I'm new to this forum and well, thought i would post a question.
well, i met my gf in high school while i was a junior and she was a freshman (i know i know, thats a pretty big difference.) well, i just recently turned 18 and she is still 16.
so my question is... is it bad to be sexually active with her now that i have turned 18? or is it alrite?? i dunno....
sorry for the dumb question by the way, its just been on my mind lately.
Yeah, i dont think its a big problem of the age difference.I mean i met my Significant other when i was 17 (almost 18..im now 20) and lets just say that.... well he was a tween when the Beatles got their start....now that probably would have been illegal when i was underaged cause thats a HUGE aged difference...but age is just an irrelavant number, have all the sex you want with her!
On a lot of other message boards I frequent, there are lots of
threads which address the age difference issue. May thru December, Spring and Fall etc as they are called. Many are about young women and older men. In more recent times older women have beganto consider younger guys. I had such a relataion after wanting to nearly 14 years. Hollywood
stars & starlets are doing it now and it is becomming mainstream.
In school days I read how most relationships tend to be a year or two in difference. Still it is a situational thing for those involved. When you are different...you heart is open to much sorrow.....from the narrowmindedness of others. I on occassion meet younger girls who act eager to get to know each other better...but I point out I'm with someone very early....and mention that if I wasn't.....I'd be asking them for
coffee and maybe take a walk thru the towns park and talk.
As a guy, I've found the meeting and getting to know a girl to be a most wonderful time in a relationship. It is tempting to go
over the edge, but I resist. Perhaps this is why women read their paperbacks and watch the soaps. For me the relationship I had with my older lady friend will always be a high mark....more than dating the cheer leaders, Prom Queen,
high school beauty. When into my twenties or thirties the age difference question became moot. It was more about if she could handle the difference...than me.
eDJ
its not bad as long as you are both of legal age to consent by the laws where you live and as long as you both do consent to things.
the big difference YOU see in your ages is perhaps due in larger part to the seperation between your individual academic levels. junior/freshman, senior/sophmore.... 2 years apart, growning up in the same generation, going thru the same world events, sharing in the same trends, the growth of new inventions....
im sure tease (especially tease) and i can tell you what its like when there is a generation-gap of age difference. 9 years between my mate and i, 18 years between tease and her guy,.... i was just learning how to add and he had a drivers license. im playing hop scotch, hes at woodstock. im holding my diploma, he's holding his 2nd child...
oh there are differences between us alright, he's a boilermaker and im fightin irish mad about it!
The only thing that makes me go "whoa" about our age gap, is the fact that he's been at his job (different deparments and whatnot) for as long as I've been alive. lol.
Other than that, it doesn't bother me. Doesn't bother him either. And that's all that matters.
Generally, on the legal side, you should be ok.
Most states have a 16 or 17 age of consent and since you are only 2 years apart, you should still generally be ok.
http://ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm
And really, the age difference between you isn't a "pretty big difference".
I'm 23. My guy is 41. He don't act it, he don't look it, but he's 41. And I look like I'm about 16. Now that's a "big difference". But as long as you don't let the age difference bother you (from a relationship stand point, not a age of consent/law standpoint), who cares what other people think.