The first time me and my boyfriend trie anal i really enjoyed it...more than he did in fact! but since then evey time he's tried its really hurt and ive had to make him stop before he's even properly in there. I was still willing to try but now I've read this and found out some of the down sides besides pain i think my ass is going to stay dick-free
I just wanted to make clear that what Rawbob means by "douching" is actually an enema. You can purchase the "Fleets" brand in most stores... ie: department, drug, or grocery... that have health and beauty supplies.
Most of the time the rectum is clear of fecal matter and a quick cleansing is more than enough to feel "fresh".
I have read through many of the posts and have a question for Rawbob and Brandey. My boy freind would like to have anal sex. I am somewhat hesitant because of hygiene. I would very much like to please him, but am a bit put off by the possibity of getting fecal matter on either of us or the bed. Rawbob suggested douching. Is this sufficient enough to cleanse myself? Thank you.
Can we get some sort of clarification to the anal sex and haemorrhoid issue (and other effects)? When I searched for information on this I read was that anal sex does not CAUSE haemorrhoids, but it can exacerbate EXISTING ones. Also the presence of haemorrhoids is so common in the population anyway, some say up to 50%, so haemorrhoids can be very common anyway.. Is there a link to an official study or something to give clarification?
I also want clarification on any other alleged effects like “a loose anus” because I am really just trying to inform myself and one moment I am hearing one thing and the other moment I am hearing the opposite, each side making it sound like hard fact and nothing linked to a scientific paper, or study or anything…can someone give me hard proven facts please, this is not fair.
Finally I will just say that anal sex, if done properly should not hurt, even for the first time, and the receiver should always dictate and be in control
Okay I have always been somewhat fascinated and curious about anal sex. But, there again the pain really scared me. Well, last night while i was searching for my inner slut! My hubby decided it was time, without telling me, and it hurt at first! But as curious as I was and turned on, I got out the lube and we took it really really slow. I had my first experience with anal sex, and after the initial pain, LOVED IT. It's so different to describe but, having developed hemorroids with the birth of my daughter 4 years ago was sore a little while afterwords.
Does anyone have any suggestions for me, I would love to try it again, esp since hubby now knows that you have to take it really really slow.
I know that it must have been a fantasy of his for awhile he's just never said anything but, through checking out the web pages he's looked at there have been several anal sex pics so I figured one day down the road lol.
And yes he knows that I look at the sites he looks at when he's not home, turns us both on lol.
Here's what i posted back in June, and still stand by it:
Anal sex, if done correctly, can be a wonderful addition to your sexual arsenal!
As was stated before, you should always use a condom for ANY sex, not just anal sex. And also, be careful to not perform anal and vaginal sex at the same time. This could cause an infection in her.
Now, for beginners, the most important things to keep in mind are the following:
1) Lube: Get it, use it - don't be stingy with lube during anal play, it helps!
2) Hygene: You sould use a douche before doing any real intense anal play. Not only will it allow for a more pleasureable experience, the introduction of feces during sex can be very uncomfortable and unhealthy.
3) Start Slow: From fingers to smaller and gradually increasing sized dildos/vibrators - slowly streaching the sphincter muscle is the KEY to enjoying anal sex.
4) Go slow: The anus is not the vagina, and so it's ability to streach and relax is tied directly to how much pre-penile insertion time you take.
5) Positions: Once you feel you've relaxed enough to take a penis in your anus, a good way to start is to have the person who'll be taking the penis to be on TOP and lower themselves on the erect penis. This allows THEM to control the pace and depth. You will find, that as he/she lowers herself down, the sphinter will almost actulally "release" and allow for full penetration. Again, for beginners, let the person being "F-ed" set the pace!
Closing note: Guys, if you're not letting your gal work your butt, you're missing alot! Only men have a prostate gland, and until you've felt a prostate being stimulated (by hand, toy or penis) you've not lived! IT"S GREAT!
OTHER THOUGHTS FROM PRIOR RESPONSES:
a) Anal sex is gross. I think this really dosn't bear much comment beyond looking at the member's online name. I will say this..."Me thinks tho dost protest too much"
b) Women have the clitoris, men have the prostate: Thats right, if God (however u envision him/her/them, etc) didn't intend anal sex to be pleasureable for men, why is the Prostate Gland an erogenous zone? The sexual pleasure from prostate stimulation is incredible. Can there be some discomfort from initial anal penetration? Yes. Is it prohibitively painfull? If done correclty and with loving intent - NO!
Many women on this very board have commented on how the first few times they had full vaginal intercourse that it was painfull, uncomfortable, slight bleeding, etc. Again, it's all about preparation, sensativity and communication.
PLEASE, i beg those of you who read posts like this to NOT be so overly demonstrative about something that MILLIONS of str8, gay, bi and lesbian folk engage in every single day!
Beautifully put, Hung! There is nothing less homosexual than having sex with a person of the opposite gender - no matter how.
I'm a girl who likes anal sex. While the pain was prohibitive my first few attempts, with a little practice and a whole lot of lube, I now look forward to it regularly. I find that being highly aroused and close to orgasm before insertion definitely helps ease the way. Even now, the initial entry is painful, but so so worth it once I warm up. Occasionally, I've begun to orgasm from it alone. I usually need a week or so to recover between anal sessions due to sphincter soreness and... er... difficulties in the bathroom for a couple days afterwards but my bf is very large and I like harder pumping so the latter problem may not be typical.
My bf is always eager to be on the receiving end of anal play but usually balks in discomfort once any penetration takes place. I generally just stick with my tongue in that area, though I love the idea of getting deeper penetration.
The moral of my story is: the butt is fun. It opens up a lot of doors as far as variety and intimacy. I understand that it's certainly not for some. Nevertheless, beyond actual anal penetration, I think it's important to be able to share every part of yourself with your partner, without guilt or shame or embarrassment.
It's all about intent. It's not the PHYSICAL ACT that makes you gay, it's the DESIRE to be with the person of the same sex. If a guy gets anally raped in prison against his will, he's not gay... he was raped. If you kiss your own arm, technically, that's a MAN'S arm you just kissed... YOU'RE GAY! * sigh *
Same goes with intimacy with a man & a woman. If the man is attracted to women and not men... he is not gay. EVN IF he likes anal play, or even if he likes using a dildo on himself or having HER use one on him to derive pleasure... it's not GAY if he still is not attracted to men and IS atracted to women. All it means is that it feels good and he's enjoying it.
Just because there's a vague similarity in a particular sexual act does not mean one is gay... heck, gay men kiss, so is kissing your girlfriend GAY...? Gay men will, at time,s penetrate their lover's anus... so if you penetrate your girlfriend's or wife's anus... does that make you gay... Why? Gays do THAT too...! No...
Most of the time, I see that it's a man's FEAR of his own sexuality that makes them react so strongly... it's not that they ARE gay, but they worry so much about NOT being gay that they read WAY too-far into things and it's a shame, because life is too short to worry about that stuff.
I have never participated in anything other than light contact in that area from my past and current partner. Never have I had any objects (other than thermometers & such as a kid) placed in there... but if it ever did happen... it wouldn't mean that all-of-a-sudden I find Harrison Ford a turn-on and I start sewing drapes for the spare bedroom.
It's kind of a spurious argument, when guys say you can't touch their butts because "it's gay." It's only gay if they're doing it with another man. Otherwise, it's just kinky. There's no way he's going to suddenly desire to be with a man if he engages in anal stimulation unless he's already attracted to men.
All the same, I'd suggest not frightening him with the dildo talk. Suggest he touch your anus while he's down on you, and tell him you'd like do the same to him. Then maybe after you've done that a few times, get some lube and help him insert his finger in you. Then talk about doing that with him. In my experience, guys are more receptive to being fingered while you're giving them a blowjob. I don't know if its a balance of power or what. So if he likes it you can include it in your repertoire. If not, at least he tried. If YOU like it, and want to try taking his penis into your butt, then at least you're anus is accustomed to receiving.
The point in all this is that by saying you want to use a dildo on him, probably evokes images of him with his butt in the air and you stuffing in a large object—roughly what he hopes to do to you. You shouldn't be subjected to that, and neither should he. Take it slow, and abandon it if either of you gets uncomfortable with anything.
Anal sex is great for a man, any man that says they'll never try it is missing out. For man or woman just make sure it's all well lubed. I've had many 'orgasms' doing anal fingering, playing with my 'g-spot' until I 'orgasm' but I've never manage to cum at the same time!
Jurni, the exact same thing happened with my ex! I told him that if he let me use a dildo on him so he can see how it feels that I might consider trying it with him. His arguement was that it's ok for a girl to be penetrated but not a guy because that's "gay" for a man to be penetrated. He had double standards and was an ass. I'm so glad I never did it with him.
Hi furryChinchilla. There are ALL kinds of lubes that will work. You want something that is waterbased. Ky jelly will work. I find it gets a little sticky, though. I, personally, like Astroglide or Wet.
[QUOTE=Quote (str8downtheline @ June 25 2004,17:13)]That is gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im dead against the use of anal sex or play. Mother nature did not intend for this. Thats what vagina's are for. The only way anal sex is acceptable for me is if your gay and you dont have vagina to stick it into.
I could throw up looking at some of these posts. ewwww and double gross!!!!!!!!!!!!
No way in hell am I doing anything of the sort!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Although I can understand and respect your opinion on the subject, I do disagree with your approach in expressing negativity on the subject in this open forum. No one is asking you to do it, try it or accept it... but your expression of contempt may be construed as insulting or demeaning to those who DO find this practice acceptible.
There are those in the world that feel that the act of intercourse is for PROCREATION ONLY, and not for mere enjoyment or pre-marital experimentation. Would you want to be told that you are WRONG and a SINNER for having pre-marital sex because of someone else's bias...?
Someone else said it better than me in the past here... if you want to get TECHNICAL... the MOUTH is not what "mother nature" intended to be used for sex either, it's for food & beverage consumption, Breathing and Speaking... NOT oral sex "That's just WRONG". Heck, at that point, you could also claim that mother nature never intended for latex to be put over a penis... condoms are WRONG... yes, I know I'm taking it further than needed, but the point still remains, it's all about personal preference.
Try to keep an open mind and respectful approach to OTHER people's opinions. I, for one, would never consider the act of utilizing urine & fecees into sexual routines... the thought of eating another person's excrement makes me gag... BUT... there are MANY people out there that practice that fetish. Would I do it...? Heck no! Is it "wrong"...? That's up to the individual(s). If they derive pleasure from it and it is acceptable to them... more power to them.
So... I get it. You do not wish to engage in that activity... but just be mindful that calling it "wrong" alienates those who DO find it acceptable, and there are plenty of them (us?) out there.
I'm not angry with you, just trying to share my opinion.
I never expected to be addressing this again. The old-timers are fully aware of my medical and personal opinions. Str8, however, needs some education. The strongest muscles that are involved in a female orgasm are the anal sphincters. Some anal play causes greater tension in them and both shortens the time for climax and greatly enhances the power of the orgasm.
Some women are totally against having their anus played with and, obviously, some men are not willing. That is no reason to declare the rest of us gross. I stand with my earlier position that no penis shall ever penetrate my behind but if those of you who are into it want to I simply recommend lots of lube and condoms every time.
That is gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im dead against the use of anal sex or play. Mother nature did not intend for this. Thats what vagina's are for. The only way anal sex is acceptable for me is if your gay and you dont have vagina to stick it into.
I could throw up looking at some of these posts. ewwww and double gross!!!!!!!!!!!!
No way in hell am I doing anything of the sort!!!!!!!!!!!!!
[QUOTE=Quote (duckie @ May 07 2004,14:27)]Part of me wants to try anal sex but then there's the part of me that thinks it's gonna hurt alot.... Maybe someone can enlighten or change my thoughts of it hurting?[/QUOTE]
Duckie, practice with yourself. I know as a mother you've given suppositories. Some lube on your finger and just play around back there. You may use latex gloves if you're squeamish. Just see how it feels. The key is lots of lube and take it slowly. Maybe try it sometime when you are masturbating.
You won't know if you like it if you don't try. But if you don't, don't sweat it. If it's not for you, it's not for you.
I'm brand new to this site, but absolutely had to respond to this topic. I used to HATE anal sex because I don't think I had experienced anything more painful in my life! I had no idea how to make it not hurt. I would be in doggie position waiting for penetration and trying not to tighten up, but doing it anyway and then getting the pain I always did and curling into the fetal position on the bed. Not very sexy!
All the tips I have heard on here are great! You definitely want to have the power to move back on the penis. You want lots of lube. But here is a tip I have been telling friends and have been getting tons of "thank you's" for!
1. Get a nice little vibe.
2. Get all lubed and ready in doggie position, if you like
3. Put that handy little vibe on your clitoris and just let that wonderful warmth start to head towards your pleasure zones.
4. Let him know when you're really relaxed and ready, he can be playing with fingers, gently touching, licking, etc in the meantime.
5. By the time you are really hot from the vibe, your anus is very relaxed. He can slowly start to guide his penis into your anus.
6. Move back and forth on him if you're not comfortable with him taking control yet.
7. Have a wonderful orgasm. he he.
I can usually cum in about 1 minute doing this and looove it! I'm like a guy and can't even begin to hold an orgasm back. It comes up on me sooo fast!
Part of me wants to try anal sex but then there's the part of me that thinks it's gonna hurt alot. Especially(excuse the grossness) after getting hemoroids from giving birth to my daughter. Maybe someone can enlighten or change my thoughts of it hurting? I enjoy watching anal sex on XXX movies and it really gets me turned on but then the pain thought sets in and to tell you the truth my man and I have never even dicussed it so I'm not sure if he's even into anal sex.
thetease13, take it slow use fingers first. my other suggestion be on top. the first time we tried it, i bend over and my boyfriend lubbed up and just worked it in. not the way to do it. i suggest maybe starting out vaginal with you on top then slip it out, add more lube if necessary, and then take it ever so slowly into your butt. you should also play around with fingers first in there.
[QUOTE=Quote (leggyho @ May 04 2004,06:39)]2. I opened up my inner slut. [/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Quote (Tessie @ May 04 2004,16:12)]Just want to say that I love that term. I have been working on my inner slut too and having a great time doing it. [/QUOTE]
Ladies, ladies, the term is NOT slut, it is "sexual over-achiever"!
ok.
so I'm supposed to try anal for the first time soon. (hopefully this coming weekend if everything works out right).
now it's not something I really want but it's working as a compromise so hey, he gives me what I want, I'll give him what he wants.
So anyways, the other day I thought well, I'll see what I can do with my vibrator, just to see how painful it was, and suprisingly, it wasn't painful at all really. I put a lot of lube on it and it didn't really hurt. It just felt weird. Now granted, I know his dick is bigger around than my vibrator (i'm trying to working my way up to my other vibrator since it's a little bit bigger around) so there's no telling if it would hurt with him or not.
I didn't get any stimulation from it, but then, I don't get any stimulation from vaginal either. Even turning the vibrator on does nothing. Go figure. lol.
so yea, anyone having problems or someone that's scared to try it, get a slim like plastic vibrator and some lube and see how well it works.
Great post...sounds like you two have found a good balance! Keep us posted on how things go....we've not had alot of "swingers" on here...and your experiences could prove very enlighting!
ps: My xwife and i were into swinging too..thats how i had my 1st bi experince!
My husband likes it too. I had a hard time getting over my fear of anal. At times I would agree just to please my husband. I really wasn't into it.
A couple of years ago, my husband and I started same room swapping with two couples. Things quickly went from making out with other people to full on sex. With the men's encouragement I even began to have experiences with the other wives and found that I really enjoyed lesbian sex. Two years later my husband and I are still fully committed to each other, but still enjoy frequent swinging.
It was during one of these swing sessions that I came to appreciate and love anal sex. I was making it with one of the other men (pretty hot and heavy). My husband came over and asked if he could go into the backdoor at the same time. I agreed. He used plenty of lube and I got my first "D.P.". I was so turned on having two guys inside of me. I have loved anal since that day. I attribute my new found love of anal to two things:
1. For me personally, the feeling of being filled by two men and the vaginal stimulation that goes with the anal penetration is exquisite. Even when my husband and I have anal alone, I use a dildo or vibrator to get vaginal stimulation. Before, I did not pay attention to that area and anal was not nearly as fun.
2. I opened up my inner slut. Swinging helped me embrace my inner slut where before I had tried to repress it and be a proper wife. Anal is taboo by its very nature. Opening up to a wild new sex life and accepting how much I enjoyed sleeping with other people really helped me accept other new things like anal. Of course swinging is not for anyone. But I believe it helps to really get into whatever makes you hot. Swinging, role-play, slutty-dressing, whatever.
Hubby loves it. But he only gets it on the most special of occasions or if I really need something. Makes a great bribe if it works. Which is my problem. It is so hard for me to get into it. I have had so many more horrible and painful times then good. I now would like to enjoy it but it still doesn't always work out. The moment I know its going to happen I freeze up and wait for the pain.
He has now thought that I should get to just learn to like it. So he has used his finger and just recently bought a very small butt plug which he has used a couple of times and I don't mind it.
He is very good at remembering and there have been a few times that I have truly loved it. Sooooooo its the ongoing goal to achieve enjoyment for us both. I always feel bad when it hurts and I can't continue. Poor guy.
We dabble in that area occasionally, and it does feel great, but not very deeply. We have also tried using anal beads and my wife loved them! (pull them out slowly just as she's cumming and it really adds to the sensation).
Lots of lube and taking your time is definitely a prerequisite in that area, though.
If she and you are ok with it, ask if she would be willing to give you anal penetration too so you can see how it feels. You may just be less inclined to start pumping away, if you know how much it hurts.
I had my first experience with anal two nights ago with my girlfriend. My girlfriend was feeling kinky and asked if I wanted to try anal. She had never done it before, and neither had I, so I was somewhat scared of hurting her. We took it slow, and it was very tight at first(note I kept asking her if it hurt at all) but after getting into it a little, she relaxed, and it became quite amazing. It didn't hurt her at all, and she said she enjoyed it somehwhat, not as much as vaginal intercourse, but she still enjoyed it. We plan to explore it further and try to make it more enjoyable for her. Im all for anal!
wow. There is such controversy over this. The thought of me giving my g/f hemorrhoids scares me, but I also get somewhat reassured when I realise that the first (and only) time we have had anal sex, she felt no pain, and only pleasure. I guess that is one of the benefits of not being a "large" man. She never complained of any pain. And if I think about it, many times feces is as large or even larger than what I have to give, so how much dammage can I do?
It was a very pleasurable experiance for both of us though.
i use to think the thought was gross...and then one time while having sex my bf was like, "you wanna try?" im like,"sure." only problem: we had no lube. it hurt like Hell and i told him to stop.
the next time we tried we used lotion and it still hurt like Hell and honestly, now I'm afraid to try it again. although he did finger me there a couple of weeks ago...weird, but im still afraid of the cock in my ass.
It make take several tries, but she will get used to it. We couldn't even do it until about the 3rd try, but now we can whenever we try. The key is to go slow. Sloooooow.
You've got all night. If you don't, then it's not the time to try anal. Pick another night when you've got plenty of time.
Well... we didn't just decide to attempt it and go for it right then & there... it sort-of built up to it. First there was anal play... I would 'touch' her in that area while she was riding on-top... but just a little here & there.
After she realized she liked it, she would moan or gasp a little more the next time I tried it. Pretty soon, I was rubbing the area and SLIGHTLY pushing the tip of my finger in on occasion.
Keep in mind, this is transpiring over a week or two's time.
When we talked about it, she said she wanted to try it, but was a little apprehensive, but it was HER that wanted to try... NOT me.
The next time, after we had sex for a while and were all "in the moment", she was lying on her side, back facing me and we were having intercourse in that position, I would take the tip of my penis and rub it up and down the crack of her behind. this drove her nuts!
I did that a few more times during different lovemaking sessions and one-day, she reached behind and placed the tip right there (which almost made me cum immediately, because it was such a turn-on). I let HER put pressure from HER side to initiate penetration. She was hesitant at first.
The first two or three times she tried it, she said she loved doing it but she was a little sore after trying to get it in... but after that... she was MUCH more tollerant. She'd get me 1/2 way in (moaning & enjoying it) but I would not 'pump'.
After maybe a week or so, we were at the point were she would put it ALL the way in and want me to phuck her ass with real thrusts and she was REALLY enjoying it. Somehow, like a lot of things, there was just the initial 'getting used to' period, and then she just LOVED it after that.
We still take it slow and only engage in it occasionally, but she loves it just the same.
Again... For ME, that's the turn-on, is HER loving it. If I were to ask it from her and she didn't want to, but did it because she felt obligated, then it wouldn't be good for me at ALL. But because it's something SHE wants and because it's only on distant occasions now, once I know she's about to initiate it... I have to try hard not to cum all over her ass before I even get it in.
"Happy humpin', campers...!"
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P.S. - The fact that I'm not "well-endowed" works to my advantage here. Not sure if she'd ever even consider it if I were 9" and thick as a beer can.
I have to say that the thought of anal sex is a turn on, but the one time that my husband and I tried it, it was so painful that we didn't try for long. I see on here that most people say the same thing and that they have to try it more than once, but I am not sure if I want to endure that pain again. I also find it hard to believe that it would ever feel good, considering that women do not have a prostate...
Someone asked about strap-ons, and that is something I would like to try.
As a male, I must say that I enjoy it only if she does. For me, I could take it or leave it.
I mean, it's enjoyable when done right... but if I were to never have it again... I wouldn't lose sleep.
Having said that about the ACT of anal sex... the IDEA of it is what makes it a turn-on. The taboo aspect of it... the 'dirtyness' of it... the fact that she enjoys it and how it makes us feel like we're getting away with doing something we shouldn't... it all adds to the 'physical' act of penetration to make it a more enjoyable experience overall.
When we are having intercourse and I toyingly rub my (now well-lubricated) tip against her anus... it drives her crazy... but makes me want to 'cum' right then & there just with the THOUGHT of it... not the 'action' of doing it.
(Does that make sense...?)
To sum-up... the physical act on it's own is not the stimulant for me... it's her enjoyment and all the above-mentioned factors that put me over the edge and make it very sexy.
I really like it. I use to feel guilty about it and went like 3 years without much anal stimulation, but just recently i've been getting so horny (especially during my period) and so i've rekindled my love of it! To the point where I bought a new dildo, and have started to use my old one for anal use only. Feels just like a penis, and it turns me on imagining someone watching me. Seeing as though I don't have a boyfriend, I don't have much choice but to resort to toys! but hey I have a lot of fun!
my husband and i first tried Anal Sex 15 yrs ago. It first hurt real bad.. but over the years of us trying we have come to be wiser in Anal sex.. Its best position is in a relaxed state of mind..Dont just rush into anal sex have fun first, kiss all over have your man give oral while he plays with your bum.. Use alot of lube and when you think you have to much.. use more..But please remember what hand goes into the bum does NOT go in the vagina.. he can use a latex glove to stimulate your bum.. Use one finger first ( remember guys go slow this area is delicate, check your finger nails also dont want to hurt her.) stimulate the anal area real good with one finger, when you can get one whole finger all in use your thumb to stimulate her, when you KNOW she's relaxed you can try two fingers, use alot more lube at this time, stimulate her more with the two fingers.. listen to her body it will tell you if she is enjoying it or not.. Ladies RELAX, if you need to use a dildo on your self to stimulate your clit to keep relaxed, do so.. Be careful guys if your DOING RIGHT you may make her cum right now.. thats OK there will be a next time.. but if not continue with the finger job.. IF she is ready, insert the tip of your penis DONT PUSH YET... let her guide you in.. Take off the glove and stimulate her clit, if you didnt use a glove use the other hand.. once you are in, go slow very slow.. use more lube.. Her body will tell you if she is enjoying it or not if not dont push it!!! let her relax,whisper something in her ear..
this can be a very wonderful experiance or a bad one it all depends on if you are relaxed and careful.. Ladies if you not ready for it DONT DO IT!!!! You need to be ready for it to have Anal Sex.. Guys always use a condem... Enjoy!!!
hey guys,
i have tryed anal with my boyfriend a couple of times but it really hurts me. what can i do to stop it from hurting me?
thanks for any help!
TLC xx
Love, love, love anal. I think I was the one to bring it up first, and as many have said, the first couple of times it did hurt a bit. I've noticed my guy has to control the urge to start pumping away right when he puts it in, even now. Just give yourself a couple of minutes to adjust to it, physically and mentally, being all tensed up doesn't help. You'll be all tightened up, making the muscles tighten too, and that's no good! Even now after we've been doing it for about half a year, the idea of it being so controversial still turns me on.
I tried anal sex once with an ex, and never wanted it again, it hurt, and it was just awful. Then my boyfriend asked if he could try, I said okay. We had some hard sex, so his penis was lubed with my wetness, we got some lotion, put it on both of us. He entered my VERY slowly and noy very far, and I tensed up, asked him to stop. We went back to regular sex, then he said to let him try again. He again put it in very slowly, and it didn't hurt...at all. It was like everything totally relaxed. It felt strange at first, but I found that the more you do it, the more you can actually control your sphincter to how fast and deep he goes, AND I have orgasms just as hard as when I'm having regular sex.
I find it odd that we're discussing how girls feel about anal sex in the "pleasing him" section.
Back to topic: Being the proud owner of a prostate gland, I fully intend to make use of the guy before he goes cancerous and kills me in my mid-fifties. One thing I've found that makes self-penetration a LOT easier is to use those latex medical gloves. They're a lot smoother than your bare finger(s), so even with less lube they feel more comfortable, plus it's a lot more sanitary. So, girls, if your guy isn't afraid to admit to this, try picking up a box and make good use of them. I also imagine it would make vaginal fingering a lot easier, but that's for another topic.
I also have a question - a lot of girls have mentioned that they orgasm from anal sex. How is that? I saw "anal orgasm" mentioned once in the main section of the site, but never again. So if someone could clear that up for me...
1) NEVER and i mean NEVER take your penis from the anus and put it back in the vagina without cleaning off your penis or changing rubbers.u can give her a UTI.
2) LUBE IS CRUCIAL! While body fliuds may be good initially, there is NO natural lubrication in the anus and so after a few minutes, the cock (or rubber) will quickly begin to irritate the sphinter. Use KY, or that new LIQUID KY or WET or any other kind of water soluable lubricant!
3) If you enjoy anal initally, the next time u should get a fleet enema and quickly clean out your lower bowels (no one likes the look or odor of feces during sex).
4) Let the person "bottoming" set the pace. Guys, lay on your back and let him/her lower themselvs on your penis and get used to teh pentration.
5) Most women have orgasms during anal becuse the man is grinding his groin against her clitoris.....not from the penetration alone.
As a gay man who LOVE giving and receiving ANAL, if you want more info, feel free to email me!
I have a question....is useing lotion (like the kind you put on your hands) the same as useing lube? I know lube would be more slicker but can lotion do the trick?
Or would have sex and useing my juices worker better and then add lotion?
The first time me and my boyfriend trie anal i really enjoyed it...more than he did in fact! but since then evey time he's tried its really hurt and ive had to make him stop before he's even properly in there. I was still willing to try but now I've read this and found out some of the down sides besides pain i think my ass is going to stay dick-free
Hi Lady Love,
I just wanted to make clear that what Rawbob means by "douching" is actually an enema. You can purchase the "Fleets" brand in most stores... ie: department, drug, or grocery... that have health and beauty supplies.
Most of the time the rectum is clear of fecal matter and a quick cleansing is more than enough to feel "fresh".
Take care.
I have read through many of the posts and have a question for Rawbob and Brandey. My boy freind would like to have anal sex. I am somewhat hesitant because of hygiene. I would very much like to please him, but am a bit put off by the possibity of getting fecal matter on either of us or the bed. Rawbob suggested douching. Is this sufficient enough to cleanse myself? Thank you.
Titania
Can we get some sort of clarification to the anal sex and haemorrhoid issue (and other effects)? When I searched for information on this I read was that anal sex does not CAUSE haemorrhoids, but it can exacerbate EXISTING ones. Also the presence of haemorrhoids is so common in the population anyway, some say up to 50%, so haemorrhoids can be very common anyway.. Is there a link to an official study or something to give clarification?
I also want clarification on any other alleged effects like “a loose anus” because I am really just trying to inform myself and one moment I am hearing one thing and the other moment I am hearing the opposite, each side making it sound like hard fact and nothing linked to a scientific paper, or study or anything…can someone give me hard proven facts please, this is not fair.
Finally I will just say that anal sex, if done properly should not hurt, even for the first time, and the receiver should always dictate and be in control
Okay I have always been somewhat fascinated and curious about anal sex. But, there again the pain really scared me. Well, last night while i was searching for my inner slut! My hubby decided it was time, without telling me, and it hurt at first! But as curious as I was and turned on, I got out the lube and we took it really really slow. I had my first experience with anal sex, and after the initial pain, LOVED IT. It's so different to describe but, having developed hemorroids with the birth of my daughter 4 years ago was sore a little while afterwords.
Does anyone have any suggestions for me, I would love to try it again, esp since hubby now knows that you have to take it really really slow.
I know that it must have been a fantasy of his for awhile he's just never said anything but, through checking out the web pages he's looked at there have been several anal sex pics so I figured one day down the road lol.
And yes he knows that I look at the sites he looks at when he's not home, turns us both on lol.
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because when you gotta go there is feces in your rectum. now its just a penis... the body doesn't really know the difference.
Not that I know of.
That's how it feels for me, but I know it's just a feeling.
Kinda like the urge to pee when he's playing with your clit. lol.
Me and my boyfriend recently tried anal and how come it feels like you really gotta "go" lol
Is there any way to prevent from feeling like that?
Here's what i posted back in June, and still stand by it:
Anal sex, if done correctly, can be a wonderful addition to your sexual arsenal!
As was stated before, you should always use a condom for ANY sex, not just anal sex. And also, be careful to not perform anal and vaginal sex at the same time. This could cause an infection in her.
Now, for beginners, the most important things to keep in mind are the following:
1) Lube: Get it, use it - don't be stingy with lube during anal play, it helps!
2) Hygene: You sould use a douche before doing any real intense anal play. Not only will it allow for a more pleasureable experience, the introduction of feces during sex can be very uncomfortable and unhealthy.
3) Start Slow: From fingers to smaller and gradually increasing sized dildos/vibrators - slowly streaching the sphincter muscle is the KEY to enjoying anal sex.
4) Go slow: The anus is not the vagina, and so it's ability to streach and relax is tied directly to how much pre-penile insertion time you take.
5) Positions: Once you feel you've relaxed enough to take a penis in your anus, a good way to start is to have the person who'll be taking the penis to be on TOP and lower themselves on the erect penis. This allows THEM to control the pace and depth. You will find, that as he/she lowers herself down, the sphinter will almost actulally "release" and allow for full penetration. Again, for beginners, let the person being "F-ed" set the pace!
Closing note: Guys, if you're not letting your gal work your butt, you're missing alot! Only men have a prostate gland, and until you've felt a prostate being stimulated (by hand, toy or penis) you've not lived! IT"S GREAT!
OTHER THOUGHTS FROM PRIOR RESPONSES:
a) Anal sex is gross. I think this really dosn't bear much comment beyond looking at the member's online name. I will say this..."Me thinks tho dost protest too much"
b) Women have the clitoris, men have the prostate: Thats right, if God (however u envision him/her/them, etc) didn't intend anal sex to be pleasureable for men, why is the Prostate Gland an erogenous zone? The sexual pleasure from prostate stimulation is incredible. Can there be some discomfort from initial anal penetration? Yes. Is it prohibitively painfull? If done correclty and with loving intent - NO!
Many women on this very board have commented on how the first few times they had full vaginal intercourse that it was painfull, uncomfortable, slight bleeding, etc. Again, it's all about preparation, sensativity and communication.
PLEASE, i beg those of you who read posts like this to NOT be so overly demonstrative about something that MILLIONS of str8, gay, bi and lesbian folk engage in every single day!
Beautifully put, Hung! There is nothing less homosexual than having sex with a person of the opposite gender - no matter how.
I'm a girl who likes anal sex. While the pain was prohibitive my first few attempts, with a little practice and a whole lot of lube, I now look forward to it regularly. I find that being highly aroused and close to orgasm before insertion definitely helps ease the way. Even now, the initial entry is painful, but so so worth it once I warm up. Occasionally, I've begun to orgasm from it alone. I usually need a week or so to recover between anal sessions due to sphincter soreness and... er... difficulties in the bathroom for a couple days afterwards but my bf is very large and I like harder pumping so the latter problem may not be typical.
My bf is always eager to be on the receiving end of anal play but usually balks in discomfort once any penetration takes place. I generally just stick with my tongue in that area, though I love the idea of getting deeper penetration.
The moral of my story is: the butt is fun. It opens up a lot of doors as far as variety and intimacy. I understand that it's certainly not for some. Nevertheless, beyond actual anal penetration, I think it's important to be able to share every part of yourself with your partner, without guilt or shame or embarrassment.
To add further...
It's all about intent. It's not the PHYSICAL ACT that makes you gay, it's the DESIRE to be with the person of the same sex. If a guy gets anally raped in prison against his will, he's not gay... he was raped. If you kiss your own arm, technically, that's a MAN'S arm you just kissed... YOU'RE GAY! * sigh *
Same goes with intimacy with a man & a woman. If the man is attracted to women and not men... he is not gay. EVN IF he likes anal play, or even if he likes using a dildo on himself or having HER use one on him to derive pleasure... it's not GAY if he still is not attracted to men and IS atracted to women. All it means is that it feels good and he's enjoying it.
Just because there's a vague similarity in a particular sexual act does not mean one is gay... heck, gay men kiss, so is kissing your girlfriend GAY...? Gay men will, at time,s penetrate their lover's anus... so if you penetrate your girlfriend's or wife's anus... does that make you gay... Why? Gays do THAT too...! No...
Most of the time, I see that it's a man's FEAR of his own sexuality that makes them react so strongly... it's not that they ARE gay, but they worry so much about NOT being gay that they read WAY too-far into things and it's a shame, because life is too short to worry about that stuff.
I have never participated in anything other than light contact in that area from my past and current partner. Never have I had any objects (other than thermometers & such as a kid) placed in there... but if it ever did happen... it wouldn't mean that all-of-a-sudden I find Harrison Ford a turn-on and I start sewing drapes for the spare bedroom.
It's kind of a spurious argument, when guys say you can't touch their butts because "it's gay." It's only gay if they're doing it with another man. Otherwise, it's just kinky. There's no way he's going to suddenly desire to be with a man if he engages in anal stimulation unless he's already attracted to men.
All the same, I'd suggest not frightening him with the dildo talk. Suggest he touch your anus while he's down on you, and tell him you'd like do the same to him. Then maybe after you've done that a few times, get some lube and help him insert his finger in you. Then talk about doing that with him. In my experience, guys are more receptive to being fingered while you're giving them a blowjob. I don't know if its a balance of power or what. So if he likes it you can include it in your repertoire. If not, at least he tried. If YOU like it, and want to try taking his penis into your butt, then at least you're anus is accustomed to receiving.
The point in all this is that by saying you want to use a dildo on him, probably evokes images of him with his butt in the air and you stuffing in a large object—roughly what he hopes to do to you. You shouldn't be subjected to that, and neither should he. Take it slow, and abandon it if either of you gets uncomfortable with anything.
Anal sex is great for a man, any man that says they'll never try it is missing out. For man or woman just make sure it's all well lubed. I've had many 'orgasms' doing anal fingering, playing with my 'g-spot' until I 'orgasm' but I've never manage to cum at the same time!
Jurni, the exact same thing happened with my ex! I told him that if he let me use a dildo on him so he can see how it feels that I might consider trying it with him. His arguement was that it's ok for a girl to be penetrated but not a guy because that's "gay" for a man to be penetrated. He had double standards and was an ass. I'm so glad I never did it with him.
Hi furryChinchilla. There are ALL kinds of lubes that will work. You want something that is waterbased. Ky jelly will work. I find it gets a little sticky, though. I, personally, like Astroglide or Wet.
i was just wondering, but wut is the best kind of lube, if any. And if not then which kind do you prefer?
[QUOTE=Quote (str8downtheline @ June 25 2004,17:13)]That is gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im dead against the use of anal sex or play. Mother nature did not intend for this. Thats what vagina's are for. The only way anal sex is acceptable for me is if your gay and you dont have vagina to stick it into.
I could throw up looking at some of these posts. ewwww and double gross!!!!!!!!!!!!
No way in hell am I doing anything of the sort!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Although I can understand and respect your opinion on the subject, I do disagree with your approach in expressing negativity on the subject in this open forum. No one is asking you to do it, try it or accept it... but your expression of contempt may be construed as insulting or demeaning to those who DO find this practice acceptible.
There are those in the world that feel that the act of intercourse is for PROCREATION ONLY, and not for mere enjoyment or pre-marital experimentation. Would you want to be told that you are WRONG and a SINNER for having pre-marital sex because of someone else's bias...?
Someone else said it better than me in the past here... if you want to get TECHNICAL... the MOUTH is not what "mother nature" intended to be used for sex either, it's for food & beverage consumption, Breathing and Speaking... NOT oral sex "That's just WRONG". Heck, at that point, you could also claim that mother nature never intended for latex to be put over a penis... condoms are WRONG... yes, I know I'm taking it further than needed, but the point still remains, it's all about personal preference.
Try to keep an open mind and respectful approach to OTHER people's opinions. I, for one, would never consider the act of utilizing urine & fecees into sexual routines... the thought of eating another person's excrement makes me gag... BUT... there are MANY people out there that practice that fetish. Would I do it...? Heck no! Is it "wrong"...? That's up to the individual(s). If they derive pleasure from it and it is acceptable to them... more power to them.
So... I get it. You do not wish to engage in that activity... but just be mindful that calling it "wrong" alienates those who DO find it acceptable, and there are plenty of them (us?) out there.
I'm not angry with you, just trying to share my opinion.
I never expected to be addressing this again. The old-timers are fully aware of my medical and personal opinions. Str8, however, needs some education. The strongest muscles that are involved in a female orgasm are the anal sphincters. Some anal play causes greater tension in them and both shortens the time for climax and greatly enhances the power of the orgasm.
Some women are totally against having their anus played with and, obviously, some men are not willing. That is no reason to declare the rest of us gross. I stand with my earlier position that no penis shall ever penetrate my behind but if those of you who are into it want to I simply recommend lots of lube and condoms every time.
That is gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im dead against the use of anal sex or play. Mother nature did not intend for this. Thats what vagina's are for. The only way anal sex is acceptable for me is if your gay and you dont have vagina to stick it into.
I could throw up looking at some of these posts. ewwww and double gross!!!!!!!!!!!!
No way in hell am I doing anything of the sort!!!!!!!!!!!!!
[QUOTE=Quote (duckie @ May 07 2004,14:27)]Part of me wants to try anal sex but then there's the part of me that thinks it's gonna hurt alot.... Maybe someone can enlighten or change my thoughts of it hurting?[/QUOTE]
Duckie, practice with yourself. I know as a mother you've given suppositories. Some lube on your finger and just play around back there. You may use latex gloves if you're squeamish. Just see how it feels. The key is lots of lube and take it slowly. Maybe try it sometime when you are masturbating.
You won't know if you like it if you don't try. But if you don't, don't sweat it. If it's not for you, it's not for you.
Have fun.
I'm brand new to this site, but absolutely had to respond to this topic. I used to HATE anal sex because I don't think I had experienced anything more painful in my life! I had no idea how to make it not hurt. I would be in doggie position waiting for penetration and trying not to tighten up, but doing it anyway and then getting the pain I always did and curling into the fetal position on the bed. Not very sexy!
All the tips I have heard on here are great! You definitely want to have the power to move back on the penis. You want lots of lube. But here is a tip I have been telling friends and have been getting tons of "thank you's" for!
1. Get a nice little vibe.
2. Get all lubed and ready in doggie position, if you like
3. Put that handy little vibe on your clitoris and just let that wonderful warmth start to head towards your pleasure zones.
4. Let him know when you're really relaxed and ready, he can be playing with fingers, gently touching, licking, etc in the meantime.
5. By the time you are really hot from the vibe, your anus is very relaxed. He can slowly start to guide his penis into your anus.
6. Move back and forth on him if you're not comfortable with him taking control yet.
7. Have a wonderful orgasm. he he.
I can usually cum in about 1 minute doing this and looove it! I'm like a guy and can't even begin to hold an orgasm back. It comes up on me sooo fast!
Part of me wants to try anal sex but then there's the part of me that thinks it's gonna hurt alot. Especially(excuse the grossness) after getting hemoroids from giving birth to my daughter. Maybe someone can enlighten or change my thoughts of it hurting? I enjoy watching anal sex on XXX movies and it really gets me turned on but then the pain thought sets in and to tell you the truth my man and I have never even dicussed it so I'm not sure if he's even into anal sex.
thetease13, take it slow use fingers first. my other suggestion be on top. the first time we tried it, i bend over and my boyfriend lubbed up and just worked it in. not the way to do it. i suggest maybe starting out vaginal with you on top then slip it out, add more lube if necessary, and then take it ever so slowly into your butt. you should also play around with fingers first in there.
anyway let us know how it goes
[QUOTE=Quote (leggyho @ May 04 2004,06:39)]2. I opened up my inner slut. [/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=Quote (Tessie @ May 04 2004,16:12)]Just want to say that I love that term. I have been working on my inner slut too and having a great time doing it.
Ladies, ladies, the term is NOT slut, it is "sexual over-achiever"!
ok.
so I'm supposed to try anal for the first time soon. (hopefully this coming weekend if everything works out right).
now it's not something I really want but it's working as a compromise so hey, he gives me what I want, I'll give him what he wants.
So anyways, the other day I thought well, I'll see what I can do with my vibrator, just to see how painful it was, and suprisingly, it wasn't painful at all really. I put a lot of lube on it and it didn't really hurt. It just felt weird. Now granted, I know his dick is bigger around than my vibrator (i'm trying to working my way up to my other vibrator since it's a little bit bigger around) so there's no telling if it would hurt with him or not.
I didn't get any stimulation from it, but then, I don't get any stimulation from vaginal either. Even turning the vibrator on does nothing. Go figure. lol.
so yea, anyone having problems or someone that's scared to try it, get a slim like plastic vibrator and some lube and see how well it works.
[QUOTE] I opened up my inner slut.
Just want to say that I love that term. I have been working on my inner slut too and having a great time doing it.
Cheers for LEGGY!
Great post...sounds like you two have found a good balance! Keep us posted on how things go....we've not had alot of "swingers" on here...and your experiences could prove very enlighting!
ps: My xwife and i were into swinging too..thats how i had my 1st bi experince!
My husband likes it too. I had a hard time getting over my fear of anal. At times I would agree just to please my husband. I really wasn't into it.
A couple of years ago, my husband and I started same room swapping with two couples. Things quickly went from making out with other people to full on sex. With the men's encouragement I even began to have experiences with the other wives and found that I really enjoyed lesbian sex. Two years later my husband and I are still fully committed to each other, but still enjoy frequent swinging.
It was during one of these swing sessions that I came to appreciate and love anal sex. I was making it with one of the other men (pretty hot and heavy). My husband came over and asked if he could go into the backdoor at the same time. I agreed. He used plenty of lube and I got my first "D.P.". I was so turned on having two guys inside of me. I have loved anal since that day. I attribute my new found love of anal to two things:
1. For me personally, the feeling of being filled by two men and the vaginal stimulation that goes with the anal penetration is exquisite. Even when my husband and I have anal alone, I use a dildo or vibrator to get vaginal stimulation. Before, I did not pay attention to that area and anal was not nearly as fun.
2. I opened up my inner slut. Swinging helped me embrace my inner slut where before I had tried to repress it and be a proper wife. Anal is taboo by its very nature. Opening up to a wild new sex life and accepting how much I enjoyed sleeping with other people really helped me accept other new things like anal. Of course swinging is not for anyone. But I believe it helps to really get into whatever makes you hot. Swinging, role-play, slutty-dressing, whatever.
Hubby loves it. But he only gets it on the most special of occasions or if I really need something. Makes a great bribe if it works. Which is my problem. It is so hard for me to get into it. I have had so many more horrible and painful times then good. I now would like to enjoy it but it still doesn't always work out. The moment I know its going to happen I freeze up and wait for the pain.
He has now thought that I should get to just learn to like it. So he has used his finger and just recently bought a very small butt plug which he has used a couple of times and I don't mind it.
He is very good at remembering and there have been a few times that I have truly loved it. Sooooooo its the ongoing goal to achieve enjoyment for us both. I always feel bad when it hurts and I can't continue. Poor guy.
We dabble in that area occasionally, and it does feel great, but not very deeply. We have also tried using anal beads and my wife loved them! (pull them out slowly just as she's cumming and it really adds to the sensation).
Lots of lube and taking your time is definitely a prerequisite in that area, though.
If she and you are ok with it, ask if she would be willing to give you anal penetration too so you can see how it feels. You may just be less inclined to start pumping away, if you know how much it hurts.
I had my first experience with anal two nights ago with my girlfriend. My girlfriend was feeling kinky and asked if I wanted to try anal. She had never done it before, and neither had I, so I was somewhat scared of hurting her. We took it slow, and it was very tight at first(note I kept asking her if it hurt at all) but after getting into it a little, she relaxed, and it became quite amazing. It didn't hurt her at all, and she said she enjoyed it somehwhat, not as much as vaginal intercourse, but she still enjoyed it. We plan to explore it further and try to make it more enjoyable for her. Im all for anal!
wow. There is such controversy over this. The thought of me giving my g/f hemorrhoids scares me, but I also get somewhat reassured when I realise that the first (and only) time we have had anal sex, she felt no pain, and only pleasure. I guess that is one of the benefits of not being a "large" man. She never complained of any pain. And if I think about it, many times feces is as large or even larger than what I have to give, so how much dammage can I do?
It was a very pleasurable experiance for both of us though.
i use to think the thought was gross...and then one time while having sex my bf was like, "you wanna try?" im like,"sure." only problem: we had no lube. it hurt like Hell and i told him to stop.
the next time we tried we used lotion and it still hurt like Hell and honestly, now I'm afraid to try it again. although he did finger me there a couple of weeks ago...weird, but im still afraid of the cock in my ass.
It make take several tries, but she will get used to it. We couldn't even do it until about the 3rd try, but now we can whenever we try. The key is to go slow. Sloooooow.
You've got all night. If you don't, then it's not the time to try anal. Pick another night when you've got plenty of time.
Well... we didn't just decide to attempt it and go for it right then & there... it sort-of built up to it. First there was anal play... I would 'touch' her in that area while she was riding on-top... but just a little here & there.
After she realized she liked it, she would moan or gasp a little more the next time I tried it. Pretty soon, I was rubbing the area and SLIGHTLY pushing the tip of my finger in on occasion.
Keep in mind, this is transpiring over a week or two's time.
When we talked about it, she said she wanted to try it, but was a little apprehensive, but it was HER that wanted to try... NOT me.
The next time, after we had sex for a while and were all "in the moment", she was lying on her side, back facing me and we were having intercourse in that position, I would take the tip of my penis and rub it up and down the crack of her behind. this drove her nuts!
I did that a few more times during different lovemaking sessions and one-day, she reached behind and placed the tip right there (which almost made me cum immediately, because it was such a turn-on). I let HER put pressure from HER side to initiate penetration. She was hesitant at first.
The first two or three times she tried it, she said she loved doing it but she was a little sore after trying to get it in... but after that... she was MUCH more tollerant. She'd get me 1/2 way in (moaning & enjoying it) but I would not 'pump'.
After maybe a week or so, we were at the point were she would put it ALL the way in and want me to phuck her ass with real thrusts and she was REALLY enjoying it. Somehow, like a lot of things, there was just the initial 'getting used to' period, and then she just LOVED it after that.
We still take it slow and only engage in it occasionally, but she loves it just the same.
Again... For ME, that's the turn-on, is HER loving it. If I were to ask it from her and she didn't want to, but did it because she felt obligated, then it wouldn't be good for me at ALL. But because it's something SHE wants and because it's only on distant occasions now, once I know she's about to initiate it... I have to try hard not to cum all over her ass before I even get it in.
"Happy humpin', campers...!"
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P.S. - The fact that I'm not "well-endowed" works to my advantage here. Not sure if she'd ever even consider it if I were 9" and thick as a beer can.
I have to say that the thought of anal sex is a turn on, but the one time that my husband and I tried it, it was so painful that we didn't try for long. I see on here that most people say the same thing and that they have to try it more than once, but I am not sure if I want to endure that pain again. I also find it hard to believe that it would ever feel good, considering that women do not have a prostate...
Someone asked about strap-ons, and that is something I would like to try.
As a male, I must say that I enjoy it only if she does. For me, I could take it or leave it.
I mean, it's enjoyable when done right... but if I were to never have it again... I wouldn't lose sleep.
Having said that about the ACT of anal sex... the IDEA of it is what makes it a turn-on. The taboo aspect of it... the 'dirtyness' of it... the fact that she enjoys it and how it makes us feel like we're getting away with doing something we shouldn't... it all adds to the 'physical' act of penetration to make it a more enjoyable experience overall.
When we are having intercourse and I toyingly rub my (now well-lubricated) tip against her anus... it drives her crazy... but makes me want to 'cum' right then & there just with the THOUGHT of it... not the 'action' of doing it.
(Does that make sense...?)
To sum-up... the physical act on it's own is not the stimulant for me... it's her enjoyment and all the above-mentioned factors that put me over the edge and make it very sexy.
I really like it. I use to feel guilty about it and went like 3 years without much anal stimulation, but just recently i've been getting so horny (especially during my period) and so i've rekindled my love of it! To the point where I bought a new dildo, and have started to use my old one for anal use only. Feels just like a penis, and it turns me on imagining someone watching me. Seeing as though I don't have a boyfriend, I don't have much choice but to resort to toys! but hey I have a lot of fun!
Don't be too embarressed... as you can see from previous posts, its very common indeed.
And as Cadj says, us guys enjoy being fingered there too. It takes make orgasm into a whole new league.
The first time one of my gf's slipped a finger inside me it was a huge shock. But, I had never cum as strongly and for so long, ever before.
If youtry that, make sure you don't have any sharp nails though!
my husband and i first tried Anal Sex 15 yrs ago. It first hurt real bad.. but over the years of us trying we have come to be wiser in Anal sex.. Its best position is in a relaxed state of mind..Dont just rush into anal sex have fun first, kiss all over have your man give oral while he plays with your bum.. Use alot of lube and when you think you have to much.. use more..But please remember what hand goes into the bum does NOT go in the vagina.. he can use a latex glove to stimulate your bum.. Use one finger first ( remember guys go slow this area is delicate, check your finger nails also dont want to hurt her.) stimulate the anal area real good with one finger, when you can get one whole finger all in use your thumb to stimulate her, when you KNOW she's relaxed you can try two fingers, use alot more lube at this time, stimulate her more with the two fingers.. listen to her body it will tell you if she is enjoying it or not.. Ladies RELAX, if you need to use a dildo on your self to stimulate your clit to keep relaxed, do so.. Be careful guys if your DOING RIGHT you may make her cum right now.. thats OK there will be a next time.. but if not continue with the finger job.. IF she is ready, insert the tip of your penis DONT PUSH YET... let her guide you in.. Take off the glove and stimulate her clit, if you didnt use a glove use the other hand.. once you are in, go slow very slow.. use more lube.. Her body will tell you if she is enjoying it or not if not dont push it!!! let her relax,whisper something in her ear..
this can be a very wonderful experiance or a bad one it all depends on if you are relaxed and careful.. Ladies if you not ready for it DONT DO IT!!!! You need to be ready for it to have Anal Sex.. Guys always use a condem... Enjoy!!!
hey guys,
i have tryed anal with my boyfriend a couple of times but it really hurts me. what can i do to stop it from hurting me?
thanks for any help!
TLC xx
Love, love, love anal. I think I was the one to bring it up first, and as many have said, the first couple of times it did hurt a bit. I've noticed my guy has to control the urge to start pumping away right when he puts it in, even now. Just give yourself a couple of minutes to adjust to it, physically and mentally, being all tensed up doesn't help. You'll be all tightened up, making the muscles tighten too, and that's no good! Even now after we've been doing it for about half a year, the idea of it being so controversial still turns me on.
I tried anal sex once with an ex, and never wanted it again, it hurt, and it was just awful. Then my boyfriend asked if he could try, I said okay. We had some hard sex, so his penis was lubed with my wetness, we got some lotion, put it on both of us. He entered my VERY slowly and noy very far, and I tensed up, asked him to stop. We went back to regular sex, then he said to let him try again. He again put it in very slowly, and it didn't hurt...at all. It was like everything totally relaxed. It felt strange at first, but I found that the more you do it, the more you can actually control your sphincter to how fast and deep he goes, AND I have orgasms just as hard as when I'm having regular sex.
my butt is for looking at. It is the egress of evacuationalisms.
I find it odd that we're discussing how girls feel about anal sex in the "pleasing him" section.
Back to topic: Being the proud owner of a prostate gland, I fully intend to make use of the guy before he goes cancerous and kills me in my mid-fifties. One thing I've found that makes self-penetration a LOT easier is to use those latex medical gloves. They're a lot smoother than your bare finger(s), so even with less lube they feel more comfortable, plus it's a lot more sanitary. So, girls, if your guy isn't afraid to admit to this, try picking up a box and make good use of them. I also imagine it would make vaginal fingering a lot easier, but that's for another topic.
I also have a question - a lot of girls have mentioned that they orgasm from anal sex. How is that? I saw "anal orgasm" mentioned once in the main section of the site, but never again. So if someone could clear that up for me...
Ok....a few notes here:
1) NEVER and i mean NEVER take your penis from the anus and put it back in the vagina without cleaning off your penis or changing rubbers.u can give her a UTI.
2) LUBE IS CRUCIAL! While body fliuds may be good initially, there is NO natural lubrication in the anus and so after a few minutes, the cock (or rubber) will quickly begin to irritate the sphinter. Use KY, or that new LIQUID KY or WET or any other kind of water soluable lubricant!
3) If you enjoy anal initally, the next time u should get a fleet enema and quickly clean out your lower bowels (no one likes the look or odor of feces during sex).
4) Let the person "bottoming" set the pace. Guys, lay on your back and let him/her lower themselvs on your penis and get used to teh pentration.
5) Most women have orgasms during anal becuse the man is grinding his groin against her clitoris.....not from the penetration alone.
As a gay man who LOVE giving and receiving ANAL, if you want more info, feel free to email me!
I have a question....is useing lotion (like the kind you put on your hands) the same as useing lube? I know lube would be more slicker but can lotion do the trick?
Or would have sex and useing my juices worker better and then add lotion?
"my butt is for looking at. It is the egress of evacuationalisms."
I'm going to have to agree with her. Not one for any ass play, to both him or me.
Im with you Lonewolf...not one for ass play either.
Dont see the point. Exit only!
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