Is this the right board to post this on??? If not please say as first time on this forum. Ok, this is the issue. I REALLLLLLY want full anal sex with my bf. We do everything else anally but the problem is: If I use a butt plug (it's one that's quite narrow at the top and bulges out at the bottom) I cannot get the bulgy out bit to go in, even with lots of lube, even just me doing it, or with bf doing it and me really turned on. It just will not go in. I find, interestingly, that as I'm getting more turned on my anus seems to tighten with the pleasure!
But as for getting a cock in there, no chance. And yes we've done all the go slowly stuff, lots of lube but it just will not open up beyond a really minimal width. I have had three surgeries on my rectum/anus in the last 2 years - I wonder if scar tissue is preventing stretching? I never get to the point where my anus is open as you see on videos - can't imagine that ever happening!
I love all the anal stuff we do so far and nothing makes me noisier than when we use anal techniques but I sooo want to go the full way and it's getting really really frustrating that we can't do it when we both really really want to. I have very good communication with my partner and he is totally able to be trusted in terms of he will stop instantly if I ask, he goes as slow or fast as I like, he's really good like that and it's not a case of I'm worried he will do something to hurt me. I fully trust that he won't. Ideas anyone??? Have just ordered a special anal gel with mild anaesthetic in it just to see if that helps a bit. What tips does anyone have??
...and, more to the point, that type of butt plug is not supposed to go all the way inside!
The tip goes inside, the bulge remains outside. You get stimulation inside and out this way.
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Hey there am medical student .... And for ur record there are alot of nerve endings in anus and as u said that u had 3 surgeries there so of course there should be effect on those nerves there .... So u shouldn't try to hurt ur self for pleasure ... I know that anal stuff is the best but u can use anal forplay only ... Hope ur anus gett better to have a full happiness :)
And never use anything that dulls the nerves! Things hurt for a reason and you need to listen to your body.
You have had surgery. I suggest you consult with your doctor on this.
You may not be able to have full on anal. Yes, it is frustrating but you have to face the reality that for you it may be impossible.
See what your doctor says first.
With three rectal surgeries, I can absolutely assure you that scar tissue is limiting what the already limited flexibility allows you. I can also assure you that you will not like the consequences of continuing to attempt to stretch yourself. Not tomorrow, but a few years from now, the result will be incontinence and wearing a nappy full time.
Tak Evil's advice. Ask your doctor what the consequences of anal sex will be for you. Many of us enjoy anal play but still are not willing, or able, to allow penile penetration. In your case, do what you can enjoy, not what what will harm you.