There are many threads on penis size in other forums here on this Board. Mostly for younger men and usually teens. I just last week posted a description of micro-phallus (or micro-penis). It included the statement that the smallest documented penis in medical history to become a father was less than an inch. I also stated a current patient claims her husband is three and a half inches, erect, and they have a satisfactory sex life. If you look around penis size on medical boards you will find that most fall between five and seven inches.

Now, what is wrong is that your mother's hypothalmus failed to send some signals to you (as a foetus) to start producing testosterone. There is a particular part of pregnancy when this is critical in penis development. The malfunction seems to be related to nutrients during pregnancy. That missed, the thing to do is learn to live with it. This, you seem not to have done. At age fifty, you may wish to get some help in working this out for yourself.

As with most women, every (and there have been many) penis I have experienced has been within that range of five to seven inches. Some have felt huge; some have felt tiny. The fact is, they were not actually that different! The ones I do NOT like are the bar rigid, thick ones that make me feel impaled. Given a choice of adding a smaller one to my experience and a larger one, I would prefer a confident small one to a bragging big one. If the guy is orally competent, I am happy because I rarely achieve orgasm from thrusting.

Given the way we diagnose micro-penis, you are borderline. You must remember that in our culture (Yanks and Scots are not that different) size is a subject that seems important when discussing penis and breasts. Any woman who would discuss preferred penis size in public has an audience that demands she want bigger. Same for porn - big penis, big breasts, positions that show ejaculation. It is demeaning to both men and women.

I hope you will find a higher level of maturity and accuracy of information on this Board than on most sex info Boards. And there will be others join in to continue this discussion.

Hello, Alex, welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful insightful as well as how-to articles. Please read the first article at the top of the two-page list:

For Boys Only- A Matter of Size (Regarding your penis)

Written primarily for the young post pubescent boy, the information in the article is most relevant in your case.

[QUOTE=AlexG;235837]"I am in my 50's and have a small penis. Its about 2" soft and 4" hard. It has affected me psychologically from being quite young. At school I hated showers. Nowadays I cannot use public urinals, hate being in swimming trunks and changing rooms.

[COLOR="blue">There are penises and there are penises, they come in a variety of sizes and styles and inclinations. Some are cylindrical, others are oblong, some have smooth shafts, others have lots of protruding veins showing. Most all bend in one direction or another, some moreso than others. Some have foreskins, others do not. Some have round-shaped glans, others have tapered shapes. Of those with foreskins, some retract others not so much. Some partially cover the glans, some completely cover the glans, others have a foreskin that extends way out in front of the Meatus {tip) with a straw-like protrusion. My point, Alex, is that there is a wide range in what is considered "normal" and this matter is discussed in the article, above. Regardless, I can categorically state that during my years here, I've heard from guys worried and concerned about each one of these conditions.

At age fifty, you may or many not be experiencing spontaneous erections. A lot of us including me would be more uncomfortable displaying the bulge of an erection and scrotum through the material of our swim wear, especially if they are form fitting bikini types rather than trunks!

Now, here is something I bet you have not considered: A penis normally shrinks to perhaps one half inch when cold. This means that when you step out of a swimming pool, lake, river, or other body of cool water, your penis will be very very tiny! This is normal physiology. When your body warms up, a flaccid penis can be any length between this and what we consider as a partial erection. And, what's more, the length of a man's penis is always in a constant state of flux, waxing and waning many times throughout the day.

Being concerned about the length of an erection is one thing; being concerned about your flaccid length when this is constantly changing is not realistic nor healthy.

I can understand the dislike of public showers especially as a teen because kids do often look at one another and make comparisons. I'll give you that; however, the rest of your arguments seem to be paranoia run wild.

Older more mature people do not focus on each other's genitals when they chance to see someone else nude. People do not stare at a person to their side while the two, or three of them are urinating in a public restroom. Let's say one did stare just for the sake of argument; so what? How can he know if that man's penis is flaccid or partially erect by how far out of his fly it protrudes? If you are uncomfortable standing at a urinal, just walk into a stall and close the door! [/COLOR]

I feel inadequate and inferior to other men. I have no self confidence with women. I feel people will somehow 'know' just by looking at me. I never felt comfortable at work in meetings and also suffer from bad blushing.

[COLOR="blue">What in particular are you so concerned and consumed by that people will "know"? Are you referring to someone knowing that your penis is tiny by somehow discerning this through the obscurity of the material of your pants? Or, are you obsessing about your lack of self confidence and esteem? Confidence with others (women also) comes in big part through practice and interacting with any and all with whom you chance to speak or socialize with. Consider teen boys and girls just beginning to interact with members of the other gender. They will be clumsy, awkward, often saying dumb things, doing stupid things, yet they become better and acquire more skills the more they deal with each other. [/COLOR]

I still feel as bad and when anyone tells me 'its not what you've got its what you do with it' I hate it - no help at all - what do you expect me to say "oh thats OK I'm OK then?!"

[COLOR="blue">I understand. This is why some of us have devoted hours and hours to writing the articles listed in the Index. Pleasing women has more to do with understanding their emotions, how to cater to them; and, learning how to make love on an emotional level than on a physical level. That said, it really does not much matter the size of a man's endowment. Having a penis does not guarantee being a great lover. It really is not about penis size. It is in knowing and understanding how to connect with our partner's emotions and psyche, first and foremost. Studying this aspect of lovemaking is far more important than learning how to go about things physically.
Moreover, the internal vaginal vault is devoid of nerves. Except for the outside and just inside the opening, there are no sensations; therefore, a short tiny penis and a huge one pretty much offer the same sensation and only at the entrance.

You may hate the saying that it is not the size but how you use it, although, this is the truth and the sooner you can let go of your hangups regarding this the sooner you can build self esteem. The sooner you learn how to make love and that there is much more to it than "humping", the sooner you will gain self confidence.
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"Thing is I'm quite normal - I love women and sex. I have always wondered if there were women out there who 'prefer' smaller guys (though I am 6ft 2" by the way!).

[COLOR="blue">Asked and answered, above. Being a great lover has mostly to do with learning to please a woman's emotional needs. Making love is not centered on how well endowed a man is and whether the length of his stroke is 2", 3", 4", 5", 6", 7" or longer, regardless of what you and every teen boy believes is true. When you read the article linked, above, you will learn that much of the world's population is Mongoloid based. As an ethnic grouping, these men tend to have shorter penises. Do you really believe that they obsess about Black men some of whom have huge penises?

I believe your issues concerning any inadequacies you believe you have have more to do with a lack of self esteem and self confidence. I recommend honing your social or people skills. If you work on building these areas of your life, the length of your penis will matter much less, particularly when you find yourself making love to a woman's mind and soul instead of her body.[/COLOR]

All the personal ads and porn indicates women like 'big' guys. Everything I see on the net and in changing rooms reminds me how small I am and I hate it.
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Do not believe everything you see in the movies.

As for looking at other people in changing rooms, ask yourself if they really are staring at you or if you are the only one? Please reflect on what I stated earlier, that a flaccid penis can be any length from a cold wet 1/2" to ~2-3" or so inches. It really is a non issue except for being your insecurity.[/COLOR]

Though I do my best to cover my inadequacy and outwardly appear happy and normal. There is no surgery or treatment I just wondered if anyone suffered like me and if any women could ever be really turned on by a guy like me."

[COLOR="blue">Many post pubescent boys probably do, yet somewhere along the line they get that penises come in different lengths and that those lengths are constantly changing from minute to minute. Your "inadequacy" is not with your penis or your testicles, or with your height, or your this or that, it is routed in self esteem and self confidence. These are mental issues that when addressed and worked on and overcome will make whatever size you or the man next to you are immaterial. [/COLOR]

I mean what's wrong with me (and him)? At least there's one other guy my age who feels that same way I do. I'm terrified that I'm going to be laughed at and be nothing but a laughing stock. The other day I heard some woman interviewed on a radio show saying that she found out some guy she was dealing with had a small penis she would just laugh and tell him to leave. **
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This is her hangup and personal preference, not anybody elses and certainly not yours. More to the point, this is her being small.[/COLOR][/quote]

Continued in Part 2

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I would rather be the biggest jerk in the world with a big penis then sone nice guy with a small one.

[COLOR="blue">Now this statement is just stupid and idiotic. It shows just how much you do not understand about human interactions and relationships. Do you really believe a woman wants an inconsiderate jerk for a mate who is only interested in himself and getting his rocks off at her expense? Do you really believe after reading this and the other articles listed in the Index that having a successful relationship is centered between your legs? You need to understand that what is important is what is centered between your ears, man!

The other day we had a young man who wondered if having his girlfriend cut her hair from the long locks he enjoyed was sufficient reason to break up with her. My reply was "yes!" because if he is that shallow and focused on her physical attributes and appearance then he is certainly not ready to discover her mind and to care about what is really important--the very essence of who she is.

I urge you to go to the Index and read every article listed on those two pages more than once. I believe you will gain a better understanding of what is important in having, building, and maintaining relationships. [/COLOR]

And PLEASE don't tell there's nothing that I can do about it. What good is that going to do me? So I might as well jump in the river then I suppose. Guys with big penises have it made. They have their choice of any woman and have others just begging to be with them[/QUOTE]

I abhor swearing, although in this example I will make an exception:
Your last statement is simply B*** S***! Or in other words: "OH, WOE IS POOR LITTLE ME...."

WORK ON FIXING WHAT IS REALLY SMALL, YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOURSELF. Repairing this will most likely take care of what you think is wrong yet is not. You should get a reality check after reading all the articles, mentioned. If you still need help, I recommend counseling.***

(If I did not believe in what I am telling you, I would not be spending all this time and effort typing and editing the material.) Helping you has much to do with you believing that some of us here actually do know a thing or two about which we speak.

The measure of a man is not in his stature or with the size of his endowment or bank accounts. It is with his character, personality, likes, dislikes, moral values, goals, how he treats others, interacts with others, to name a few traits. Alex, if you want to be a jerk, fine. Few if any women will find you desirable, be you handsome, well endowed or not. Learn how to make love and the sex will pretty much take care of itself.

** BOTTOM LINE:

When a man falls for a woman, he pretty much falls hook, line, and, sinker, including those pieces-parts as yet unseen.
When a woman falls for a man.....

*** Here is your first counseling session (and it is FREE)! Much of modern day psychology has to do with guiding a client's path toward the desired result more so than the ol' "psychoanalyzing" that consumed years and much money.

If you want to fix what ails you, then behave your way to success. In other words, think of you being an actor in a play who has to appear confident and thinks well of himself and socializes with others easily. Whether the actor actually exhibits these traits or not, he accomplishes these tasks by role playing. YOU TOO, can behave your way to success over time by acting the part of a person with these traits. Yes, it will be awkward in the beginning, although, the more you do it the easier it will become. Pretty soon these will become second nature to you. What you will be doing is replacing old scripts with new. What do you have to lose? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And now, as President JFK related in his inaugural address: "Proceed with all possible 'vigah'!"

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;235847]The measure of a man is not in his stature or with the size of his endowment or bank accounts. It is with his character, personality, likes, dislikes, moral values, goals, how he treats others, interacts with others, to name a few traits. Alex, if you want to be a jerk, fine. Few if any women will find you desirable, be you handsome, well endowed or not.[/QUOTE]

I could not agree more.

[QUOTE=dlb;235848]I could not agree more.[/QUOTE]

As a woman, and one who is in the age group which is notorious for not being able to grasp what dancingdoc is saying, to boot, I also feel the need to point out I couldn't agree more.

I've been thinking about your problem all day and it really got to me. I'm right in the "average" range and growing up I was very self conscious. I know now that I had/have an anxiety disorder that caused me to worry about everything to the excess, so I may know a little bit of what you went through. Unfounded or not. The only thing I can tell you is that I focused so hard on doing everything in my power for my partner(s) pleasure that sex always seemed to be a side thought. Most women I have been with including my wife found it much easier to orgasm receiving oral then by having sex. That senario makes penis size a moot point.

I know that these suggestions don't help with the self image problems. I'm not even going to pretend to know what to say about that. But I will say that I really believe that everyone out there has a group of people that are looking for whatever you have. Whatever that may be.

Also, no one should ever compare anything to porn. It's a fantasy world. The women are almost all "enhanced" and the men are chosen from a very small group of the male population.

I don't know it I've said anything that helps, but I just wanted to respond in some way.

It's not the size of the ???? it's how you wiggle the worm (or something like that)...

Anyways, you have a tongue don't you? Use it. Women like it better (as a general rule not an absolute)...

> I got pretty bummed out. So how am I suppose to believe what anyone says on this forum that "size doesn't matter"?

I'm beginning to believe that you cannot; however, if you want to test the validity or accuracy of the replies posted here, consider that there are few disagreements. All you have to do is read the threads that pertain to your concerns and make up your own mind. As a further test, read other replies by people who have been posting for some time and see how their responses in other threads stack up.

Here is my final response on penis size: An erect penis need only be long enough for a woman to grasp.

The flaccid or limp size does not matter because it is in a constant state of flux based on temperature and other factors.

Plus, they'll always been those women who DO believe size matters... just like maybe a guy who wouldn't be w/ a girl smaller than a C cup. Just have to find someone who will like you for you!

I strongly agree with the things every one posted.

Plus when someone does get intimate with someone its not like we ask “Hey what size of penis do you have?”

As for the show on the women laughing at men with a small penis well let me tell you a little something about that. I have a small group of real close girlfriends and we talk about everything. I have notices that if the topic about an ex boyfriend comes up is only about guys they ended up mad at for some reason. In other words they only laugh because they just don’t like them and they know he will be embarrassed if we say thing like haha he has a small thing anyways
I don’t know if you understand what am trying to say.

I had an experience with a boyfriend that had what you call a big penis (I cant really say how long did not measure it) and well sweetheart he did not know what to do with it, I wont get into details an just trying to let u know that it really does not matter on the size. “its not the size of the boat it’s the motion in the ocean” that’s what my girlfriends say

Like they said don’t believe in what you hear in porn and there is always someone out their that likes you for you!

I don’t worry about my boyfriends size I worry about other thing in life because like dancingdoc2 said its about connecting with your partner. Love making and sex are different in my book. Sorry but you don’t just stick a penis in and the girl has an orgasm its more than that and yea um you can always use your tongue.

I have a question for you honestly how many guys do you really believe have a 12” pines?

[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;236637]Plus, they'll always been those women who DO believe size matters... just like maybe a guy who wouldn't be w/ a girl smaller than a C cup. Just have to find someone who will like you for you![/QUOTE]

What a good point....why is it men get blasted for worrying about penis size but women with issues over their breasts get off without ridicule? For $5,000 you can get breast implants, there is no surgery (that is safe and effective) for penis enlargement.

I'm not suggesting that obsessing over penis size is a good idea, but there seems to be a double standard going on here.