i have been married for over 25 yrs but i have no idea what arousal is or what it feels of, or much more along those lines, and apart from my husband informing me if im wet or not i have no idea unless he tells me, so can someone help me out here please? just what is it and what will i actually feel at the time
Sun, 07/20/2008 - 18:15
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arousal? i have no idea what that is or if i ever am
surely someone has something to offer me in the way of help with this please
ok i guess that either non of you know what it is or you just dont want to share the info!!
It's abit hard to describe when it is your aroused, I've always just known. It's like the question women ask "when do you know you've had an orgasm?" you just know.
little more explaining, your question is somewhat vague to me.
ok in what way is the question vague? i dont know what arousal is, and i dont know if i have ever been aroused sexually, so how would i know if and when i am
I think it's similar to hunger, your body kow when it's ready to eat. I think your body know when it's ready for intercourse. It prepares itself thru vaginal wetness and thru other signs I guess.
When I aroused i feel really eager to be touched and like i would do anything to feel my boyfriends penis inside me, it's like a desperate want for it.
ok so what are the signs then i dont know what they are, have heard that it should be wetnes but as i said i dont feel that at all and have to rely on my husband to tell me if i am or not
do you like having sex, if so what happens just before you have sex or before he insert it??
oh and as for wantinghim inside me and doing anythingt o get that, nope it dont bother me one bit, one min we could be having sex and the next i can get up and go shopping and it wouldnt have any effect whatsoever
well we have sex but it usualy him kissing me all over for a bit and then he goes inside then once done hes asleep
When I'm aroused sometimes i feel as if maybe i need to use the toilet but cant go. maybe just pressure down there. I dont know, i find it really hard to describe it. sometimes i cant feel if i am wet so i just go on that all the time.
well i dont feel anything more than i am at the moment sat here typing this out
I honestly have no idea then.
oh ok then guess i will have to wait for a better explaination then
Have you had an orgasm before, I see you username, does that sum it up?
yeah it does sum it up i have never had one in my life, i didntknow i was meant to til 4 yrs back either or what a clit was even for
have you maturbated or told your partner to perfor oral sex on you?
i have tried since but it does nothing at all even with vibs etc etc
oh and i dont tell him to do it thats upto him if he wants to
I think you need some time to yourself to learn you own body and relax and just let it happen. it's only going to happen if you want it too. It's a very natural act.
natural!!!! i dont think so as if it was then surely after 27 yrs of being with the same person then it would have happened before now?
"Arousal" is a nebulous term. Here is a good description:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_arousal
I recommend that you go to the Index and read the several articles by Brandye near the bottom of the page. She has written several excellent articles on the various aspects of arousal and the female orgasm.
Near the top of the page is a link to "The Anatomy of the Female O". Please read this article, also.
Signs of arousal vary from person to person and during each stage. Here are some indicators in no particular order:
* Skin is flushed
* Skin becomes sensitive to touch and sometimes "tingly"
* A person begins to perspire
* You feel like stretching
* You want to be even physically closer to your partner
* Your awareness of the outside world (things happening in another part of the house or outside your window diminishes as you begin to focus your attention on the sensations you feel
* Breathing changes. You might hold your breath, pant, breathe deeply and heavily, or one or more in various combinations
I hope this is of help. If you have questions after reading these articles, please ask. You'll be more informed and we will be better able to address your concerns.
ok i have just read those things but i dont have any of that going on at all
oh and as for focusing on the sensations, there arent any sensations to focus on just him going in and out that s it til hes done
unless you mean to focus on breathing that is, as i have a hard time when hes doing that stuff to me and actually breathing at all
have you had any sexual partners before him?
nope i havent its just him same for him its just with me we each others first and only's
you all need professional counseling, 27 years with no orgasms is depressing. Not making fun of the situation.
we have been and she was as good as a chocolate fireguard, she had us doing something called senate focus for months which i hated
oh she was that useless i had asked her what arousal was but she just looked at me in that surprised look people give and then refused to say anything at all
About a quarter of all women never experience orgasm. Many of them probably share your problem to some degree.
Have you ever discussed this with a gynaecologist? There are some physiological issues that can retard, or even prevent, sexual stimulation. The oldest patient I ever had who reported her first orgasm was 54. There is hope but either medical or psychological, perhaps both, assistance will be required.
i have been to see the gyn and she could not offer any help other than try me on testosterone implants for 9 months, which after 3 cuts i had to ask what on earth it was meant to be doing, hence that line was cut sort, i even tried viagra for a couple of times but that just made my face hot, its nothte lack of orgasm realy but the lack of total feeling that bothers me most, i just simply feel him going in and out til hes done and thats all sensations wise that i get, is that all there is?
oh i did pm you if you didnt mind that we could talk further.
I don't understand the intent of this thread at all..........
[QUOTE=constantlylearning;219586]I don't understand the intent of this thread at all..........[/QUOTE]
the intent was to find out what arousal is and how do i get that!!
Ohhhhhhhhhh, I see now. Unfortunately, no poetic or descriptive insight for
you.