Moreover and not withstanding is the fact that the woman sets boundaries and limits. That said, how is a guy to know how far he can go? The answer is quite simple and employs a technique called "Implied Consent".

Implied Consent works cooperatively. The woman gives silent (Implied) permission for the guy to kiss and caress and to go as far as he can--up to and until he reaches her limit, whatever it is at that time. Once there, she will stop him by telling verbally that he has gone far enough, and/or removing his hand and indicating that this is as far as is to go. Within this limit he can continue to have free reign.

Whenever the woman wants to extend her limit, she can, probably based on her comfort level with the man and the relationship, as well as her desire to up the ante'. OK, so how is a guy to know if and when the limit has been extended. Simple. Again, he fools around going as far as he can. Once he reaches the previous boundary, he will find that she does not stop him and so you just explore a bit farther until she does. And, so it goes.

To address your immediate concern about the following, I offer this:

> I'm having a girl over this week, and I really like her. But I dunno if she wants to do anything sexual. I'm not saying the whole thing, just oral or at least hands.

Much of what you do depends upon what she wants. Often her wishes and desires will be much different from your own even though you may ultimately end up in the same haystack. So, begin with conversation, a good time socially, holding of hands, smiles, a kiss, and then see where this does or does not lead.

Do not be in a rush to get to the proverbial haystack. Take it long and slow and spend much time just making out. The rest if there is to be more will take care of itself.

Got questions?

[QUOTE]Do types of clothes tell you anything?[/QUOTE]

no... do not get confused by this..

ok... a touch leads to a kiss, a kiss to a lick. a lick to etc etc... basically if it happens it will most likely start with a kiss. so just let nature take its coarse

[QUOTE=Vper]no... do not get confused by this..

ok... a touch leads to a kiss, a kiss to a lick. a lick to etc etc... basically if it happens it will most likely start with a kiss. so just let nature take its coarse[/QUOTE]

Agreed! start w/ a kiss

[QUOTE=Brandye]And I think your kitty needs the litter box. She has been wiggling that way a lot lately.[/QUOTE]

Is she doing the pee-pee dance?
:D LOL

Patience, Demon, patience!

And I think your kitty needs the litter box. She has been wiggling that way a lot lately.

The only way to determine if she wants to do something "sexual" without some kissing is to ask her. Of course, given how girls work, she's probably not going to want to do something "sexual" without some kissing.

Now, of course, if she hands you a condom and announces she's on the pill...

Seriously, the bigger question here is whether or not the two of you should do "something sexual" and if so what? One of the things you'll need to figure out is that you and she will make that decision together... it's not something she does for or to you and it's not something you do to or for her.

Put yourself in her shoes... she might be asking herself the same questions. Are you going to wear something (a sign, maybe?) that says you want to do "something sexual?"

For that matter, are you sure you do (want to)... are you sure you should?

Life is full of uncertainty. Relationships are about exploring together. Why not simply stop worrying about doing "something sexual" and have fun? It'll be a lot less stressful!

I think the arm and head movements exclude that, Demon ;)