yeah good point but my last gf got tested after we had sex so i was clean then but just to be sure i will go again..... std's the silent epidemic......
Should sleep with people you don't trust.... there are a lot of reasons for this, most importantly STDs.... and virgins can have STDs.....
Have you been to the clinic with her to get yourselves checked out before you take things further? I reccommned doing this with EVERY partner you have.... It only takes one time to get stuck with a disease for the rest of your life, and I don't imagine it being a fun conversation to bring up with potential partners...
ive already gown down on her and fingered her.... so wateva it is i mite already have it but... i mite take her to doctors to get checked just in case....
you would be going to the doctor to BOTH get checked... Sex is a 2 way street, start treating it that way.
You have had sexual experience with a number of different partners, so you carry risk as well....
You wouldn't run into a field that may have land mines, so don't jump into eating her out until you know its relatively safe to do so....
If people weren't in such a rush to get it on, the amount of people who carry stds would me much smaller. Beleive me when I tell you, many of those people got an std from less experience then you have, and they would do anything to go back in time and take things slower.
Its partially too late for those people, but not neccessarily to late for you... Use the head on your shoulders before you pass control on to the other head...
i think thats why i clicked so well with my first.. me and her get on so good, and i happy that i ever got to be with her.... im starting to think this chick im with at the moment mite even be playing me.....
it sucks aye...... damm i really like her tho... so confused..... girls, why do you do this.... i just dont wanna wait too long, hopefully she cares enough about me to wait and see.....
If I can through in some words of encouragement, when you finally get your concerns off your shoulders by being with someone who loves you for who you are, you will realize sex is way different from what you think it is...
Not to say anamalistic emotionless sex is bad, just that having a deep connection allows you to enjoy everything on much deeper levels
2: you want to trust her before she sees your dick
2: she won't trust you until after she gets your dick...
Like everyone keeps saying, this girl seems to have it backwards... Rather then continuing in her nonsense, tell her you would rather do it gradually, and if she doesn't want that, then tough cookies...
Its the only way you can get through it with a low chance of having your secret exposed....
its pretty much like u just said, she is very strange girl, she wants to be my friend and have sexual relations but no other relations i can understand it.... but i thought she mite change her mind after sex, that way it brings us al little closer...
i have asked her since she offered me sex, i said to her "i want to be closer to you, i want to get to know u a little better and see you more" and she said "i do too but i dont want to be as close as u want me to be".....
But do you's think i should go for sex or turn her down... i really like this girl, but she isnt like a normal female, but u know us guys we will probably never figure out the female mind, but we will keep trying...... so what do you people think?
no.
then she's definetly the one thats bass ackwards
i mean it would be different if she was sexually active and just looking for a good time to turn to you but to say i dont want to date you but i want you to be my first??
to me it just doesn't make sense.
its like saying you are special enough to take my virginity but not enough to date?!?
i dont get it... maybe im just getting too old lol
have you asked her to date since she made this revelation of wanting you to be her first?
just come out and ask her why she doesn't want to date you but wants to be your friend and have sex w/ you?
isn't that almost the same thing?
i mean dating usually leads to friendship and sex eventually, if it all works out.
just talk w/ her. tell her how much you like her and that you dont want things w/ her to be just a one night fling.
you all are missing my point,
1. the girls that i have been with all know my friends, then because they are their friends too the always ask how it went and the GIRL not me the girl tells them how it went, so im not sayin anything so stop saying im prasing myself..... ive only hooked up with 3 other girls that have been sex parters, and my friends dont know them.... the one sex-girlfriend who bad mouthed me to her friends, was also in our friends circle so we were all best mates at the beggining.... then my friends hoook her and me up then after we broke up they asked her wat happen and thats wen the shit started......
2. the girl i am with now is my best friend but ive already asked her out on a date she declined, then she offered me to be her first, do you understand wat i mean now about sex to get into a relationship.... it might bring us closer.....
macs right
playing up your being a ladys man will only make things worse if for some reason some one does start to say you aren't well endowed or whatever.
i also dont quite understand the fact of sleeping w/ this chick THEN moving on to dating?!?
if she likes you now, then start dating her and move on from there.
if shes so chaste then why is she willing to give up her virginity to a guy whos just a f*ck buddy so to speak and not someone who she loves.
proving to someone your good in bed isn't how you show someone you are deserving of their company.
just be yourself. apparently she already likes you so why not continue to be friends and then move on to dating and then sex.
hank was right, you are definetly going at this situation bass ackwards.
Dude, I've never heard so much contradiction and double standards come out of one dude's mouth... The amount of negative Karma floating around you must be insane!!
You talk freely about the girls you hook up with, but don't want girls to talk about you... It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that your secret will get out, as you are asking for it. The fact that you play yourself up to be a sexual guru is only going to make the humiliation that much worse, the best part is that you deserve it!!
You've trampled a person's reputation to protect your little skeleton... If there is one thing I can't stand in this world, its selfish people who are willing to hurt other people to do better for themselves. Do you feel proud of this? In your description, it seems you don't have the slightest bit of remorse....
Now, you have what sounds like a sweet girl, and your biggest concern is that she doesn't run her mouth... You want to date her, and you think being her first will help you accomplish that.... WHAT WORLD ARE YOU LIVING IN? Open up to the girl, drop your act, be true... You'll find being true is ten times more rewarding then being deemed a playa by your dude friends.
If she holds her virginity highly, and you respect her, what the hell are you doing trying to get in her pants before you start dating her.... She wants to share that moment with someone who cares about her, not someone who can only think about what his friends will think if word gets out that he is a half man...
You give men a bad name. I hope you step back and take a good look at your life before you become a plague in another girl's life.
First off- Keep your mouth shut. Bragging afterwards will not endear you to the ladies. You'll find yourself in more situations where the girl talks trash about the experience if you gossip about it with your friends.
Secondly- Date first, then think about sex. "(i really really like this girl and want her so badly, i want to date her eventually...) " Thats bass ackwards- you really need to be friends first.
Last- and least important- The size of your member doesn't matter if she really wants you to be her first. She picked you, not your cock, to be her first. A thinner one probably works to her benefit if she's really a virgin.
i didnt tell neone about my second which was my "first" sex girlfriend, for the reason of i didnt neone to know, she was the only one to talk about it to my friends so i wasnt bragging...
and me and my csp are best friends, but i want to take it further but i think sex would bring me and her closer to dating... she isnt the type of girl to date lots of guys shes gone out with 3 and "hooked up" with lots more... so to date her i have to prove myself to her, which i do, well at least i try my hardest.....
how thin is it? maybe its not as thin as u think
nevermind considering it has been TWO years from the latest post.
learn how to use it
yeah i think this chick is just trying to play you
i wouldn't waste my time
but thats just me
as for my other problem wat do i do about that? my penis being to thin.... is there anything at all i can do?
you could live with it?
yeah good point but my last gf got tested after we had sex so i was clean then but just to be sure i will go again..... std's the silent epidemic......
Should sleep with people you don't trust.... there are a lot of reasons for this, most importantly STDs.... and virgins can have STDs.....
Have you been to the clinic with her to get yourselves checked out before you take things further? I reccommned doing this with EVERY partner you have.... It only takes one time to get stuck with a disease for the rest of your life, and I don't imagine it being a fun conversation to bring up with potential partners...
ive already gown down on her and fingered her.... so wateva it is i mite already have it but... i mite take her to doctors to get checked just in case....
LOL,
you would be going to the doctor to BOTH get checked... Sex is a 2 way street, start treating it that way.
You have had sexual experience with a number of different partners, so you carry risk as well....
You wouldn't run into a field that may have land mines, so don't jump into eating her out until you know its relatively safe to do so....
If people weren't in such a rush to get it on, the amount of people who carry stds would me much smaller. Beleive me when I tell you, many of those people got an std from less experience then you have, and they would do anything to go back in time and take things slower.
Its partially too late for those people, but not neccessarily to late for you... Use the head on your shoulders before you pass control on to the other head...
i think thats why i clicked so well with my first.. me and her get on so good, and i happy that i ever got to be with her.... im starting to think this chick im with at the moment mite even be playing me.....
it sucks aye...... damm i really like her tho... so confused..... girls, why do you do this.... i just dont wanna wait too long, hopefully she cares enough about me to wait and see.....
If I can through in some words of encouragement, when you finally get your concerns off your shoulders by being with someone who loves you for who you are, you will realize sex is way different from what you think it is...
Not to say anamalistic emotionless sex is bad, just that having a deep connection allows you to enjoy everything on much deeper levels
You are in a catch 22...
2: you want to trust her before she sees your dick
2: she won't trust you until after she gets your dick...
Like everyone keeps saying, this girl seems to have it backwards... Rather then continuing in her nonsense, tell her you would rather do it gradually, and if she doesn't want that, then tough cookies...
Its the only way you can get through it with a low chance of having your secret exposed....
its pretty much like u just said, she is very strange girl, she wants to be my friend and have sexual relations but no other relations i can understand it.... but i thought she mite change her mind after sex, that way it brings us al little closer...
i have asked her since she offered me sex, i said to her "i want to be closer to you, i want to get to know u a little better and see you more" and she said "i do too but i dont want to be as close as u want me to be".....
But do you's think i should go for sex or turn her down... i really like this girl, but she isnt like a normal female, but u know us guys we will probably never figure out the female mind, but we will keep trying...... so what do you people think?
no.
then she's definetly the one thats bass ackwards
i mean it would be different if she was sexually active and just looking for a good time to turn to you but to say i dont want to date you but i want you to be my first??
to me it just doesn't make sense.
its like saying you are special enough to take my virginity but not enough to date?!?
i dont get it... maybe im just getting too old lol
have you asked her to date since she made this revelation of wanting you to be her first?
just come out and ask her why she doesn't want to date you but wants to be your friend and have sex w/ you?
isn't that almost the same thing?
i mean dating usually leads to friendship and sex eventually, if it all works out.
just talk w/ her. tell her how much you like her and that you dont want things w/ her to be just a one night fling.
you all are missing my point,
1. the girls that i have been with all know my friends, then because they are their friends too the always ask how it went and the GIRL not me the girl tells them how it went, so im not sayin anything so stop saying im prasing myself..... ive only hooked up with 3 other girls that have been sex parters, and my friends dont know them.... the one sex-girlfriend who bad mouthed me to her friends, was also in our friends circle so we were all best mates at the beggining.... then my friends hoook her and me up then after we broke up they asked her wat happen and thats wen the shit started......
2. the girl i am with now is my best friend but ive already asked her out on a date she declined, then she offered me to be her first, do you understand wat i mean now about sex to get into a relationship.... it might bring us closer.....
macs right
playing up your being a ladys man will only make things worse if for some reason some one does start to say you aren't well endowed or whatever.
i also dont quite understand the fact of sleeping w/ this chick THEN moving on to dating?!?
if she likes you now, then start dating her and move on from there.
if shes so chaste then why is she willing to give up her virginity to a guy whos just a f*ck buddy so to speak and not someone who she loves.
proving to someone your good in bed isn't how you show someone you are deserving of their company.
just be yourself. apparently she already likes you so why not continue to be friends and then move on to dating and then sex.
hank was right, you are definetly going at this situation bass ackwards.
Devil,
Dude, I've never heard so much contradiction and double standards come out of one dude's mouth... The amount of negative Karma floating around you must be insane!!
You talk freely about the girls you hook up with, but don't want girls to talk about you... It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that your secret will get out, as you are asking for it. The fact that you play yourself up to be a sexual guru is only going to make the humiliation that much worse, the best part is that you deserve it!!
You've trampled a person's reputation to protect your little skeleton... If there is one thing I can't stand in this world, its selfish people who are willing to hurt other people to do better for themselves. Do you feel proud of this? In your description, it seems you don't have the slightest bit of remorse....
Now, you have what sounds like a sweet girl, and your biggest concern is that she doesn't run her mouth... You want to date her, and you think being her first will help you accomplish that.... WHAT WORLD ARE YOU LIVING IN? Open up to the girl, drop your act, be true... You'll find being true is ten times more rewarding then being deemed a playa by your dude friends.
If she holds her virginity highly, and you respect her, what the hell are you doing trying to get in her pants before you start dating her.... She wants to share that moment with someone who cares about her, not someone who can only think about what his friends will think if word gets out that he is a half man...
You give men a bad name. I hope you step back and take a good look at your life before you become a plague in another girl's life.
First off- Keep your mouth shut. Bragging afterwards will not endear you to the ladies. You'll find yourself in more situations where the girl talks trash about the experience if you gossip about it with your friends.
Secondly- Date first, then think about sex. "(i really really like this girl and want her so badly, i want to date her eventually...) " Thats bass ackwards- you really need to be friends first.
Last- and least important- The size of your member doesn't matter if she really wants you to be her first. She picked you, not your cock, to be her first. A thinner one probably works to her benefit if she's really a virgin.
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i didnt tell neone about my second which was my "first" sex girlfriend, for the reason of i didnt neone to know, she was the only one to talk about it to my friends so i wasnt bragging...
and me and my csp are best friends, but i want to take it further but i think sex would bring me and her closer to dating... she isnt the type of girl to date lots of guys shes gone out with 3 and "hooked up" with lots more... so to date her i have to prove myself to her, which i do, well at least i try my hardest.....