Here's the scoop, I've been single for about 6 months and recently just engaged in a relationship with a girl I met at orientation for college (I've know her for about a week now and we hang out every day)...Our First night we met I slept in her dorm and we dry humped (she didnt want to have sex on the first date and I was solid as a rock and pre - nutted all over my boxers) all night long... I've had sex with a few different girls and had no problems getting things done ...But for some reason, the other night when we attempted having sex I went soft right after I went in ...She also noticed this after a while and joked about me getting soft and I just kinda laughed it off...Im just trying to figure out why this is happening and is there any way to fix it? I think maybe it could be a mind game, as she is gorgeous and I feel in a way I don't deserve her...I've never felt this way before and was maybe thinking that had something to do with it...Any advice would be much appreciated...
Also I'm a big fan of oral and she seems to not really like it that much, is there any way I can convince her to be more giving?
- The new guy :)
Anxiety is often a big problem to guys in new relationships. Your analysis may be correct. The best fix is to stop worrying because the longer you do the worse the problem often becomes. Have confidence in your skills, ability, and feelings for each other. When a faux paux happen, just laugh them off and do not get all worked up and upset.
Consider that if and when you ever do go soft, that there is a fine opportunity for her to rebuild your erection. Think of the possibilities this affords rather than the perceived disaster you believe has befallen you.