and learn more about; however for both foreplay and intercourse, I recommend that the guy learn about his body and what sensations are associated with certain benchmarks as he climbs up his arousal curve to an orgasm. To do this you and your wife have to do an exercise that will train you and your (conscious) brain. The exercise is simple and can be fun and will take several sessions over a couple of weeks.

> I can't control for longer time what should i do ?

Please do an advanced search using my name and the key word PE or Premature Ejaculation and in one of the posts that pop up you will find it described in detail.

You should also understand that most women report that if intercourse lasts longer than about ten minutes they become tired, bored, and, sore. Hint..hint.

That said, of course you can learn to prolong your ejaculation by learning to recognize those sensations associated with the point in your arousal when you are about to ejaculate yet can still maintain control. This is good for foreplay, oral stimulation, and after all these, when you want to move around and get into position, also.

Another strategy that the two of you can work into your love making is for you to ejaculate before beginning intercourse. You can do this earlier, she can help you do this as part of your love making, and if so, you might also help her to have one or more, too. This will help with your control.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

> > when ever i insert in it i just ejacuate just after 2 or 3 mintues. I can't control for longer time what should i do ?

> If i ejaculate before beginning of intercourse then it may be painfull to get erection in short time ?

I would not be suggesting having an orgasm prior to engaging in intercourse if this would make having additional erections painful. Most guys can have multiple orgasms if you space them out between about 10 and 30 minutes depending upon your personal recovery time. Give this a try.

Also, it is not uncommon for a guy to loose an erection once in a while for whatever reason when making out. If or when this happens it is not the end of the world, just invite your partner to take matters into her own hands and rebuild it. What fun this can be. So, no, none of this should be physically painful.

erhm just a short reply. it depends how hard i am trying to ejucalate but i think it surely lasts about 7-10 minutes but it can go on to.. 25 minutes, it also depends if i've done it recently or not, if i havent done it for a week i can go very long

> it also depends if i've done it recently or not, if i havent done it for a week i can go very long

You can or cannot? Usually when a guy abstains for several days, his staying powers are minimal at best.

[QUOTE=I_need_advice;162886]erhm just a short reply. it depends how hard i am trying to ejucalate but i think it surely lasts about 7-10 minutes but it can go on to.. 25 minutes, it also depends if i've done it recently or not, if i havent done it for a week i can go very long[/QUOTE]

Sounds similar to me. One thing I'll do, if I feel i'm getting close and I/she wants to go longer, is to switch positions. This usually breaks the rythem enough that it's almost like starting over. Also I usually change speed and depth of strokes. Just seems to come naturally to me. Guess all those years of practice. LOL BTW, can't say I can remember ever experianceing orgasm without the ejaculation. Suppose it could be possible though.

i havent yet orgasmed without ejaculatin, dunno how it would be done, so if anyones got any ideas on how to do this... am all ears.

This problem is something which I think plays in the mind of all those who have been newly married, even I thought the same when I saw that I was ejaculating within a span of 2/3 minutes. I guess people learn this with time and as the days will pass you will see that you will learn to exercise better control over the entire thing. For instance when I feel that I am going to come then I stop the act for a few seconds and restart, this helps me to continue for few more minutes. Likewise I am sure you will be able to innovate new ways to delay the ejaculation with time. All the best to you.