I'm a homosexual male, usually of bottom (catcher/passive; the partner that is penetrated) inclination. While, I usually do not engage in anal sex, I have been getting serious with my current partner. My issue lies in the fact that I feel uncomfortable with anal sex afterwards, feeling dirty (b/c of feces; physically, not emotional/mental).
While it is pleasurable for me and him, I feel like I can't seem to do "enough" to be as clean as possible (all jokes aside, please). While he has no issues with it, I am trying to find any information from others (men and women as well, sorry if I offend anyone not the intention) on what are their practices to prepare for anal sex; before, during, and/or after.
As of this moment, I currently use different soaps, make sure the surface is as clean as possible, have a bowel movement several hours before hand, and usually (if I have time) will use a lukewarm water enema to clean the immediate area inside the anal cavity.
I know this may seem odd, but no matter how much I look into it, not much is said about this other than "take a shower" or "wash up".
Thank you for your time