I've mentioned it before but I'll do so again . . . . be it man or woman, if done slowly and correctly anal sex should not require a desensitizer. If you're experiencing pain try to figure out why and correct it. Pain is your body's way of telling you something's not right, and if you numb yourself you're taking the risk of doing real damage and not being aware you're doing it.

> So I am curious as to anal desensitizers those here might have come across in their experimentations.

There are three reasons I can think of why this is the wrong thing to do.

First, the outside of the anus and inside along the sphincters are rich with sensitive nerve endings. Why numb them when they are capable of providing so much intensity to what you are experiencing from other forms of caresses?

Second, why numb the penis? I understand the desire to last longer, however, that desire or need and numbing seem to be at cross purposes.

Third, why aren't you looking for and asking about other ways, methods, or techniques by which you can gain and maintain control?

> My Fiance and I engage in anal play and have been using china anal balm lately. it seems to be the better over others tried, but we have only tried 2-3 cremes really.

> What might stay longer or numb more?

Better me thinks to ask: "what method or technique can we use in order for me to last longer?"

Answers:
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation

Master the exercise in order to learn to associate the sensations and feelings that precede a climax so that you can maintain control. You can then pause, FREEZE!, or pull out until the sense of urgency subsides.

Another thing you can do is to masturbate sometime before the romance begins.

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

> What product do you prefer and why?

Asked and answered. These are methods you can use that will give you all of what you want without taking away any of the pleasure.

Because you are new to the SI101 Boar and its forums, I recommend that you read the Index that is located right up there at the top of the main screen.

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

I hope this is of help. Good luck! Got questions?

[quote=tasty;200498]Dancingdoc: This isnt a case of premature ejaculation. This is for her comfort as this is not normal practice for us.

Im sure after things stretch, begin to accommodate, and its something we have engaged in several more times it will be much easier and require less assistance. For now it is something to help get started. Nothing will completely numb pain or make it un-feelable, only take the edge off so it can be more enjoyed. She enjoyed it very much when she was relaxed, numbed, and lubed enough before but there was pain as well as pleasure.[/quote]
Numbing creams such a topical lido. cause one not to feel the pain & can result in injury. Try giving her a glass of wine & get her tipsy first if you must try something...then she will relax. Focus on the positions...start with her flat on her belly...and work it....very slow until she wants more. Don't just try the "bend over technique". Or let her be on top and ease down while you stimulate her genitalia & hot spots...

[QUOTE=tasty;200498]
Im sure after things stretch, begin to accommodate, and its something we have engaged in several more times it will be much easier and require less assistance. For now it is something to help get started. Nothing will completely numb pain or make it un-feelable, only take the edge off so it can be more enjoyed. She enjoyed it very much when she was relaxed, numbed, and lubed enough before but there was pain as well as pleasure.[/QUOTE]Unless you're extremely large and are engaging in anal A LOT nothing should "stretch". RELAXING is the key component, and plenty of lube. Sera gives some great tips on how to approach it. Again, if she's experiencing pain she's either not relaxed, there's insufficient lubrication, you're going at it too fast or a combination of the three. If it's done correctly there should be very little discomfort.

[quote=DVDBear;200503]Unless you're extremely large and are engaging in anal A LOT nothing should "stretch". RELAXING is the key component, and plenty of lube. Sera gives some great tips on how to approach it. Again, if she's experiencing pain she's either not relaxed, there's insufficient lubrication, you're going at it too fast or a combination of the three. If it's done correctly there should be very little discomfort.[/quote]Even those who are "large" aka "well-endowed" it works with a slow and a patient approach. Things can stretch but return to normal by the next day---generally (unless there is damage). It's a muscle intended as a one way passage. Relaxing & breathing are essential.

First time--one guy thought doggie was a good approach! He just took a jab enough to make a hoot/hop/scream come out of me and never want to try it again! Over time, play first, then try insertion techniques...increase the size with stretching of fingers during giving her oral. Play, and then try a more flat body approach! Ease in stop for a moment until she relaxes and you can pass the sphincter without discomfort & massage her clitoris while you do this; kiss the back of her neck for erotic. No hard slamming! A bit of Champagne or Wine works wonders to relax and let the inhibitions down...just do not let her get "crocked"---then the sensitivity to pain changes and you can cause damage to her. Let her tell you when to push and do so slowly....remember what comes out daily is not always "small" in size or diameter... Sorry this sounds gross! Furthermore, do not do this regularly!!!!