Okay, so me and my gf have been seeing each other exclusively for a long time and have tried anal sex without lubricant once in the past, needless to say it hurt both us, but we agreed to try again, just want to make it clear it was a mutual decision, but this time with lubricant. So my question is which brand of lubricant is best? after standing infront of the lube and condom section of the store i bought lubricant by 'lifestyles' then after i bought it,it occured to me, will it irritate her downstairs, or is any lube okay to use for both vaginal and anal sex. Any input would be helpful, and apologies if i double posted
Tue, 05/12/2009 - 08:28
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Anal Sex and Lube, overwhelmed
Here is an appropriate article for the two of you and any others reading this:
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.
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First, anal sex is not recommended by many of us in the medical profession. For those who chose to, poly condoms and lots of water based lube is recommended. K-Y or Surgilube are two brands that are hypo-allergenic. This combination of condom and lube will reduce the chance of any allergic reaction making this a bigger problem than it need be.
Regardless of what brand you use for anal sex, make sure it isn't a "warming" or "tingling" lubricant. They may feel great for vaginal sex, but burn when used for anal sex.
the lubricant i bought has this 'warming' sensation...so theres a sure chance it will irritate my gf ?
okay, me and my gf recently looked at the type of lubricant we have, it a lifestyles brand, 4play with a warming sensation, i've looked all over and cant find a answer, just need 100 percent confirmation about this lubricant is all, but still greatful for the heads up cjb1981:)... is this lubricant safe for anal sex? any input would be greatly appreciated,
^ No that lube will NOT be safe for anal sex. No Warming, no tingling on the label. I don't know what they put in that lube it make it warm, but according to a couple of women I know, it's the same feel as getting lemon juice in your eyes...only it's inside of your butt.
DO NOT USE WARMING OR FLAVORED OR AROMATIC LUBES OR CONDOMS. There is always a risk of latex allergy plus latex condoms are abrasive at a microscopic level. Poly condoms are hypoallergenic.
Water based lubes, plain K-Y or Surgilube are also hupoallergenic. This combination avoids possibility of reaction in either vagina or anus. The fancier, more advertised, added enjoyment things are marketing and contribute little or nothing good.
None of that warming or flavored stuff is ever going in me!
To make the point clearer to the guys in the audience - I once caressed a man's penis using warming lube. He had to drive home for 2 hours while his penis "tingled" and "warmed" inside his pants all the way home. OUCH!
Now imagine that sensation in your rump.
hmmmm, alrighty, thanks for the help:) once again the simple,less flashy solutions prove to be best, and for anyone who tried anal sex; Is anal sex once in a while...say once a month enough to damage the muscles in the butt?, even though me and my gf just wanna try it once. If its enjoyable we both said it wouldnt be a frequent choice for sex
"my girlfriend and I"" - you put the other person first so you don't seem a total lout.
Once a week? Once a month?
Look, just try receiving it once, with a penis-sized dildo, and then we'll talk about frequency.
However often the two of you are comfortable doing it. Her comfort level takes precedence for obvious reasons.
i always wanted to do analsex with my partner but she is afraid , she says its very painful.
any tips should be appreciated ?
Try receiving yourself first - should give you a greater appreciation for the issues involved.
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any tips should be appreciated ?[/QUOTE]
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The article that addresses your concern is this one:
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.
My gf prefers anal sex and we do it that way at least 3 times a week. The lube we use is made by WET. The aqua colored bottle marked "origional" is very good and we used that for quite a long time. We recently switched to WET Pleatinum. It comes in a black bottle. Her butt muscles are fine by the way. She exercises them as she does with kegl's for her vaginal muscles.
A couple words of advise for you both, if I may, DON'T SKIMP ON THE LUBE!ALWAYS keep her slick. Even though you are in agreement to try this, it is his primary job to make her relax as much as possibe and get her backside ready. As weird as it sounds, one of the best things I ever said to my gf to relax her was for to reaise that There probably isn't a whole lot of difference in size between my penis and her largest poop. lol, sry but but true. Talk to her, use your finger first.(Watch the fingernails). You will feel her anus relax as she gets used to feeling you in there. When you enter her with your penis, esp. the first time, you cannot possibly go too slow. Have her push against you with her muscles as she does whe using the toilet. This automatically relaxes those muscles as well. Take your time. If you go too fast, not only do you chance injury to her, She will feel like you are tearing her apart. GO SLOW and Good Luck.
I enjoy being taken from behind. It's awsomely stimulating when done right. I'm looking forward to her enjoying playing with me.