Me and my girlfriend have been talking about this recently, and i realy want too try it! She is not so keen though.
She says my penis is too large, when fully erect it's 8 inches. With quite a width too (not sure on size). Do you think it will be very uncomfortable for her, if im that size? Also it will be her first time. I dont want too hurt her in any way, so im a bit scared about it.
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;153203]Why are guys so obsessed w/ anal??
a tighter hole... I get that... but to put your g/f in discomfort or its always something you have to "persuade" them to do, so in the end, they are just doing you a favor.
I know, some women enjoy anal sex on a regular basis... but I think its safe to say most women don't care for it, but only do it for their guy... or even they refuse to ever try it.
I've done it once, and it wasn't that fun =\
Anal sex thread
this thread has some good links from Brandye and D. Doc referring to anal.
check them out as well.[/QUOTE]
I don't know if I'd agree with the assertion that most women don't enjoy it. Most women who don't learn to do it correctly probably won't enjoy it. Sadly, most of them (and the guys who want them to do it) just jump in and think you can stick something as large as a cock in there and voila, instant orgasms for everyone. It doesn't work that way unfortunately.
Just as with many other sex acts, some people aren't going to enjoy it, but I'm a HUGE fan of trying anything once (within reason). And, if you're going to try anal once, you should prepare for it and do it correctly so you won't have a necessarily bad experience with it. If it sucks the first time, of course you'll be reluctant to try it again.
If most women tried vaginal penetration once and it hurt or otherwise sucked and elected to not continue working on it and trying it until it didn't hurt, we'd have a lot of sexually frustrated people. Fortunately, they don't rely on just that one experience to determine whether or not they keep doing it. The same should be true for anal sex.
Open your mind a bit, make sure you prepare for it correctly, and see if you can't move around to where you do enjoy it. What do you have to lose?
im about 8 and when me and my gf did it it wasnt to much of a problem. get her really turned on and relaxed, a massage and some fore play for example and then make sure both her and you are well lubed up. also let her go on top that way she can conrtol it
My first anal experience was with a guy who was nine inches long, and it didn't hurt because I had prepared for it. That is *the* single best thing she can do to make it easier and more enjoyable for the both of you - prepare correctly.
I wrote an article for my web site about how to prepare for your first anal - print it off and give it to her, and make sure she actually follows it. If she does, I can almost assure you that it won't hurt her.
http://www.caitlainscorner.com/13/sex/sex_anal_prep.html
That link was a huge help, thanks.
Im worried that she will get annoyed if I send her the link, she may think im being pushy and cheeky, and decide she doesnt want too try it because of that.
Oh well, what have I got too loose, she wont be trying it unless i send the link?
Im just so desperate too try it, ive been suggesting it for 18 months! Im being patient, and polite about it, but I dont know how much longer I can wait!
I realy do love her too bits, but sometimes I wish she was into sex as much as I am. I wish she had a wild imagination like me, and wanted too try as much as me! But then i guess im glad ive found someone special, so perhaps I should be grateful for that! :)
Why are guys so obsessed w/ anal??
a tighter hole... I get that... but to put your g/f in discomfort or its always something you have to "persuade" them to do, so in the end, they are just doing you a favor.
I know, some women enjoy anal sex on a regular basis... but I think its safe to say most women don't care for it, but only do it for their guy... or even they refuse to ever try it.
I've done it once, and it wasn't that fun =\
Anal sex thread
this thread has some good links from Brandye and D. Doc referring to anal.
check them out as well.
I have written quite a few posts on the matter. I believe you should forego anal intercourse in favor of fingering and perhaps a toy of some sort later. Much later, if at all, you can rethink the matter of introducing your penis. There are a lot of reasons not to do this and plenty of reasons to limit your sex play to fingers and toys.
Here are three typical posts for starters. You can keep searching and also reading the "Sticky" thread at the top of the Pleasing Him thread:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/16603-first_time_anal.html?highl...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_her/17995-she_fingered_me-3.htm...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/18398-1st_time_anal.html?highlig...
The time I tried it, it wasn't the pain part. Once you insert, that goes away pretty quick. We went slow and used a lot of lube. The feeling wasn't pleasant. It feels like you are taking a crap, and the day after I was gassy and had diarrhea lol. Thats no fun!!!
I am just saying that "most" women must not care for it or are not keen to the idea b/c every week there is a thread started saying
"I really want to have anal but my wife/girlfriend is afraid...how can I convince her to try?"
[QUOTE=demonbuttercup;153254]The time I tried it, it wasn't the pain part. Once you insert, that goes away pretty quick. We went slow and used a lot of lube. The feeling wasn't pleasant. It feels like you are taking a crap, and the day after I was gassy and had diarrhea lol. Thats no fun!!![/quote]
LOL! I agree with that. I think that is largely an aberrant experience, though. I've experienced gassiness (?) maybe a couple of times in the 5 years I've been doing anal. I don't disagree with your comment about it feeling like you need to take a crap, but to me, one of the good parts of anal *is* the feeling of fullness I get. I don't recall what I thought about that the first time I did it (I was too busy cumming), but I did later recognize it.
[quote]I am just saying that "most" women must not care for it or are not keen to the idea b/c every week there is a thread started saying
"I really want to have anal but my wife/girlfriend is afraid...how can I convince her to try?"[/QUOTE]
Well, those whose girlfriend/wife let them do it wouldn't be here asking for advice, so that probably isn't a good measure. ;)
Has anyone had this done to them?? Do you like it?? I have done this to my girlfriend a few times and she seem to like it. I just want to see if anyone else does it and likes it? Opinions?
It's all good until someone catches a "fart" in the eye!! :eek: :D :D
Ok.. if you want to try anal with a girl, you have to bring the subject up in every day life first. If she dosen't like it the first time, just tell her to think about it. Wait a couple of months, then bring it up again, tell her you saw a forum (this one) where other females said they liked if. If she says no again, wait again, never force it. Wait a few more months, then ask again. If your partner becomes irritated, drop the matter right then and there. No good will come from pushing a matter that upsets your partner. If she does say yes or doesen't get mad but still says no, tell her to look it up if she might want to. If you ask her a fourth time, ask her if she looked it up, if no drop the argument, if yes, ask her if it intersted her, if no drop the argument, if yes, ask would we be able to do it in the next case of intercourse. This one varies.. She can say no, and you can still push it, or she says no and looks somewhat mad, drop it. If she says yes, try to go find some really good lube. For anal sex I suggest you use a condom everytime. It cuts down on the cleanup time if feces happens to stick, and it is somewhat lubricated already, it also protects from STD's. Referance her to a site that has tips on how to introduce yourself to anal. Hopefully your partner will like it. Never press the matter if your partner seems upset!
i tried anal with my g/f last weekendand she liked it, but she was lil nervous in my opinion
I had a very bad experience in a past relationship with anal..the bf tried to force it in me and I was scared for many years...my motto was it's an exit not an entrance.
I now have a loving, caring bf who knows about the past experience and is undestanding. I trust him fully, so now we have ventured into anal play, we have even talked about taking to the level of rimming.
I never dreamed I would enjoy having anything in my ass, but I actually enjoy the feeling now. We have not tried anal sex just yet, I'm still a little nervous, but eventually I want to try it.
My wife and I tried anal once, a long time ago. We were not impressed.
She really likes to be played with down there, but NO penetration. Toys are OK.
I don't really get into anal scenes in porn. I the movie, I'm looking at a FINE woman getting it in the butt hole, and my first thought is: "There is a fantastic pussy right THERE! Why go for the hole?"
Of course, if that's what floats her boat....
Haven't really done full anal sex with her taking most of me. We have ventured with some stimulation in the area and done some finger insertion. She loves some rimming with my finger during oral sex which is what we do the most. There have been some times when I will use my penis to do the rimming and she has really enjoyed that. A few times while rimming with my penis she has pushed against it and part of it has gone in just a little ways. I have always let her control this and the depth of insertion. This has only happened if there is plenty of lubricant in the are. She has buried the head a few times but that is as far as she has taken it. After a few minutes she pulls away. There was a period of time that this was happening with more frequency, so I bought some condoms to wear in case she wanted the full thing so the clean-up would be easier. But then it has tapered off and I still have the condoms in case she brings it up and wants to try again. This is something that cannot be forced and must be taken at the speed of the women and she should control the insertion especially the first few times.
I've found that the longer we talk about anal the better it is when it happens. So, sometimes months go by, while we trade barbs like "I can't wait to cum in your sexy ass..." or "next time you're in my ass I want to be sitting on you..." So, the extended foreplay makes it better and better...
I wonder what happens to people in old age after a lifetime of anal sex? The anus IS an exit, not an entrance. Is it just a distraction from having to deal with higher, more complex levels of mature love and complete vunerability and honesty--you know that I word: intimacy. Gay men have no choice if they want penetration. But for hetero couples....why?
if ur gonna have anal sex with someone try having her give blowjob to lubricate.
is sperm a lubricating substance?
can u use it to anal?
is "pussy juice"" a lubricating substance?
can u use it to anal?
just make sure your well lubricated, and really arroused.
try playing a little beforehand, so its not a totally new sensation for her.
it will be uncomfertable at first, even if she doesnt say so.
[QUOTE=wshyonw;155443]I wonder what happens to people in old age after a lifetime of anal sex? The anus IS an exit, not an entrance. Is it just a distraction from having to deal with higher, more complex levels of mature love and complete vunerability and honesty--you know that I word: intimacy. Gay men have no choice if they want penetration. But for hetero couples....why?[/QUOTE]
What an idiot. You think people use anal sex to avoid "higher, more complex level of mature love?"
You have no clue what you're talking about. Amateur psychologist. :rolleyes:
[QUOTE=Caitlain;153177]My first anal experience was with a guy who was nine inches long, and it didn't hurt because I had prepared for it. That is *the* single best thing she can do to make it easier and more enjoyable for the both of you - prepare correctly.
I wrote an article for my web site about how to prepare for your first anal - print it off and give it to her, and make sure she actually follows it. If she does, I can almost assure you that it won't hurt her.
http://www.caitlainscorner.com/13/sex/sex_anal_prep.html[/QUOTE]
The CC site has been updated in the past two days, so that link has changed.
The article can now be found at:
http://www.caitlainscorner.com/content/view/312/70/1/1/
I wish men who want anal sex would try it on themselves first. Give your girlfirend a strap-on the same size you are and then bend over. Fair is fair, buddy! Besides - you may like it! Wouldnt that be fun? Wash well afterwards!
Hey Evil
With your avatar you may be increasing the interest in anal amongst the male readers!!
That aside, men need to be aware of any discomfort that may occur and need to be concious of not inflicting pain but rather assisting to ensure pleasure, as many woman will attest to enjoying anal sex!
LOL just so, learning! But then they read my bio and find out I am a dominatrix. Yes some women (and some men) enjoy it and some don't.
Anal hurts especially if you are clumsy or inconsiderate. Got that, guys? So proceed with caution, care, concern and a lot of lubricant. A vibe in the vagina is a good idea as well,
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;157181]I wish men who want anal sex would try it on themselves first. Give your girlfirend a strap-on the same size you are and then bend over. Fair is fair, buddy! Besides - you may like it! Wouldnt that be fun? Wash well afterwards![/QUOTE]
That does seem a good point!
My girlfriend will only let me try anal if she sticks something up my as first, but fair is only fair :)
Im quite looking forward to it! :D
Then may I recommend a lightly lubed vibrating anal probe. If used when also giving him oral - it is quite likely to blow off the top of his skull when he orgasms since that will also catch HIS G-Spot - yes they have one as well.
My lovers tell me it is a mind-bending experience. VERY INTENSE!
i personally dont like anal sex, neither does my girlfriend, im afraid she doesnt clean her butt well after she takes a crap