Cant help with the first question mate.. anal is a one-way street for me lol! But of my chick mates, none have really ever spoken of anything other than 'awkwardness' after a day at most.

But with the second, I have known of girls to get little splits around that area.. and guys for even to notice it on themself during the course of proceedings! Its usually just a matter of taking a bit of time away from it to let it heal, assuming the blood is not coming from 'internal'. If it were, could be time to pay a visit to the emergency department.

Hope that helps some!

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I'm sorry to learn that you had an uncomfortable experience. Why would you continue if it hurt so much?? This sounds to me like you had a "jam session" of the wrong kind. I doubt the pain had to do with the amount of lube used; rather, the technique used. Please read this article listed with many more in the Index:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage

This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play. Please read the section "Going Inside".

Key points are:
* Tease the outside of the anus when the person is very aroused
* Prepare your partner by gingerly (& slowly) inserting a finger
* Stimulate the passageway with a finger by wiggling it around, and/or moving it in and out
* DO NOT shove, jam, jab, poke, a penis or dildo inside. Use pressure
* The partner on the receiving end should relax the anus and sphincter muscles. Proceeding slowly gives her/him time to adjust and relax

There is no reason why this activity should be uncomfortable. If it is then you are doing something wrong and these are usually
* not enough lube and not distributing it around the outside of the anus as well as inside along the passageway
* shoving the penis or toy inside instead of apply gentle pressure giving the recipient time to relax the muscles
* not teasing the nerves of the area, first, getting them used to having something pass through. Remember, these nerves and muscles are conditioned to moving matter the other way and they can balk when something is going inside instead

Here is a second article on the subject:

As for the bleeding, and, assuming that it is a minor abrasion or tear, this should heal as most things do within a few days. In the future, make certain the lubricant is distributed inside all along the passage way. This can be done as part of your play and teasing. If ever it hurts--STOP, back up, apply more lube, and/or go slower.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Bleeding is not uncommon the first several attempts at anal. The fact that it is bleeding a day later indicates a larger tear than the many tiny that are inevitable until the anus becomes distended. The anus is not designed for this activity (your vagina is) and it takes some stretching to accommodate a penis comfortably.

Lube isn't the only issue. You ( or he ) pushed to hard and too fast. The anus is not the natural orifice for sexual use and great care and planning needs to be imployed and even then, not all people are able to comfortably accomadate objects or a penis anally. What you are discribing sounds like a fissure. Most small, shallow fissures heal on their own within a couple of days. To make yourself more comfortable, soak in a very hot ( hot as you can stand ) tub of water with baking soda, several times over the next couple of days. O-T-C hemorrhoid creams and suppositiries are helpfull because they help reduce inflammation, speed healing and offer some pain relief. Starting now be sure to drink plenty of water and make sure you are eating enough fiber. You don't want to have problems with defeication, which is going to be unpleasant for the next few days until you heal. Baby wipes ( unscented as the fragrance my irritate and burn ) and tucks pads will make after toilet hygeine a bit easier while you're sore. If you fail to keep it clean, you may risk infection, so even tho it's going to hurt some, be sure to wipe thouroughly.
If you continue to bleed and hurt for more than a couple of days, or if you have any trouble with fecal incontinence, even a little, you really need to see a Dr because that indicates that you are torn more than superficially. Deep fissures and fissures that involve one or both anal sphincters requires surgery to correct. Be aware and seek medical attention if you develop a fever as it could be an indication of infection which requires medical attention. e-coli, c-dif or other oportunistic bacteria that's normally in healthy bowels can be seriously dangerous if they get into other tissues and organs ( your blood is part of the lympatic system and will carry that infection all over your body so in the event of fever, you need to see a Dr immediately e-coli will cause liver and renal failure quickly even in healthy adults. I know all about that 1st hand too and hepato-renal failure if it doesn't kill you will certainly rob you of your health for some time. My liver and kidneys are fine now, but for almost a year I faced intermittent hemodialysis to rid my body of waste that healthy kidneys normally do).
I'm one of the supposed few ( I think that there are allot more than anal enthusiest want to claim ) that couldn't tolerate anal penetration and had to learn the hard way that some things, now matter how enjoyable it is to my partner is simply just too risky and dangerous for me. I didn't know it untill after a few attempts, which I really wanted to make him happy, that each attemp no matter how slow and carefull caused several small and later deep fissures that sent me to the hospital then on to a colo-rectal surgeon. I also developed hemorrhoids after attempting anal that has been problematic ever since. I carried and birthed two large babies ( both over 9 lbs!) and have always been extremely cauteous about my diet because of a heavy family history of colon cancer. Having children and my diet didn't cause my hemorrhoids, anal sex did. Because of the fissures and surgery, I now have adheisive bands in and around my anus, weakness in the musculature of the sphinctures makes me more prone to hemorrhoids and fissures even though I'm not constipated. Even kegel excersices aggrivates my problems which I do anyway because I don't want to have problems with prolapse and urinary incotinence. All of this I learned from my Dr.
Some people can do anal with little or no ill effects, but those that can't really do end up suffering sometimes for the rest of their live's. My husband wasn't a brute, we followed all of the "rules of play". He was exceptionally gentle and we stopped the minute I said so each time but in hind sight, we both wished that we never went there. I've often joked he wouldn't feel that way if he didn't have to help pay my medical bills over the years which has been excessive at times! But, he's genuinely riddled with guilt, especially being he's wittnessed my suffering that I'm all too familiar with now. Be sure to tell your boyfried how you are feeling today about your encounter!

The lubricant used for anal sex is NOT the same lubricant you use for vaginal sex. Lubricants are designed for specific purposes - try a heavier lubricant like Vaseline next time. If you insist upon there being a next time. You know you don't have to do everything your guy wants. The rectum was not evolved for the purpose of sex.

Ok sweet dreams. i was in he same situation . This process need two things and a little bit of preparing one self properly. I tried the advise I picked up on the main site and a reader recomended "Eze Anal" lub. which has an anesthetic effect as well as causing the nerve endings to relax better. Coupled with that I used a butt plug to get my Gf's anus suitable for penetration. After about two weeks we first started gently, now its like very easy to penetrate.

Thank you for caring to help. Please, however, do not recommend(or use) numbing/pain relieving products like Anal Eze. If something hurts - THERE IS A VERY GOOD REASON FOR IT TO HURT AND YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO YOUR BODY AND STOP. Using such products is akin to using them on your hands, sticking them in a fire, then saying "See? It doesn't hurt at all, no harm done." After a few weeks of doing that....your hands won't hurt in the fire anymore...but you I doubt you'll like their condition.