Short of it; yes it can be pleassurable, but it's not for all

Long of it (including tips):

Women and anal orgasms
Of all women who can orgasm, most require stimulation of the clitoris. A smaller group can cum from vaginal penetration. And there are even those who can achieve orgasm through stimulation of other bodyparts; the breasts, the back of the neck, ears, etc. The anus would be in those minority groups. So orgasms from anal stimulation are not that common. This orgasm could be a result of stimulating all the nerve-endings in the anus (about as much as a penis or clit!). It could be because you could stimulate the gspot indirectly by anal fingering or anal sex. Personally, I have orgasmed by anal fingering, minutes after I had played with my clit.

For men it's clear why they can achieve orgasm from anal penetration, one could stimulate the prostate through the anus. For outer stimulation of the anus same goes as for women; lots of sensitive nerve-endings! :)

The anus; the place where the conscious and unconscious mind meat
Anal penetration (even the smallest object) is very dependent on the receivers mind and body. Here is why: There are two sphincters; one you can consciously control, the other not. So you need to consciously and subconsciously release tension to be able to receive anal penetration. For example; when your mind is expecting pain, it is more likely you tense up and experience that. When your body isn't extremely pleased and aroused, anal stimulation is too much and it will tighten up again. So your body and mind need to want it 100%. It is for her, just for her! It isn't enough to want to do it for her partner. It is her body, her choice! Same goes for men who'd like to receive.

Please her with patience, patience, patience
Meaning that if your partner really WANTS it: she first needs to be very aroused by the petting, necking, kissing, caressing, fingering (clit/vagina), etc. Then pay attention to the outer anal part by caressing, licking. Going inside; anal fingering, perhaps even a toy. And only after she has been penetrated with at least a finger and/or (small) toy, you may think about putting him inside. IF she has enjoyed the penetration so far and more is what she wants. Communicate before doing anything! Take it (very!) slow. She needs to listen to her body carefully. Again: communicate! She may like to stimulate her clit throughout anal stimulation and intercourse. So don't be shy to use those fingers. Really; let her take her sweet time to get accustomed to it.

Only for her pleasure! (Tao is the path)
If she is interested in anal stimulation at all, you must honor and enjoy the road. Do not expect there to be a purpose to the path! You are not "working your way in there"; you are enjoying the experience and pleasing your partner.

In the beginning she may only want outer stimulation of the anus. And she may take as long as she'd like. It could take months before she's ready for anal sex. And maybe she decides along the road that she doesn't want actual anal sex that at all. You need to allow her to let her senses guide her! After all; you two are having sex for pleasure. Don't EVER make your partner experience anything else but this!

For more information, I recommend you to read:

-http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/news/29466-ultimate-guide-anal-sex-women... This book gives you everything you need to know for your first experience (and how to make it a happy one! :))

-http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-him/19950-playing-ball-how-tips... tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play (not just for men)
- http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new-sex/29462-second-time-having-sex.htm... a specific post with advice on anal penetration
-http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/sex-toys-products/28800-dildos-human-anu... on the risk of anal penetration
-http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-him/11220-anal-101-a-25.html with pages of opinions, tips, etc, etc....
-http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/other-sex-topics/29492-help-please.html a little on orgasms through anal stimulation
-At any time; look through the index, it contains a lot of good articles!

You sound exactly like another user on here????
hmmmm

Do a search and you will find the answer you are looking for

Hello Dan,

Please read the how-to article on the topic listed in the Index.

Please define how you are using the word "sex", do you mean intercourse, or, do you mean making out and fingering the anus, prostate {men), and/or using toys? There is a difference.

> Ladies please tell me, is it even pleasurable, or does it just hurt?

If any of the above are done properly it should not hurt. The article gives details.

Is it pleasurable? Fingering the anus outside and just inside along the sphincters, when a man or woman are very highly aroused can be extremely pleasurable. So too, for massaging the prostate. Anal intercourse is an individual call. Some women draw the line at having a penis inside, others do not. Whatever your partner's boundary is, abide by it, period.

> what are some tips for a guy?

Answered, above.

It depends on the woman as well as her partner and the situation. For me the butt, both ways is a hardened, never will be moved back or taken down Great wall of China. I don't appreciate nor enjoy any exterior anal touching, licking and especially probing of any kind whatsoever Some women like oral and digital stimulation only, some women like full blown anal penetration by a penis as well as other objects. Some women have to be in a certain mood for it and some have limits to the size they are willing to take. Some women do it only because they are pressured, threatened and forced. There are all kinds or people in this world of ours.
Since both genders have an anus, some heterosexual men enjoy anal stimulation and penetration but that doesn't mean "all" men like it. Trying it on yourself is the best way to understand what it feels like as well as how to do it gently and properly as to not cause pain and injury. Experience is the best teacher isn't it!

It is a total luck scenario in my opinion. All of my partners have found it unacceptable to even go near there. One of my partners wouldn't even let me go at her doggy style because the thought of the position made her think of anal.

I have 2 girls I'm currently talking to, 1 of whom does not mind engaging in anal sex. She's had a foursome (all men) and did enjoy being "airtight" but didn't personally fine the anal sex enjoyable. (Although I would imagine with 3 guys going at you at the same time it would be kinda hard to focus haha). The other one loves anal. We were sexting and she wanted me to only talk about anal and how hard and rough I would be. Was a little uncomfortable for me cuz I've never thought about engagin in anal (I did have a girl try giving me a prostate massage. Found the feeling very awkward and felt physically uncomfortable after...almost constipated).

To each their own. I for one would find a girl who is experienced. Two virgins to anal sex are totally asking for problems and bad memories

so true............anal is for gals who hav sum experience.....n wild gals who can take anythg up there ass...........

[QUOTE=addicted2sex;264371]so true............anal is for gals who hav sum experience.....n wild gals who can take anythg up there ass...........[/QUOTE]

I dont think anal is pleasurable for women. And also there is noting so great in taking in ass for them after applying some good lube.

Even oral is not pleasurable if not reciprocated by men on their other places of body like pussy or tits.

I think vaginal sex is most pleasurable to them. They do allow us other things just to please us.

But I love oral and anal more. When she looks at me with my cock in her mouth. it makes me wild.

There are some women who do enjoy anal sex. Some women have had orgasms from them,(rare but it has to do with feeling it through the wall between her vagina her anus I belive) and a lot of sexual nerve endings located around the anus. After my initial post I placed a call to a friend of mine. I had jokingly and in a drunken stupor once given him advice on how to give a girl her best chance at enjoying anal. (Giving her oral and manual stimulation till she is relaxed from severl orgasms. Then lub a finger and massage her anus and then work your way up to your penis then go very slow)

Amazingly he had used it on her and called me one day telling me it worked. So I asked how it went and apparently she loved every bit of it.

Then again majority hate it because it can be very painful if you have an oaf for a partner and they try to treat it like a vagina (rough), or if your just not lucky enough to enjoy it because of physical limitations.

All women have the ability to enjoy giving oral, whether it be that the act itself is "dirty" and therefore a turn on because it is taboo to them...or because it turns their partner on a great deal which makes them happy. I mean that's really the only reason I think that most men give oral...because they know their partners loves it...if they didn't they wouldn't bother

Well o found anal sex to be quite enjoyable. My boyfriend and I did it often and it made me feel more secure. I know most people find it disgusting but as long as you're ok with it and your partner is ok then it's all good.
Don't knock it till you try it!.

its amazing .....becoz anal has lot more grip n feel of a girl from behind her.....makes me even go harder.........me n my ex had so many encounters wer i got exhausted doing it 4 6-7 hours bt she wanted more n more

[QUOTE=addicted2sex;264576]its amazing .....becoz anal has lot more grip n feel of a girl from behind her.....makes me even go harder.........me n my ex had so many encounters wer i got exhausted doing it 4 6-7 hours bt she wanted more n more[/QUOTE]

Is anal pleasurable to you or your ex??
And you want to say that anal is more enjoyable b'coz its more tight(grip!!!).
And b'coz it is tight you go harder! is it?
And U did anal for 7 hours and still were not exhausted.

Will go in Genies book of sex records!!

My late wife only asked for full anal penetration twice in 34 years together, but she regularly enjoyed internal digital stimulation while having sex with her on top. In fact, she loved it and asked for it. I was with one woman who regularly enjoyed and asked for anal sex, and another who had never tried it (and she'd been married for over 20 years, plus had many boyfriends after her divorce), but after she began squirting with me (also her first), she asked to try anal, and enjoyed it. For my current wife, the issue is a non-starter--no way, she does not and will not go there, period. I don't care one way or the other, but because my other partners enjoyed it, I was hoping she'd give it a shot. It's a VERY individual thing, obviously...!
Michael

[QUOTE=Kay_luvz_sex;264573]Well o found anal sex to be quite enjoyable. My boyfriend and I did it often and it made me feel more secure. I know most people find it disgusting but as long as you're ok with it and your partner is ok then it's all good.
Don't knock it till you try it!.[/QUOTE]

Did you find the actual you know part enjoyable or more how much he was probably enjoying it?

[QUOTE=KatKilledCuriousity;265647]Did you find the actual you know part enjoyable or more how much he was probably enjoying it?[/QUOTE]

It was great for both of us. You have to do a little communicating. But body language is key. It feels so good. It relaxes me for the heavier stuff. We did it often though nd it was always fun. He got a nice bj at the end too.

hey, i absolutly love reciving anal. :P my first time, it hurt a wee bit, but afterwords i was like.. "BRING IT ON!!" and now, i cum almost every time i recive it! (sorry for the bad spelling everyone. lol)

i think it feels good but ive never orgasmed from it

Personally I think like anything something’s work well for others and not everyone. Also I have heard most women don’t use enough lube and that’s one of the reasons it hurts. I can say I personally love it. I started off using toys (my favorite being This Anal Toy ) and I have to say using the vibrating anal toys during sex was FANTASTIC. It made things so much fun! Then when we got down to the real thing we did it missionary style with pillows propped under my tush so we could look at each other and it made me so much more relaxed. Some people are just more scared then others but honestly I love it and I get lots of pleaser from anal sex…its not a fable it’s just not always going to be for everyone.

Anal sex is obviously a hot spot for mess. The idea that you could penetrate her butt and come out in a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for her before it’s even happened, and for this reason she may avoid anal sex altogether. Women spend so much time making they look and smell beautiful that to have something ruin her hard work can be mildly devastating. Worrying about mess can be alleviated by using an anal douche before engaging in any anal play. Try taking a shower together too, and make sure her bowels are emptied at least an hour before starting.

So my fiance and I got in a debate on if women have a prostate. Lol I say no he says yes. So who us right?

no women do not. a woman will never a prostate exam or get prostate cancer. i believe i have seen on medical shows that the tissue that would be the prostate in a man is actually the gspot in a woman. your man is probably thinking of the skene's glands which people call the female prostate because the fluid created is very similar to prostate fluid.

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the last 4 years and we always had anal sex. The thing about it though is that if he asks for my bum he then knows that not only I love him.

Personally I dont enjoy giving my girl anal, but she likes it, so once in awhile I will go with it.

> So my fiance and I got in a debate on if women have a prostate. Lol I say no he says yes. So who us right?

You are. However, women have a G(rafenberg)-spot that is believed in some circles to be comprised of the same tissue as the prostate.

[QUOTE=LustyLisa;264338]It depends on the woman as well as her partner and the situation. For me the butt, both ways is a hardened, never will be moved back or taken down Great wall of China. I don't appreciate nor enjoy any exterior anal touching, licking and especially probing of any kind whatsoever Some women like oral and digital stimulation only, some women like full blown anal penetration by a penis as well as other objects. Some women have to be in a certain mood for it and some have limits to the size they are willing to take. Some women do it only because they are pressured, threatened and forced. There are all kinds or people in this world of ours.
Since both genders have an anus, some heterosexual men enjoy anal stimulation and penetration but that doesn't mean "all" men like it. Trying it on yourself is the best way to understand what it feels like as well as how to do it gently and properly as to not cause pain and injury. Experience is the best teacher isn't it![/QUOTE]

[FONT="Georgia">your attitude carries a lot of weight on this issue. You need to discuss it with your partner... experiment... if it goes afoul forget it. There are better holes to preoccupy your time than this. I for one am curious but most ladies I have been with shun the idea of going anal. Trust is a major issue with this kind of activity. Love and trust should be present in humungous amounts for any experimentation in this area to prosper and come out okay. If it does come out from the natural course of your love making and she enjoys the activity than you have the good fortune to having the privilege of this experience.
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[QUOTE=mikkiji;264640]My late wife only asked for full anal penetration twice in 34 years together, but she regularly enjoyed internal digital stimulation while having sex with her on top. In fact, she loved it and asked for it. I was with one woman who regularly enjoyed and asked for anal sex, and another who had never tried it (and she'd been married for over 20 years, plus had many boyfriends after her divorce), but after she began squirting with me (also her first), she asked to try anal, and enjoyed it. For my current wife, the issue is a non-starter--no way, she does not and will not go there, period. I don't care one way or the other, but because my other partners enjoyed it, I was hoping she'd give it a shot. It's a VERY individual thing, obviously...!
Michael[/QUOTE]

I am curios about the activity. The question is was it good for you compared to vaginal penetration? Would you look for it? How does it compare with somebody giving you head?

Short answer re: does anal hurt - HELL YEAH!

Long answer is: take a cucumber/dildo, lube it up and place it there - try it out for yourself while thinking 'hot' thoughts.

Then we can 'talk'.

[QUOTE=707947;269335]your attitude carries a lot of weight on this issue. You need to discuss it with your partner... experiment... if it goes afoul forget it.[/QUOTE]
707947, You are right about the trust-thing.
But Lisa does not have to try anything. As goes for any woman and man: if you don't want it, just don't!

In fact; trying this while not wanting it, will most likely lead to an awful experience. As written before; the mindset is particularly important, given the anatomy of the sphincters ([url=http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/29708-anal-sex-pleasurable-... back to page 1 for the explanation).

[QUOTE=707947;269336]I am curios about the activity. The question is was it good for you compared to vaginal penetration? How does it compare with somebody giving you head?[/QUOTE]
Not a guy, but generally speaking it feels more "tight" than the vagina and certainly more than oral. Anal sex takes more patience, more build-up/foreplay and preparing, more hygiene-measures, more lube (a lot!), going very slow (it's not like pounding-away-porn!), communication every step of the way and when doing it wrong: you could seriously injure her! So be careful. You need to prepare yourself by gathering knowledge thoroughly before trying anything. Last, off course; just as sex is different with every person, so is anal sex.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;269368]Short answer re: does anal hurt - HELL YEAH!
Long answer is: take a cucumber/dildo, lube it up and place it there - try it out for yourself while thinking 'hot' thoughts. [/QUOTE]
When you try it like that; off course it will hurt! :( EEK, what are you trying to do; starting a food fight? :rolleyes:
To anyone seriously interested in anal stimulation, please [url=http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/29708-anal-sex-pleasurable-... back to page 1, you'll find advice and links there.

I do agree that a man who would like to try anal stimulation with his woman, it is advisable to try anal stimulation yourself. Or exploring this area together. You will better understand how the anus relaxes and what "taking it slow" really means. Moreover; there's even more chance for a man to love it, considering he has a P-spot. It could open a window of beautiful pleasure for yourself! :)

RR - many people seem to think "oh, it's just anal" and do not think of the risks involved which Brandye has explained elsewhere. Of course it is going to hurt - not what that apeture was meant for - so why hide that?

But wat really makes my teeth grind is the EXPECTATION that she isn't doing 'enough' for him if she won't do anal esp is the guy who wants to give it refuses categorically to receive it.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;269380]RR - many people seem to think "oh, it's just anal" and do not think of the risks involved which Brandye has explained elsewhere. [/QUOTE]
Perhaps many people do, I don't think it's "just" anal. If only because it takes lots of preparation and loving patience.
I always refer to Brandye's thread on the risks of anal penetration and recommend to read it. It concerns STD's/HIV, UTI's, damage to the anus* a.o. I would want all to know what risks they may be taking!

*Admittedly; among others the Dutch and Belgium association for sexual education claim painfree anal penetration poses NO health risk to the anus/rectum/sphincter-area.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;269380]Of course it is going to hurt - not what that apeture was meant for - so why hide that? [/quote]
I'm not into hiding anything; I'm actually rather open about it.

What is sure is that painful anal sex poses a risk to damaging the anus, sphincters and rectum! So:

If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. You could cause serious damage! :(
If you're doing it right, there could be tremendous pleasure :)
If there isn't any pain, yet also no pleasure; why bother continuing? :confused:
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;269380]But wat really makes my teeth grind is the EXPECTATION that she isn't doing 'enough' for him if she won't do anal esp is the guy who wants to give it refuses categorically to receive it.[/quote]
I hate such expectations as much as you do EEK. In fact; I'd say it's a bad sign about the relationship if one partner pressures the other by accusing of not doing enough for "love". To anyone I'd say:

If you don't want to try anal sex, don't do it. Don't let your partner pressure you (both giving and receiving).
If you do want it, don't let taboo get to you. Do get educated and prepared before starting. [url=http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/29708-anal-sex-pleasurable-... back to page 1 for advice.

707947--[QUOTE]The question is was it good for you compared to vaginal penetration? Would you look for it? How does it compare with somebody giving you head?[/QUOTE]Yes it was always good for me compared to vaginal penetration. Different in many ways, but always a very nice feeling, not just physically but also emotionally, because of the increased amount of trust and openness the act demands. I don't 'look for it', but would never refuse any woman who wanted me to perform anal with her. It does not matter to me at all that my current wife is not into it. Compared to getting head, it is different, but neither better nor worse, just different. Maybe I enjoy oral a bit more, perhaps because the sensations (if it's being done enthusiastically!) are more subtle and complex, while with anal, it's mostly just tight, which is very nice also, but not as... well, not as subtle, you might say. I get most of my pleasure from seeing my woman having her pleasure--if it's good for her, it's good for me!
Michael

[QUOTE=707947;269335][FONT="Georgia">your attitude carries a lot of weight on this issue. You need to discuss it with your partner... experiment... if it goes afoul forget it. There are better holes to preoccupy your time than this. I for one am curious but most ladies I have been with shun the idea of going anal. Trust is a major issue with this kind of activity. Love and trust should be present in humungous amounts for any experimentation in this area to prosper and come out okay. If it does come out from the natural course of your love making and she enjoys the activity than you have the good fortune to having the privilege of this experience.
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There's not a damned thing wrong with my attitude. It's my body, my anus, my feelings and boudaries. I share what I want and withhold what I want. As a matter of fact, this issue was discussed, argued about and the horse was beat to a bloody pulp! A boundary and deal breaker is infact just that. I don't have to "proove" love and trust by going against my personal limits. Implying that those of us who choose not to endulge in anal sex must be lacking love and trust for their partner is insulting as well as far off base. I love my husband enough to die for him if it would save his life or his soul, but my anus is off limits. End of discussion!

Lisa, take a deep breath.

First off I believe the "proving you love" is the wrong term. I think it should be looked at as everything should be tried at least once with someone you trust.
And 707 little quip about love was saying that you would NEED love to experiment NOT that you need to experiment to prove you love someone.

I'm not here to tell anyone what to do though, its just my personal philosophy.

Second there is no need for "damned" language. This is an adult forum let's try to keep it adult like.

Third a lot of members here are ignorant and you must pick and choose accordingly. There are also a lot of trolls and people who can't speak a word of english (it appears they use google translate or something). Might as well just ignore them.

Everything tried at least once you say?! Do you apply that same philisophy to drug and alcohol use? What about robbing a convience store or bank, what about some poor old defensless couple on a fixed income just so you can say tried that just once? I've had many opertunities to snort cocaine, shoot heroine, smoke crack and pot but never crossed that line because I simply was not in the least interested and knew without a doubt that those substances were not compatible with the life I wanted to live. The same goes for anal sex. I don't have to try anyting I don't want to, and I'm not obligated to anyone as far as body goes. So you can call me ignorant and a troll it doesn't bother me in the least because deep down I know that most men feel threatened and inadaquate by strong women who know themselves and don't need a relationship with a man to be happy and fullfilled in their personal lives.

Yes I apply the same advice to drug use. Especially sharing intravenous needles.

People on this site astound me still

Oh and once again you completely missed the ENTIRE reasoning behind my post. I was calling 707 ignorant and a troll. That's why I said YOU must pick and choose your battles accordingly. But my guess is you have it in your head to fight with anyone who dares opposed you since you were so quick to jump at me.