Alright here is my big problem well little if I say so myself...Well me and my girl have been dating for a year and a half now and we have had sexual intercourse one time, along with oral a few weeks after...Well when we first had sex I didnt get no reaction from her while I was making the movements, she was a virgin but I figured she would atleast tell me it hurt, so I asked her how it felt and she said it hurt but then I thought about it and she wasnt doing nuthing but lying there with no reactions of it "hurting"....I dont think my penis is large enough to fullfill this girls sexual needs here is my size...I am 5 inches add a few cm long and 3 inches round, is this good enough cas I am really worried its not???
Tue, 06/20/2006 - 11:51
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Am I big enough
I encourage you to read around this Board. There are scads of messages that address the matter of size. What you will find and must ultimately understand is that size is a guy thing. What matters to the female of the species are:
1. your penis is fully functional
2. you know how to use what Mother Nature gave you
3. it is large enough for them to grasp
So, what is a gal thing?
a. that it gives her a sense of fullness when inside
b. that she can use it as both a throttle and a brake to manage your arousal, excitement, and, anticipation
c. that you are a knowledgeable, skilled, considerate, compassionate, caring, lover.
"Normal" is a range. It varies from as little as 4.25" or 10.8cm, up. The size of a person's penis is determined by ethnicity and genetics.
You will have to ask her why she acted or reacted the way she did. Consider that you are both rather new to all this and she may not yet know how to react, or, perhaps her inhibitions prevented her from completely relaxing and letting go.
If she was lying there with no reaction, it may be that you did nothing to make her react. Making love and the kissing and caressing of which this is comprised is a learned skill. You may not have turned her on. This is not to say you are a poor lover, only that if true, you need to learn what to do to turn a person on and then perfect those techniques. Learn and expolore together. A place to begin is to read up on the matter. You can do an advanced search of the Board using my name and the search term: inclusive
Women have all different degrees of "first times". Some its so painful they have to try 3-4 times.... me... mine was more feelings of discomfort and pressure rather than pain.
Maybe it was just a little uncomfortable pain not something so bad she had to make horrible faces or cry out.
Also, losing your virginity is like a surreal moment. I remember I too pretty much just layed there..zoned out thinking... is this really finally happening? ( was 22 when I did it the first time)
we all react in different ways. Plus, very few women will really ENJOY and ORGASM their first time... or first few times.
Like Doc said... there are 2-3 Penis size 101 threads that talk all about that... altho I dont think people actually read thru them lol.
wow you dont need to make 100 threads.. seriously.