[QUOTE=jurni;94088]my boyfriend really wants to try it, but we haven't even had actual sex yet, I just know from talking with him that its on his "to do" list. at this point, I'm 100% against it, the idea scares the heck out of me. I think it'll hurt, so I told him that if he lets me use a dildo or something on him, so he knows what it feels like, then I'd consider it. he flipped out at the notion and refused...so unless I get really kinky some night and change my mind, he's just gonna have to wait until he's willing ot experience it himself. but thats just my outlook.... [/QUOTE]
I'd do it... personally, anal stimulation makes me have the biggest boners of all times.
Kitty, just wondering; which one of the Pjur-series do you use?
And glad to hear your experience was that good! :)
i have found out three things about anal: there is no such thing as to much Lube, Relaxing is the key and LUDE LUBE LUBE! Lol…There is a website I love that has great advice on it and if you call the Customer service the girls are really great and knowledgeable. http://www.69adulttoys.com They told me about Pjur…best stuff ever! I use it for everything and it never wears out. Also one of the girls suggested to play with my ass myself to make me more comfortable with it all and it really did help. I got some fun beads and used them in the shower while masturbating…worked great cause when I did it with my boyfriend I was relaxed and felt comfortable and So for me when I finally relaxed and used plenty of lube everything went the way it was supposed to and it was GOOD!!!!!!
Pjur made a name for themselves offering one of the first silicone lubricants. If referring to one of those for anal sex please check the posts here regarding anal sex and silicone lubricants. It works well and lasts forever, and that is the problem.
For me, anal was always COMPLETELY out of the question... I shared the opinion of many of you on here, that it's a one-way street. Well, that changed when I met someone I love and trust completely. He suggested it after we had been together for a few months, but I said I wasn't interested, and he didn't push the issue. A month or two later, when I started my period, we got kinda randy one night, and I decided I'd at least try it.
It definitely hurt. It wasn't a very good experience, but we still do anal occasionally... Well, when the river runs red, take the dirt road xD
So long as I don't bleed from it, what's a little pain to make the guy I love happy?
[QUOTE=taylerrae;267123]So long as I don't bleed from it, what's a little pain to make the guy I love happy?[/QUOTE]
Please, dear taylerrae, be careful with yourself! Engaging in anal sex in that way is not healthy.
First; because anal sex shouldn't hurt, so it indicates you're doing it wrong. You could be damaging yourself!
Second; because sex should be about joy and pleasure! Enduring pain just because you want to make him happy, as a token of your love for him, is wrong! He shouldn't even ask you to do something that hurts; if he knows he is, or don't you let him know? Remember that love is not about allowing him to hurt you!
Please read this thread, it contains links to more information on anal sex as well:http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-him/29514-want-please-my-hubby-...
For anyone interested:http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-him/29995-lube-anal.html
:eek: just love my anal toys
For the women who do enjoy anal sex, I need some advice. My wife and I are very sexually active and are very into exploring our intense sexuality. We have had anal sex a few times, but not for about a year. We both want to do this again, but she is always reluctant at first because of my size. I am not bragging, far from it. Until we met and became sexually active, I had no idea what my standing was in this respect. I always thought I was average or a bit below because of porn and the fact that guys typically do not walk around the locker room with erections. My wife has measured me and we have researched online and much to my surprise I am above average (7.25"LX5.5"C 2"W). Once I am inside and she relaxes, she really likes it and typically orgasmed two or three times while stimulating her clit. She is a really vocal lover and she really seems to enjoy herself. Is there any advice you women can give me to make it easier for her to take me at first? We really want to do this more often, but I do not want to hurt her in order to do it. Please don't take this the wrong way, I am not doing this for ego, she is the love of my life and I really just want some tips or advice to make it easier for her to enjoy this.
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While written primarily for men, the steps and techniques discussed for penetrating the anus work for both men and women.
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In reply to Vixen, I have had anal sex(Given And Recieved once in my experimental days!), but unfortunatley have never had the proper chance to enjoy this with my wife! I really do find myself fantasizing about it alot as i know how enjoyable it can be and i actually think if its done right can be massivly pleasurable for both parties, but she isnt very keen on the idea. I would never do anything that she wouldnt wish to do, but really do think its beacause its such a - Taboo
the first time i tried anal was with a toy, and i found it so amazing. I used a small one first and got myself relaxed and then used my big one. :p
the feeling was so good especially with my clit tickler.
then i told my partner and we did it a few nights later i think it really gets him horny knowing what hes doing to me. ;) Ive gotta say the first time i did it with my partner it hurt but we took it slow and it then felt really really good. but yeah i highly recommend using a condom because the aftermath isn't fun lol
Of the girl friends I've done it with only one told me, after we broke up, that was the only way she could orgasm, with the others it was a trama.
There was also a girl who stated "You can do anything with me" which might have been an invitation but I stupidly did not get clarification. :o
Well said brandye. And never wear cheap panties
ok since it seems there are plenty of women and men on here that like anal sex. i have a question. my wife and i both enjoyed anal sex alot. in the past 5 years we have had 2 children and my wife does not enjoy anal sex any more, she will not even try it. i repsect my wife and her body so i would not force her or guilt her into it. i just wanted to know if this has happened to any one else and if so have you gone back to liking anal or is it one of those things that is just gone?
Hi Nom Noms,
Congratulations on your great experiences! But sorry to hear you've also experienced pain. First rule: always stop when it hurts. Respect your own body and listen to what it's trying to tell you.
The reason why it sometimes works and sometimes doesn't, could very well have to do with the subtle complexity of the anus. It's the place where the conscious and unconscious meets. I've made a post on this once, including links to other relevant threads you may find interesting: http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/29708-anal-sex-pleasurable-...
Coincidentally, I'm currently reading "Anal pleasure & health" by Jack Morin, PH.D, who's sometimes nicknamed "Dr. Anal". I'm about half way through, but think this may be exactly what you're looking for :) It describes how to really tune in and get in touch with your anus. As the title says; it's a guide to both anal pleasure and health, that according to Morin do not exclude each other at all. As he puts it: "a person who desires maximum anal enjoyment should follow virtually the same steps as anyone who seeks optimal anal wellness" More specifically it guides towards these objectives, as described in the introduction of the book:
[*]deepening awareness of the anal area and it's functioning
[*]total elimination of anal pain
[*]reduction of muscular tension
[*]replacing negative feelings and attitudes towards the anus and rectum with positive ones.
It contains information on the physiology, psychology, sociology, etc. It's meant to experience, not just to read, as each chapter contains exercises to explore yourself. I must say that even though I considered myself rather well informed before I started reading, I've certainly learned even more by now. And there's still half a book to go :) By the time I'm finished with it, I may post a more complete review.
Thank you :) I read your post and it actually really helps me to understand a few things that I did not always pay attention to or think about. There is a lot of information that I think I can put to good use.
Personally, i am still undecided about anal. I have tried it several times with my husband. On some occasions it's great. But on others I either have a **bathroom problem :(** or it hurts too bad, no matter how much lubrication there is, etc.
I haven't come up with a reason as to why it hurts so bad at times and not at others when the circumstances in each situation are practically the same. But I do hope that I can learn to get it under control somehow...so that it can better be enjoyed by both of us.
I completely agree with the above statement that partners should have safe words. It's very impoirtant that any sexual experience be pleasant and enjoyable without someone getting hurt because the other person does not know to stop.
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