I love anal! BUT I have a lot of friends that won't even try it. If you and your partner are both open to it, it is SOOOO worth it! I think she is thinking about it to much and not relaxing her muscles. I'll tell you what I do. Ususally when my man is eating me out, he gets me really wet, and gently slides a finger up my ass. And it is usually when I'm not expecting it. He never stops his tounge action, and he slides his finger gently in and out. He does that for awhile the adds a second finger. When I am used to his 2 fingers, sometimes he lubes up an anal plug a gently puts it up me, when I am used to that and if he hasn't cum yet he'll lube up his dick and my ass really good and his dick slides right in. The feeling is amazing!!! If your girlfriend can relax enough I'm sure she will enjoy it and it will become part of your daily sex play!!!

1. LOTS of lube.

2. Cleanliness (well...this should come before lube, but you get the idea). $5 at your local drug store, you can get a rectal syringe (it's not actually a needle), which can be used to clean before play. do it.

3. Build up. Fingers first, then toys, then a cock-sized toy that she controls herself, then anal. This should be done over WEEKS, not a day. It took me 4 weeks to be able to handle a cock properly, and even then it was a bit odd at first.

4. It ALWAYS feels odd at the beginning. As the thrusting continues (slowly, mind you) the feeling will go away.

5. DO NOT use anything that numbs the area. If she's in pain, it's because she's damaging something. She needs to feel the pain.

6. Let her control how fast you go in. Rushing anal and having her tense up will be a horrendously painful experience. I know, as my first experience with it was horrible. If she's in pain, STOP, pull out (let her control the pull out, as too fast could hurt her more), then hold her while she cries for what could be a while.

7. It's better to try it after she's had an orgasm, as she'll be more relaxed.

8. Have fun!

Many women appreciate anal play, especially during cunnilingus, whether or not they eventually want anal penetration by a penis. The stimulation results in the sphincters becoming tense and these are the most powerful muscles involved in orgasm. Great stuff and it does not require penetration, only pressure.

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> Are there really not that many women who like it for themselves?

To each her/his own. For women, liking it depends much upon how she was raised and what her parents, community, and church have taught her. If she has done a lot of reading and has an open mind and broader approach to all things romantic and sexual, then she will probably be interested as is your girlfriend.

I also recommend anal play wait until the receiving partner is very highly aroused. When s/he is, then all these activities inside and out can greatly increase pleasure and help jumpstart a difficult orgasm for a man.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

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Okay - I do NOT like anal - why? Because it HURTS - duh!

Not exactly what one's anus was meant for was it?

Yes, SOME women like it SOMETIMES, and SOME women do it because they're psuched into it by their bf's who saw it on some pornographic video and thinks that's neat I haven't done that, and SOME women prefer it to all other forms/activities.

My take on the entire issue: men are the one's with the P-Spot, direct stimulation & benefit, which is accessed via their rectum (anal sex) and yet the vast majority of men refuse to even try it but these same men have no problem pressuring their female partners into permitting anal sex even though women do NOT have a P-Spot and reap only indirect "benefit" from anal intercourse.

Thus, the subject irritates me Nevertheless, since some women are into anal sex/anal play - I'd tell you to FOLLOW HER LEAD. THIS gf enjoys a bit of anal play: fine. But ONLY go as far as SHE wants and don't 'push' for more.

Just because you could have sex while hanging from the chandelier doesn't mean you should/must.

[QUOTE=Brandye;243373]Many women appreciate anal play, especially during cunnilingus, whether or not they eventually want anal penetration by a penis. The stimulation results in the sphincters becoming tense and these are the most powerful muscles involved in orgasm. Great stuff and it does not require penetration, only pressure.[/QUOTE]

I assume that you still hold to the view that anal intercourse has its inherent dangers due to the nature of the rectum itself?

Do a search on anal and you will find my rants against anal sex. No penis will ever go there for me. No question. Digital stimulation of the perineum of sphincters, however, requires no, or very little. penetration and gets many more muscles ready for the grand finale.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;243398]Okay - I do NOT like anal - why? Because it HURTS - duh!

Not exactly what one's anus was meant for was it?

Yes, SOME women like it SOMETIMES, and SOME women do it because they're psuched into it by their bf's who saw it on some pornographic video and thinks that's neat I haven't done that, and SOME women prefer it to all other forms/activities.

My take on the entire issue: men are the one's with the P-Spot, direct stimulation & benefit, which is accessed via their rectum (anal sex) and yet the vast majority of men refuse to even try it but these same men have no problem pressuring their female partners into permitting anal sex even though women do NOT have a P-Spot and reap only indirect "benefit" from anal intercourse.

Thus, the subject irritates me Nevertheless, since some women are into anal sex/anal play - I'd tell you to FOLLOW HER LEAD. THIS gf enjoys a bit of anal play: fine. But ONLY go as far as SHE wants and don't 'push' for more.

Just because you could have sex while hanging from the chandelier doesn't mean you should/must.[/QUOTE]

I totally agree with kitten. Its also dirty and messy. I cant give a head after that. Even the thought of my shit entering my pussy disturbs me. We a pusy and mouth. Isnt it enough for boys.

I am a big fan Anal to Woman because I can sperm in her ass.

Dale

I'm in the camp with those that don't like it. I've tried it under great duress and it was always a grit my teeth and bare it kind of thing. Then I got sick from it. Now it's forever off the menu. I think that the people, in general, who like that sort of thing are few and far between and they must have a genetic predetermination for their bodies to be receptive to being violated in an orifice that's made for one way traffic only.
If she's the one who is truely interested ( she may just be picking up on pressure from you, not the other way around ), then you need to tread lightly and proceed slowly. You could easily get carried away and mess it up for the both of you in the long run. Just because she likes a little finger during oral doesn't mean that she'll ever like or be able to tolerate full anal penetration of a penis.

She enjoys stimulation mostly on the outside and at times some penetration with a finger. It takes time to loosen up and you should be patient. She also likes me to go there during oral at times. We have tried penetration with my cock, but I always let her control the speed and length of penetration. We have never gone further than just getting the head of my cock in. It felt good for both of us, but any further and it started to hurt her. The tightness sure felt good on my cock.