hi peeps,im new ere,and have a problem,ive been going out wiv my girl nearly to years now,shes a bit younger thn me,and im 19,and i wanna finger her arse,but she wont let me,is it worth trying to get her to?is it pleasuable to her?because thts the only reason i want to do it!!
she says she is totally satisfied,and there no point,but i wanna try it,ne advice please?!
thx
Sat, 11/16/2002 - 21:36
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anal fingering!
It is fine to discuss and try to persuade your partner to try something new ... after all, variety is the spice of life!
BUT (pun intended) after you've talked it through, if she ultimately says NO, then let it go. Whatever her reason, no-one should be forced or co-erced into doing something they really don't want to do.
If that's the case with her, think of something else that's fun to do and leave this one alone.
This is something that some find pleasureable and some find unpleasent. Naturally, there's no way of knowing whether your girlfriend will like it or not before she tries it, but if she starts the experience expecting to hate it she will be much less likely to enjoy it. Like ItalStall said, you should not try to pressure her into it, but if she changes her mind go for it!
i've finnished it now,lol,im not gonna keep hassling her about it,might try and play a bit wen were in the mood,maybe she will feel diffrent
cheers for advice,all taken aboard
Never force anyone to do anything, everyone is different, some people like it and some people don't like it. If she says that she doesn't want you do it, then don't force it, just leave it at that and try new things.
[QUOTE=Quote (Carl @ Nov. 16 2002,13:36)]hi peeps,im new ere,and have a problem,ive been going out wiv my girl nearly to years now,shes a bit younger thn me,and im 19,and i wanna finger her arse,but she wont let me,is it worth trying to get her to?is it pleasuable to her?because thts the only reason i want to do it!!
she says she is totally satisfied,and there no point,but i wanna try it,ne advice please?!
thx[/QUOTE]
I personally think that you should just enjoy whet you guy do. Alot of girls, like myself, do not like anal sex.
I hate hearing that if a gilr will not give into something just because she won't or doesn't like doing a certian act she is gone. That really makes you guys loook like .... well you know what I was going to say.
Perhaps you should show her how pleasurable it is by doing it to yourself while you are both haveing sex. That way your actions might convince her that it really is fun!
my bf tried to stick is finger up my anal but i cant seem to relax when he does it.. it feels odd! how do i relax!
[QUOTE=Quote (googlegrl @ July 19 2003,13:45)]my bf tried to stick is finger up my anal but i cant seem to relax when he does it.. it feels odd! how do i relax![/QUOTE]
Have him put a little lube on his finger before he does it. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubrication, so inserting anything into the anus without lube tends to be more uncomfortable. Lube will not help you relax, but it will make inserting a finger easier and, hopefully, more pleasurable.
Is shes satisfied with your sex life and you only want this for her...then its good you let it be.
She'll might come around, perhaps with age or just in your relationship.
It wasnt til I was about 22 or 3 and married that I actualy allowed myself to try it.
Live life.
Good luck.
Yes, I agree. I think that usually anal sexploration becomes much more interesting and appealing to women as they age. Perhaps it is simply an issue of sexual maturity or even just getting to "know" oneself better. But I have found that usually by the early 30s women have become much more enthusiastic concerning anal fingering, etc.
I think from my perspective it was becoming more confortable with my own body.
Well you said what you needed to say and ask her is it not her thing?
CUZ IF NOT THEN DON'T ASK AGAIN! SHE WILL GET PISSED
Try and look things up on fingering ARSES
Read the articles that come up and ask her if she is worried about things and if she is look up things that will help her change her mind. She may not be confortable but do not bring it up a lot just look it up and print it out and just put it on the table or hand it to her and tell her to read to see if she is interested. DON'T ask her all the time cuz she could get pissed at you and resent it and never do it with you.
Yes, I agree with nodoubt. Bugging her about it will only unnecessarily piss her off and make everything else worse.
1-Relax, enjoy what you already have.
2-Don't fixate on things that may never be attainable.
Sometimes though, things may turn out to suprise you if you're cool about this kind of issue and show some class, while ALWAYS respecting your woman's preferences and wishes.