i finally gave in...i stayed strong about my opinions concerning anal sex for three boyfriends now. but my boyfriend now really wanted to do it, and i guess i was looking for something new. i'm in that large percentile of women that can't often orgasm during sex =( creativity is always appreciated.
i've read up a little bit about anal, but i do have a few concerns that aren't answered in the readings here. so i go to my trusty friends at sexinfo101 for advice. =)
my boyfriend loves finishing in me when we do anal. lovesss it. i've heard the stupid saying "butt sex is wild and you don't get no child" but i wanted to double check this one. rectum lining is thin, and if it rips...could a leak leave me with a child? i didn't think so, unless there was also a tear in my cervix or something. but better to check. (and also probably better to wear a condem, heh.)
also...after he finishes, what is the general ettiquette? it really messes up my processes in that region for the rest of the day. kind of gross. and i don't really know what to do other than run to the bathroom and try to drain it - ugh! and i don't want it to drip into my vagina and get me pregnant.
i know that he should be wearing a condem no matter what (we're both going tomorrow to get all kinds of testing - std, hiv - just in case and because you never know!) i'm 20 and ive had enough sexual partners and education to know what the right thing is to do. problem is applying it in heat of the moment.
any info and advice would be awesome. thanks guys!!
You MUST use a condom. He can easily drip and it can go into your vagina, but birth control isn't even the MAIN reason. There is lots of bacteria inside your anus, which can be harmful to his penis (give him infections, like UTI's and etc NOT STI's so it doesn't matter if you're clean). Also it makes cleanup easier I'd assume.
Look around there is quite a bit of info on this around the site.
The outlet from the rectum (anus) and entroitus to the vagina are couple centimeters apart. They are in the same warm, damp crack. The intestinal tissues of the rectum are not very absorbant and the semen, with sperm, mostly drains out of you over a period of a few hours. The first rush when he withdraws includes much of the semen. The chances of pregnancy are reduced from vaginal sex but not by enough to be safe.
The lining of the rectum is not likely to rip and that will not give sperm access to your vagina. The sperm will be migrating from one "entrance" to another. The tears you will experience are tiny and any bleeding will be slight (in most cases). The effect over time can cause problems. These tears admit bacteria and that part of your body has lots of them!
Hard to talk about ettiquette with all that stuff smeared around your butt. Go wash up. There will still be drainage if a condom has not been used.
As for sexual stimulation and arousal, the pressing on the perineum or the rectal sphincter muscles gets them involved, can heighten arousal and provide a dtrong orgasm when they begin to contract. If they are over-stretched, this effect is lost for the woman - they are no longer being stimulated, they are simply being stressed.
Full disclosure: I like anal play, fingers and rimming, but no penis is ever going in there!! Any penis in any rectum must be covered by a condom to avoid infection (not just STD) to both partners.
thank you!! we decided together that it will be a special occasion sort of thing, lol. and with condom use only. too many risks - i just want him to feel amazing, and he feels the same about me. when it comes down to it, we care too much about each other to make stupid mistakes that could have been prevented if not for the "heat of the moment".
thank you for all your help =) you guys are always fantastic here.