I assume you are saying that he has trouble climaxing as a result of intercourse. I believe the solution is not with products or medication but with technique.

The technique to use is to build his ardor through a lot of making out followed by foreplay. Many fellas these days are under the misconception that the way to trigger an orgasm is through lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking. WRONG. Stroking simply maintains a preexisting high level of arousal while thrusting peaks this and triggers an orgasm. Therefore, the way for a guy to climax relatively quickly is by building his level of arousal to the brink of an orgasm before he enters.

Second, is that if he is only used to masturbation, then he will have to learn how to adjust to the relatively mild sensations provided by the vagina. This requires some training so, the two of you will have to work on this together.

YUP! You've been here for awhile now. Next time you log on or return to the forums' main page, have a look at the very top of your screen. You will see an Index listed. This provides links to the most frequently asked concerns people have, including yours. I asked that it be placed right up front so people would see it. Hmmm.... If you did happen to look at the Board Notices and Index titles, did you think them unimportant?

I recommend reading the majority of the articles in the Index. They will give you suggestions about how to make out, how a boyfriend should make love to your breasts, give hand jobs to each other, and much much more. "Foreplay" comes after "making out". Making out or fooling around consists of Necking (kissing and caressing above the shoulders), Petting (kissing and caressing with clothes on and not engaging the breasts or genitals, (Heavy Petting (including the breasts and beginning to undress), Foreplay (undressing and fondling the genitals and breasts).

Read the articles carefully and if you have questions after reading them, please feel free to ask. This is why people devoted valuable time writing them and why many of us hang around.

Dear LadyBug,
You're welcome. I wasn't trying to be curt or snide with my opening remark.

After reading through the articles and gleaning some information and techniques, please feel free to ask questions.

prostate stimulation is taboo but its the ticket to a quick cum whether you want to or not. theres a toy called the stinger that has a vibrating egg and a flexible end for stimulation as well as attaches to the penis. Theres also the aneros.

Personally Im a man and I really dont care for foreplay, most of my male friends dont really care to as well. I want steamy, passionate, intense, energetic, and amazing.

Sex is what I enjoy, I dont really care for any of the starter stuff to be truthful - I just wanna get to it. Foreplay is mainly just something to please the women since it is more important to them.

This is something I dont see commonly preferred in men but yours may be different. Dont ask us what he prefers, be open and discuss it with HIM. Then try everything once.

Another thing I would suggest is china shrink cream - using that when you have sex makes it more pleasurable for both you and him. It causes the vagina to tighten and sex to feel rougher. Its like you dont have enough lube but not uncomfortable like when you dont actually have enough lube. This doesnt make you loose or bad in bed it can make the tightest girl tighter and unless your 10 years old it can alway be tighter for everyone. That makes sex more intense and in turn more likely to have him cum from it.

How open are you 2? Discuss things and just try new things. Is sex something really exciting? I cum alot easier when everything was hot but if she lays there looking like shes waiting for the commercials to be over it doesnt help, and if shes screaming like an over zealous cheerleader then thats a turn off too - its too forced. Show your interested, get excited - we like that it gets us hot.
Be aggressive and pursue sex initiation yourself. I know I feel tired of being the initiator many times and if she tackles me that gets me going.

> Personally Im a man and I really dont care for foreplay, most of my male friends dont really care to as well. I want steamy, passionate, intense, energetic, and amazing.

> Sex is what I enjoy, I dont really care for any of the starter stuff to be truthful - I just wanna get to it. Foreplay is mainly just something to please the women since it is more important to them.

Now that you have it all figured out, why are you still here?

You are so misinformed it is sad. There is so much information on this Board and its Forums designed, written, and, presented to the world at large in order to help every man and woman, boy and girl who joins our community of members better, more knowledgeable, skillful, caring lovers. If you really enjoy sex, why not learn all you can? I believe you are both short sighted and selling yourself a snow job. If you want to really truly enjoy love and romance, and be "God's gift" to your partner, you will do this for the both of you.

Those of us who are regular contributers on the site will tell you that with your beliefs and smug attitude, you are far from becoming the lover you believe you are, now. This is not to be cruel; rather a wake up call.

Foreplay is a tool used for erotic experiences which in turn leads to hot, steamy, passionate sex. It allows for sexual heightening of both partners excitement and satisfaction. A wham, bam, thank you attitude does little for either party. Foreplay is a about learning each others bodies and responses.

Getting right to the main attraction--hot intercourse, alone leaves little to be desired for both partners. Most men enjoy the levels of seduction which are experienced through foreplay.

see I guess you could say foreplay to me is boring, I really enjoy passionate and intense. Moving slowly I will somewhat lose my drive a bit and my erection will follow. Thats the way I have always operated. I enjoy pleasing my partner and put great strides into doing so spending the time required for that, but foreplay has just never been enough to keep me going. I also am a very busy person with a full schedule of tasks to get done so I cant always take the time to make a 6 hour curtain call. Usually theres 1-2hours filled with "activities"

I hardly think I am a sex god or that I have it all figured out, and thats just my take on it. A few of my friends that I have discussed this with appear to be on the same page as me. Thats just 3 people in the world, and thats why I mentioned that it should be discussed with him to see what HE likes - everyones different.

*Edit* I suppose I should be a little more specific... A large amount of and long time is boring for me. When the word foreplay is mentioned instantly what comes to mind is a couple hours. I don't just like to push her on the bed then slip it in. That doesn't work for me (unless we are already both hot beforehand and we cant wait).
I enjoy kissing and progressively getting more passionate but I guess you could say its a lot shorter time. From beginning to intercourse I like about 15 minutes or so as a primer, more if I am going down on her. I don't like to kiss and touch for hours before we start and my interest lowers

Thank you very much for the clarification. This makes much more sense than your first post, keeping in mind that all any of us can do is to take what is written literally, although, sometimes reading between the lines.

I apologize if I jumped to conclusions that you have now made much more clear. After writing my retort, above, I read a couple of your replies in other threads and wondered why you could be so insightful there and not here. :confused:

> I suppose I should be a little more specific... A large amount of and long time is boring for me. When the word foreplay is mentioned instantly what comes to mind is a couple hours. I don't just like to push her on the bed then slip it in. That doesn't work for me (unless we are already both hot beforehand and we cant wait).

There seems to be a trend lately among the people who write in that "Foreplay" is the be all end, or, the means to an end--intercourse. With either ending, these people seem to over look the importance of fooling around and making out. Making out includes, Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting, all of which precede Foreplay. Making love (properly) does not begin with a few kisses, groping the breasts, and moving quickly to the genitals. Making out means devoting time to kissing and caressing in progressive steps involving the body's largest sex organ (the skin) and evoking intense emotional feelings that work together to build a person's ardor and sexual tension, desire, and anticipation.

So, it is not always a necessity to prolong Foreplay, although it is necessary to prolong making out in all of its various stages. If the two of you have worked cooperatively together to build each other's passion, then Foreplay can simply be a short adventure to peak this before moving on to the conclusion be it a hand job and/or oral, or, intercourse.

What I see being discussed, particularly by people new to the act of making love, regardless of age, although, generally with teens, is that they believe two things make for great love making: first, give a few kisses, fondle the breasts a bit, then quickly get down to the business of fingering and oral; second, lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking and thrusting in the hopes of building his arousal to the brink of an orgasm. This is just wrong on so many levels. While this may work for the average guy, not so the average woman.

This difference between the male and female physical and emotional responses is covered in the article on "curves" and is the last chapter in the series on:

INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping

> I enjoy kissing and progressively getting more passionate but I guess you could say its a lot shorter time. From beginning to intercourse I like about 15 minutes or so as a primer, more if I am going down on her. I don't like to kiss and touch for hours before we start and my interest lowers

Your strategy is good; although, I recommend a different time line. Devote a at least a half hour to making out, and somewhat more if time permits in order to build each other's level of excitement. The female of the species requires this effort; the male can benefit significantly from this devotion. Once the two of you are very turned on, then peak your respective levels of excitement and anticipation with some oral stimulation. It shouldn't take a lot of time, although, a couple can certainly dally longer if desired.

Do not begin intercourse until invited (either expressed or implied) and not until you are on the brink of a climax, yet can still maintain control. Stroking maintains this preexisting high state of arousal while thrusting peaks it and triggers an orgasm.

> I enjoy pleasing my partner and put great strides into doing so spending the time required for that, but foreplay has just never been enough to keep me going.

This redistribution of your time should make things more enjoyable for both of you.

> I also am a very busy person with a full schedule of tasks to get done so I cant always take the time to make a 6 hour curtain call. Usually theres 1-2hours filled with "activities"

Six hours? Surely you jest. Three hours? More like it. One-two hours: more the norm.