My girlfriend and I had anal play and anal sex for the first time this weekend. while i started off with my finger i felt something very hard and rough inside her anus. it felt like some sort of bone. I was confused as to what this was but did not ask her because i did not want to ruin the mood.
I soon forgot about it as we moved on to anal sex. Everything was going good but then the smell kind of got to me and poo was getting lots of places. We stopped and both washed up. I noticed that i had gotten a sore on my penis from rubbing on the hard thing inside her.
What is it that is inside her? Is everyone like that or is it special to her? What can i do to stop the rubbing? What can i do about the smell?
Was the hard thing directly in? or off to the side?
I hate to say...but it was probably hard poo! lol
It was about three inches inside. We were in the doggystyle position and it rubbed the top part of the head of my penis. it was on the back side of her i guess.
Can poo solidify inside of you and just not come out?
Yeah it just kinda "hangs out" in there till you feel the urge to go.
I dunno if that was it or not. I just know I've felt it on myself *yikes* lol and then you mentioned it was "messy". So I thought that might have been what it was.
Talk about running before you had perfected walking - Jeez!
Look, anal sex is messy and why in the name of god weren't you wearing a condom????? *smacking him upside the head*
Beginners should not be going for the archane without preparation. Yes you hear a lot about anal sex but you DON'T hear what she does to prepare for it which btw is rather gross - to put it as delicately as possible - it goes under the heading of "cleansing the bowels". Being careful with your diet beforehand is also important. Heavy lubrication and he wears a condom always.
I did start off by wearing a condom. but halfway through she told me that i didn't need to. we were both thinking about birthcontrol and feeling but not the health part. It sort of just slipped my mind. and we did use lubrication. there was no pain for her.
what does this bowl cleaning process involve? what are the ways to clean it up a bit?
Usually includes an enema! yikes! lol
I was also going to ask if she "noticed" this bone you were hitting. Usually you feel something?!? Was it her tail bone?
I have no idea what it was. I have never been up that spot before so i was hoping that somebody else might have had the same situation or knows more about that anatomy
I guess if you went straight towards her back you could be hitting the tail bone?!?
Honestly, I think you hit some hard "fecal material" needs to increase the fiber & water in her diet...and excrete all that waste. Just think you probably drove it up more! LOL!
Condoms are a must b/c of the infection risk to you (and to her if she tears microscopically)...you will end up in the docs office being treated for foreign bacteria in your urethra!
If she is "regular with her bowels" then all should be clear and not too messy. Lube does decrease the mess, the odor? well play in the septic system and what do you think it will smell like?
I am not "knocking you" just pointing out the obvious for you. realize what your sticking yourself in!!! Those who engage in anal at times run risks---small tears to her, painful defecation, infections for you both....yes, it can be enjoyable but reserved for those who know how to "tidy up" before hand.
I hope you washed well after and voided to cleanse the urinary tract...drink plenty of fluids. Dab some triple antibiotic ointment on the penis for the next few days. Any increase in symptoms seek a doc for an evaluation, antibiotic, and treatment...For now keep the "sore" washed with soap, clean, and air dry. Reapply the ointment after each cleansing of your penis!
It's a bit controversial among medical pundits (and I'll probably get flack here for suggesting it) but using an emptied Fleet enema bottle filled with warm tap water will rinse out fecal matter left in the lower bowel. Many doctors don't recommend it because it can irritate the colon lining and excessive use can lead to dependence. I've used them for years and never had a problem, but your mileage may vary. ;)
Damn...Yea, you ran into something...bad, LOL. I've ran into ..."it" before with no real trouble. Right afterwards clean up with some antibacterial hand soap (if not take a shower). and pee, as has been stated in previous post.
-Sera, if you pee right after, and clean up the exterior of the penis very well, is there really a need to use a condom (assuming that both parties are STD free and monogamous?) I'm somewhat new to anal sex, but I've heard from guys who have been doing it for 30 plus years, and say that they have never had any problems. I know that there is always a risk of things going wrong, but are the percentages of some kind of infection that high?
[quote=DVDBear;200504]It's a bit controversial among medical pundits (and I'll probably get flack here for suggesting it) but using an emptied Fleet enema bottle filled with warm tap water will rinse out fecal matter left in the lower bowel. Many doctors don't recommend it because it can irritate the colon lining and excessive use can lead to dependence. I've used them for years and never had a problem, but your mileage may vary. ;)[/quote]
Fleets are fine if there is "bowel difficulty". However, if a good diet is maintained and stool is soft it should not be "Hanging out" there like that! Oh, DVD...Perhaps you just like the fleets! LOL!!! :)
Higher fiber diets, regular elimination, predictable bowel patterns, all help with these matters. Drink plenty of water & eat your veggies & fruits!!!! :)
[quote=cjb1981;200506]Damn...Yea, you ran into something...bad, LOL. I've ran into ..."it" before with no real trouble. Right afterwards clean up with some antibacterial hand soap (if not take a shower). and pee, as has been stated in previous post.
-Sera, if you pee right after, and clean up the exterior of the penis very well, is there really a need to use a condom (assuming that both parties are STD free and monogamous?) I'm somewhat new to anal sex, but I've heard from guys who have been doing it for 30 plus years, and say that they have never had any problems. I know that there is always a risk of things going wrong, but are the percentages of some kind of infection that high?[/quote] You should use one since the bacteria present in the colon is nasty stuff! Many never have an issue but it's not pleasant when you do! Clean first with warm mild soap, void, drink lots of fluids, have some Cranberry juice (not the sugar stuff) and wash again...Much of a persons choices depends on personal risk choices and knowledge. I do not condone not using them but I do have "condom phobia". Medically I know it's bad, so is smoking, and fatty/poor diets! And I know Chocolate is not one of the "Basic Food Groups"!
If it is "fecal material", I don't think that she knows that it is there. How would i bring this up? It would be kind of akward to talk about. she would have to use an enima to get it out?
[QUOTE=HOTFIRE;200509]If it is "fecal material", I don't think that she knows that it is there. How would i bring this up? It would be kind of akward to talk about. she would have to use an enima to get it out?[/QUOTE]Diet is the most important thing in "keeping the pipes clean", so to speak, but there is always a possibility of some residue, and no, you wouldn't necessarily know it's there. Personally, that's why I use the Fleet bottle . . . . it cleans out the lower bowel (the only part you're worried about in sex) without putting too much water up there . . . . you don't want that either! It sounds like your previous encounter was messy, so she obviously had to be aware of it. It's awkward, but find a diplomatic way of mentioning it would be a better experience for both of you if that part wasn't repeated and discuss the options. There's tons of info on the web the two of you can read as well as books and stuff.
[QUOTE=sera300;200507]Fleets are fine if there is "bowel difficulty". However, if a good diet is maintained and stool is soft it should not be "Hanging out" there like that! Oh, DVD...Perhaps you just like the fleets! LOL!!! :)
Higher fiber diets, regular elimination, predictable bowel patterns, all help with these matters. Drink plenty of water & eat your veggies & fruits!!!! :)[/QUOTE]I keep my eyes open for when the fleet comes in, that's true Sara. lol
But just to make clear, I did say EMPTY Fleet bottle. Don't use the actual liquid that it comes with, that stuff IS harsh (and unnecessary).
I've never tried anal sex. To be honest, I've never really sought it, and after reading some of the comments on this thread I feel even less inclined to want to try it!
Most guys aren't all that great at regular sex and then they go for anal PFFT! Silliness.
You wear a condom to prevent infections, and I'm not talking just STDs. Even if you sprayed your cock with Lysol,tm, beforehand - wear the condom.
Jeez, you guys make it sound like condoms are the instant kiss of death instead of the essential tool on your kit.
She was on her period and didn't want to have sex. So we thought that we might try anal sex.
>Jeez, you guys make it sound like condoms are the instant kiss of death instead of the essential tool on your kit.
Have you ever had to wear a condom? It takes away 90% of the feeling. I know that it is necessary, but that doesn't mean i have to like it.
Yeah, yeah, yeah but trust me on this one - you get an infection and you DON'T want to feel then, but you will. BIG TIME! So either you wrap it up or you take risks that prove you aren't mature yet. Only the head of your penis "feels" anyway. All the rest is compression which is not affected by condom usage.
She didn't want to have sex so you two thought you'd try anal sex? Excuse me? You still had sex - DUH!
BUT
There's more to sex than just penetration, buddy.
Next time - do body worship instead.
Sorry. I meant vaginal sex. she didn't want vaginal sex.
hotfire,
Every sexually active woman around has heard all the crap about condoms taking away the sensation. Try something new or take care of it yourself.
The infections EEK alludes to are not STDs, they come from having the enterobacteria from her rectum jammed up your urethra. The worst prostatitis and urethritis I ever saw in men resulted from unprotected anal sex. And it does notmatter whether her bowels are full or empty, the bacteria are still there.
Same message for cjb. Anal sex without a condom will eventually get you no matter how recent the enema.
Given the lack of understanding of the human body your posts indicate, you really should do some learning.
[quote=HOTFIRE;200556]Sorry. I meant vaginal sex. she didn't want vaginal sex.[/quote]Perhaps suggest her getting a menstrual cup and using it...this will eliminate some of the issues. Learn together...
I want to do some learning. But I don't think i will try anal sex again. Right now i am just kind of worried about my girlfriends health, and what could be done to help it.
If she is worried about it, she will take the action. Nothing you can do really.
I think period sex would have been less messy than all of this! LOL
And why are you worried about her health? It's you and your urinary tract that could have bacteria.
I am sure "most" people don't always have the healthiest diets and aren't always as regular as they should be... not necessarily "unhealthy" so to speak as in she needs help asap!
how long does it take for the symptoms of UTIs to show up?
Demon, I have to say that I agree with you! Vaginal sex even during her period is less mess than anal sex.
[QUOTE=HOTFIRE;200549]She was on her period and didn't want to have sex. So we thought that we might try anal sex.
>Jeez, you guys make it sound like condoms are the instant kiss of death instead of the essential tool on your kit.
Have you ever had to wear a condom? It takes away 90% of the feeling. I know that it is necessary, but that doesn't mean i have to like it.[/QUOTE]
Condoms take away 90% of the feeling? Damn...I've only had vaginal sex WITH condoms on. I guess I would probably explode almost immediately if I had sex without wearing one:rolleyes:
Only if you want your next title to be "DADDY" or "PATIENT", cjb.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;200628]Only if you want your next title to be "DADDY" or "PATIENT", cjb.[/QUOTE]
That's what monogamy and BCP's are for;) But as of now, and for the foreseeable future, condoms will play a part in my sexual escapades!
Good man, cjb!!