Ok, I noticed there wasn't a top about bleeding and pain for anal. I think there is a great difference lol. But I have a few questions concerning the matter.
I had sex for the first time a few weeks ago. And when he first started doing it, it felt good. But after a few mins I started hurting and stinging. And I have been bleeding ever since. Although it started to die down. How do you make it so you can have anal sex? Is there a way to relax your muscles? HOw do you guys do it? (girls too ;))
You can also try those new "silken secrets". It's lube you squirt inside. It's made by astroglide, and yes, it does help. At least vaginally it does... so I'm assuming it'd work for anal too.
Tease is correct. If you are bleeding and it's not stopping you need to be checked out.
Now, relaxing. You want to use LOTS of lube. If you can go to an adult toy store, there are actually devices for applying lube inside as well as outside. Or just make sure you apply plenty as you work inward. Start out by fingering. Insert a little and retreat. Apply more lube every so often. As you get use to one finger, start slowly adding another. You want to work at this until the number of fingers is at least approximately the size of your partner's penis. Take your time and go slowly.
I probably don't need to say it, but wait until you are sure you are healed completely before trying to experiment again.
Take care.
First off, you really shouldn't be bleeding. You need to have that checked out. Since your butt isn't exactly the cleanest thing on your body, if something is wrong it can easily get infected.
Now, as for having it, you just have to learn to relax. Relaxation and lube is your best friend. Lots and lots of lube for that matter. Anal Ease is probably one of the best you're going to find for anal sex, but other recommendations are Astroglide and Wet.
I don't recommend KY Jelly for it... although I won't say it's impossible while using it... cause that's all I had when I did it.
I can't really give you keys on how to relax, you just have to learn to do it. Don't really think about it I guess. Just let it happen. Cause the more you think about it and the more you think "well, when is it gonna go in", the more you'll start to freak.