ok i have no idea how to ask this. im not a virgin, but im really nervous becaues i think im about to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time, he asked me if it was ok to finger me. (is that weird?)
will he think im ugly down there? he has like touched me and stuff, but hes never actually seen me without underware. im very comfertable with him, but im still INCREDABLYY nervous. help me. i need an experianced guys opinion.
dont worry he will get used to it. he is juss nervous and thinks he may be going a little fast for you so he is making sure.
also dont be nervous juss relax.
how old are you? how long have you been together? aslong as you talk to eachother so you both know what other one is thinking should be fine. Is he experienced? he prob just checking your ok and wanting to keep at your pace. xx
i freaked out before the first time i did stuff like that to. believe me its normal, :)
Yea, better for him to ask and be sure wrather than just doing it and maybe making you uncomfortable. Communication is key.
He's a guy, it probably won't matter what u look like down there. He'll be happy just to see it.
So, you two have had sex, but he's never seen you down there? I was 15 when I had sex the first time, and I know I'm not normal down there. I was sexually abused as a child, and because of that, my labia was torn. So I know what nervousness you're going through. But if you feel you are different, you can try to explain to him that you migt not look the same as most girls do down there and just let him know. If you're nervous, he'll feel that and he'll become just as nervous.
Realize that if a guy hasn't ever seen a girl down there up close and personal, he might not even realize it. If he cares about you, he won't make how you look down there make him feel any different...
I hope this helps! Good luck and be safe!
no one has a pretty humhum. don't worry.. it's not like he's going to be staring at it!! kiss him or something, so he doesn't look. be comfortable, he'll just be happy he has a naked girl in his presence!
I have to disagree with the above post. Many people consider vaginas (or, more accurately, vulvas) to be beautiful and DO want to look and stare. The staring can be a turn on for some, because the look on your partner's face is so wanton.
I would recommend getting comfortable with how you look; get some alone time with a hand mirror. It'll be awkward, but it's good to get familiar with the parts you wanna mess with.
With him, go slow and be open and honest. You have to be able to trust each other.
I don't think he will find you ugly or anything after all it is a personal thing not a technical rule as to what is right and what is not. he will probably be very happy you trust him enough to let him ionto you so don't worry people are all different.
There is no such thing as a girl being ugly down there.Unless it's totally un kept.As long as your trim up and have good hygein it dosen't matter.
aww i feel the same! this is my first post on this web site x
I felt like that the first time i got naked infront of by bf. But don't worry. Your bf probably wouldn't give it a second thought, if you are comfortable round each other then you'll be fine, he must just be as nervous as you!
[QUOTE=PunkChick;156567]I felt like that the first time i got naked infront of by bf. But don't worry. Your bf probably wouldn't give it a second thought, if you are comfortable round each other then you'll be fine, he must just be as nervous as you![/QUOTE]
very true thats just what it was like for me
My boyfriends thinks I have a beautiful and fat coochie...IDK why but he does and he loves it, everytime we do oral sex he ENJOYS licking me. My perosonal opinion is that they are ugly and disgusting but hey...guys lyk it!, so dont worry about it
yup don't worry we are happy enough that you will allow us into your underwear, if he has any complaints that is very unlikely tel him to get lost
The vast majority of men find vulvas incredibly BEAUTIFUL! They tend to liken it to the petals of a flower. I am sure your fellow is no different in his view on the matter. Relax and ask him if you want to know.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;157228]The vast majority of men find vulvas incredibly BEAUTIFUL! They tend to liken it to the petals of a flower. I am sure your fellow is no different in his view on the matter. Relax and ask him if you want to know.[/QUOTE]
An interesting way of putting it...
but probably right all the same ;)
Just make certain that you are comfortable though. If you don't feel like you can handle being that exposed just tell your significant other and they should be okay with you wanting to slow down a little. You are the only one who knows what you want so you have to communicate your needs. Never be afraid that this will push a guy away. My motto is that if they don't value you enough to wait for your comfort, then they aren't worth it.
However, I agree with the other posters, for most men there is no such thing as an ugly vulva. So long as you believe in hygeine and don't do anything crazy to yourself south of the belt, you probably have a perfectly lovely Georgia O'Keefe worthy "petunia."
Best wishes.
hey dont worry, if he is into you as much as you are into him then it will all be fine, i used to think the same way as you and my bf realised he said to me dont worry i love you and its great fun, lol.
so over a month has gone by how is it going ?
Also consider do you think he is having the same issue about himself ? probably not so don't worry its not like we see 100 vaginas a day most of us see no more than 10-100 so it's not like he will be saying this is not the same as the other 1'000'000 vaginas I have already seen
I admit, I was awkward about what my vulva looked like when I first started being sexual. But... at the same time, I remembered that guys will be happy to be having sexual relations with you in the first place. If he thinks you're "ugly" down there, then he's an ******* and isn't mature enough to be having sex. Now I like my vulva. Since I started going bald I like the look a lot better.
The thing I'm concerned about in your post is that you sound as though you aren't really comfortable with your boyfriend. It is VERY IMPORTANT to be comfortable with him before you start delving into sex. Make sure you are ready to bring sex into the relationship and are able to really relax with each other.
Everyone is different but after 30 some years of lockerroom chat and guys nights out, I can ASSURE you that few men find the female genitals to be ugly or unsightly. Most are obsessed with its looks, smells, tastes and talents and believe me, if he is into you....he would prefer you let him draw photograph or somehow preserve the image for later viewing.
The humorous advice I can offer if a guy reacts to your vulva ladies, tell him that the last time you looked, his genetalia weren't being mistaked for flora or fauna, just some uncooked bread dough!
LOL- This is meant as a joke!