Hate to tell you this but if she won't let you do it again then she didn't enjoy it the first time. My girl and I have had anal about 10 times. She gave it a go, but finally said "I just don't like this". We haven't done it since. Sorry, but I think if she does let you do it again, it will only be because YOU want to and not her. Not a good deal for either of you.
I agree that external and internal fingering of the anus and sphincters is OK, what's not is penis penetration. Use a small dildo instead. It is too easy to damage the delicate tissue. As popular an activity as it is, the penis has not business being in there.
If you would like to enlighten your wife as well as you, ask her to read the following article with you:
If she is open to fingering, do so only when she is very highly aroused. The reason is because the sensitive nerve ending in and around the anus only "turn on" and become reactive at this time. The same goes for you as well as massaging your prostate.
I really recommend that if you want to do anal play that you keep your penis out of it.
Whether the wife enjoys it or not and whether penis penetration is "ok" are two entirely different subjects. Sexual activity of most kinds could be dangerous or at least hurtful if you don't know what you're doing. With all the testimonials that have been posted in threads on this board (and everywhere else) over the years of people who engage in AND enjoy anal intercourse with no ill effects it's a little extreme to suggest it's not "okay" as an absolute. The fact the wife does not enjoy it is something the OP will most likely just have to accept, though. He can try a small dildo, finger, whatever if she's up for it but there's an excellent chance she simply doesn't care for penetration in any form and never will. Straight, gay or in-between there's plenty of folks who love this sexual act and plenty that want nothing to do with it..
I happen to agree with your wife - play is fine and I like to be rimmed. No one is going to stick a penis in there!
Hate to tell you this but if she won't let you do it again then she didn't enjoy it the first time. My girl and I have had anal about 10 times. She gave it a go, but finally said "I just don't like this". We haven't done it since. Sorry, but I think if she does let you do it again, it will only be because YOU want to and not her. Not a good deal for either of you.
I agree that external and internal fingering of the anus and sphincters is OK, what's not is penis penetration. Use a small dildo instead. It is too easy to damage the delicate tissue. As popular an activity as it is, the penis has not business being in there.
If you would like to enlighten your wife as well as you, ask her to read the following article with you:
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.
If she is open to fingering, do so only when she is very highly aroused. The reason is because the sensitive nerve ending in and around the anus only "turn on" and become reactive at this time. The same goes for you as well as massaging your prostate.
I really recommend that if you want to do anal play that you keep your penis out of it.
Whether the wife enjoys it or not and whether penis penetration is "ok" are two entirely different subjects. Sexual activity of most kinds could be dangerous or at least hurtful if you don't know what you're doing. With all the testimonials that have been posted in threads on this board (and everywhere else) over the years of people who engage in AND enjoy anal intercourse with no ill effects it's a little extreme to suggest it's not "okay" as an absolute. The fact the wife does not enjoy it is something the OP will most likely just have to accept, though. He can try a small dildo, finger, whatever if she's up for it but there's an excellent chance she simply doesn't care for penetration in any form and never will. Straight, gay or in-between there's plenty of folks who love this sexual act and plenty that want nothing to do with it..