[QUOTE=Quote (YoungLover03 @ Aug. 29 2005,20:36)]She did it! lol Today I got her to do it.  I will say that letting her work at her own pace is a correct method but it also needs to be combined with getting her used to "the area."  Let me explain.

I had just finished eating my girlfriends pussy when we both sat up and she started giving me a hand job.  While she was jerking me off, I got the idea of her kissing the lower part of my stomach; some 6 or so inches from my penis.  I asked her if she would and she did.  A few minutes later I asked her to kiss another spot, but lower and closer to the penis this time and she did it.  This repeated itself a couple of times before I finally asked her if she would kiss my head and she did.

After that she got really into it and she was having fun sucking my penis.

My advice to guys who are having this same problem of their partner not being able to get down to that region: let her take her time but direct her in the direction you want her to go (but be nice about it).

Thanks everyone![/QUOTE]
oral sex is something which cn b scary for girls...they have no idea how far to take u in...they r worried if they get saliver everywhere when sucking you off and it's horrible being watched when it's your first couple of times doing it. these were just some of the thoughts that went through my mind when i first performed oral on my first bf (who had already had a few gfs in the past and had received oral once be4)...this was difficult for me and we only got sexual after 4 months of being together. anyway, to my point, it's important NO pressure is put on ur gf watsoever...playing little games as u have and maybe doing it in the dark or with u blindfolded may ease her up. i first gave head in a semi-darkened room. i felt way more confident and he rlly enjoyed himself. i just felt more at ease. things like this can actually be quite kinky at the same time as putting your girlfriend at ease.

hope this helps,
uncreativename

Ahahahah, I had same thing. I assume your guys relationship is fresh or no?

I remember a few times my current GF once bit my body slowly moving down to the white christmas tree and then gave it a little bite then came back up and kissed me. I was a little turned down at that point cause thats all she did.

Then the next few times she would start and do it for like 1 min. Then stop. We talked and she told me shes only done it like twice before to different guys and both times she didn't do it long she'd just stop after a while, she wasn't a fan of it. Our relationship now is a lot stronger and shes willing to do it now because it brings be such pleasure.

Although sometimes she still doesn't like it cause I last longer getting a BJ then getting a handjob... dont know if thats weird or not...

Anyways yea giver her sometime and let her do it on her own willingness. Be patient, I know its probably hard.

Has she actually gotten down there and LOOKED at your penis? It might scare her. I know I was scared to death about doing it in the beginnning! I agree, see if, while she's giving you a hand job, she will just lick the head a little, maybe wrap her lips around it. Tell her she doesn't have to go all the way down on it. Maybe after a few times of doing that, she will venture farther... I really love doing this for my man! Has she read this site? Maybe there's some positive feedback on BJ's from WOMEN that will interest her? I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

Ah ok,
well I guess just keep reassuring her.
Maybe do like I said and just say like, when you are giving me a handjob maybe kiss and lick it a little. That way it is a HJ/BJ. Then hopefully she can work herself up to the real thing.
Sorry I couldn't be more help
good luck

There isn't really a set time limit, how long have you guys been going out? sexually touching?
No, I wouldnt w/hold oral from her just b/c she isn't returning the favor. That isn't what sex is about.
If you do so, she might become even more insecure and think there is something wrong w/ her.
My b/f would hint and I was hesitant. Finally he was able to get me to open up and express the feelings/questions I had from my previous post. He assured me that anything I did would feel good and he'd let me know if I did something wrong. Just knowing that I didn't have to feel embarrassed for being unexperienced made me feel better. He was my first, but I wasn't his.
That was another thing that bothered me, but he was cool about it and now I feel like I do a pretty good job, pun intended lol.

I would just encourage her and give her time.
Its not like she flat out refuses, she's just having a hard time taking that first step.
Thats how I was at first. I wanted to return the favor but I very nervous and scared. Afraid of what it would be like, if I would do it wrong, if I would hurt him, and what about when he cums? Would I be able to have it in my mouth? what would it taste like? would I gag and embarrass myself?
Trust me, ALL these questions are probably floating in her mind.
Just talk to her. Let her know you'd like her to when she's totally ready. Let her know she doesn't have to "finish" you off at first. Just knowing that you can maybe go down and do a little licking and sucking just to get used to the act.
The more she does it, the more confident she'll feel.
If she's worried about the cum, maybe say something like.. you can start out w/ oral and finish me off w/ a handjob, or something along those lines.
That way if she's afraid of the cum, or her jaws getting tired, etc... she'll feel better
hope this helps.

Can anybody tells me how to got prepared gf for os if she is not willing to do that?I like very much but gf do not like it

It's hard for girls who are new to oral sex. Me and my bf were going out for 3 months before I gave him a blowjob! He kept trying to force me to do it but I said I was only gonna do it when I wanted to. It made me feel stupid and uncomfortable when he was trying to push me so try not to do that to her!
The thing that got to me was the idea that he might not be clean and that come might not taste nice so eventually I decided to suprise him with a can of squirty cream (which I love!). Not only was the "oral" experience hilarious for both of us, it made it taste better, and now it doesnt bother me at all and sometimes I can't get enough of giving him bjs! Give her time and she'll do it when she's ready. But if you take my advice, be warned - squirty cream stains bedsheets and mattresses!! ;)

The main problem is gf is not ready at all. she is telling ,she don,t like os. then how to convince and make her prepared?

i wouldnt really worry,
i mean its just like a personal preferance, and if its hard for her im sure its nothing about you. i can understand, as a girl, how it might be a little akward. just let her know its her choice (even if its annoying) and that you love her. when shes ready, she will. dont be so friggin impatient.

The only thing is, don't rush her. I didn't go down on my boyfriend till...ummm...Nine month into the relationship. I tried it at five months, and was utterly disgusted, but onceI got used to him being naked, and I felt more comfortable, it was better for both of us. :D Just give it some time. (It also helps if you don't nag at her...)

[QUOTE=YoungLover03;131035]Hi everyone,

My girlfriend and I are having issues when it comes to oral sex. I absolutely love performing oral on her and she loves it just as much. But I can't seem to get her to do it on me.

My girlfriend has no problem giving me hand jobs, which she is quite good at it. But everytime she tries to do oral she freezes and can't seem to "get her head down there." And everytime she freezes I feel embarrassed, ashamed, and a little frustrated. I want her to make me feel as good as I make her feel when I perform oral on her.

Can someone give me some advice? I would especially like to hear from the female members of this site but any input would be greatly appreciated.

Regards,
A young boyfriend.[/QUOTE]

I understand your gf. I was the same. I'd grown up and had been given the impression that giving a guy head was degrading and a horrible act. After I'd done research and learned that it's okay, I wanted to master this. I am eager to learn, so I asked someone I'd known for years who made me cummmmm for the first time from cunnilingus, which is the only thing I can cummm from at the present time, if he would be my teacher. He didn't see it as an opportunity to take advantage of me or anything like that. He was patient with me, and told me that I didn't even need to practice, but to see his face while doing that or riding him and to hear him moan from pleasure was a turn on, and he would eat me without me even asking because he loved to perform oral that much, and was GREAT at it.

Be patient with her.

[QUOTE=YoungLover03;131040]How long should I give her before I have to just accept the fact that I'm not going to get the favour returned? Is it right for me to do it to her if she won't do it to me?[/QUOTE]

Be patient. Help her learn what to do so she doesn't freeze up. When you least expect it, she will be doing that for you. If you are one of those types of men who has to get head in return in order for you to go down on a woman, then no...Don't do it to her. (I hate that...Either do it because you love it or don't do it at all...Should be a "if you do this for me" type of situation).

Well since it has finally happened for you, the information given here can help someone else. Glad it worked out.

I'm in the same boat dude!! kinda frustrating and confusing :confused: