Regardless of your interest perhaps in another woman, there is one big issue SEXUAL HARASSMENT. Her behavior is inappropriate and your right are protected under the sexual harassment laws. Read up on your company's policy, pursue this from the code of conduct. Messing with a coworker, especially a boss is bad news, be prepared to begin looking for a position elsewhere. Anytime a superior does this sort of act it's serious.

You are being harassed. However, if you like this woman, you might initiate something outside of work. But, that's risky, and like sera said you could be looking for a new position. She's the wrong one, not you. Is trying to use this against you, or give you something in exchange for sex?

If I were you, I wouldn't mess with this woman. If you really want a woman, find someone other than your boss. Let your boss know that it's not appropriate and tell her that you will take it to her superiors. And yes, it seems that she's forcing you.

Plus, it's pretty ballsy on her part. I mean it's one thing for the boss to come on to the opposite sex...but for her to assume you were Bi/Gay... I mean come on?!?

Put some legal heat on this woman! At my office we had a case alot like this, and the boss was fired.

And these days it's pretty hard to tell just by looking. Besides, she said she's not really sure what she is.

[quote=CrazyJenny;184329]I kind of forgot to mention that she's groped me also.

I don't really want to get into the legal stuff. She and I get along really well and she always approves of what I do. Other than the harassment, she's a good boss.

What disturbs me the most is that I kind of liked being kissed and handled. Nobody's ever done that to me before, and I'm a bit curious to see where it goes. But, it could be bad for my job. What's a girl to do?[/quote]

Look for a new job dear. Bad for your job? Uhmmm, yeah. That's putting it mildly. Great boss, gropes, kisses, etc. her employees. VERY professional!

[quote=CrazyJenny;184334]I haven't noticed her hitting on any of the other workers. And there are lots of girls around. I guess I'm just special....[/quote]

Yeah, right.

Be prepared to explain to your future employer during an interview your reasons for termination (truthful or fictitious), most likely they will turn you down for a future position. It makes a mockery of those who wish to be taken seriously at the work place.

The fact is you have no idea what she really does. It's bad enough to be involved with a co-worker much less a superior.

Any future employer would most likely think that you are a whore trying to get in favor with the boss by hopping in bed. So, it's time to fix the situation by doing legal recourse or getting a different job. And, if you get a different job and you still like your current boss, then there's nothing wrong with going ahead if that's what you want.

[quote=Engage!;184339]Any future employer would most likely think that you are a whore trying to get in favor with the boss by hopping in bed. So, it's time to fix the situation by doing legal recourse or getting a different job. And, if you get a different job and you still like your current boss, then there's nothing wrong with going ahead if that's what you want.[/quote]

Engage...the best part is the employer puts down the reasons for termination...it would be a bitch to find the reason was theft (real or not)!

Also Jenny, the fact you describe yourself as the "flunky" and a "paper pusher" demonstrates you have self esteem/respect issues; therefore, your excuse for her finding you being "just special" demonstrates this point.

this sounds like a nasty situation and I think you will end up used for some reason or another, and you have a pervert on your hands hey you don't just go around kissing people of the same sex at work. start looking for another job (asuming as I am that relationships between coworkers are forbidon) and then see how much she likes you

Do you realize how much money you could make by ending her???

Lawsuit, lawsuit!

That was tactless, to say the least; what I mean to say that yes, she is forcing you, and although you may like it it's entirely unprofessional. She should suffer the consequences, and you should be compensated.

wow. That's changed a bit. If you like her, go for it - after you switch jobs. However, be sure that you can deal with her issues because she sounds like an accident waiting to happen. You would do well looking elsewhere for a relationship, but then you can't really help who you love. And even if you fall in love with her it doesn't mean you have to have sex.

Try to convince this lady that she needs some professional help. She needs somebody to talk to. For the moment, it's good that you're there. That takes courage.

Well, that is quite the situation. Just be her friend for now, start looking for a new job too (not a bad move). If you are going to enter into any relationship get to know the person. If you find you are physically attracted to women, so be it. But you owe it to yourself to find your true sexual identity first and with a person who is emotionally stable--man or woman. Be a friend and search you soul to figure yourself out.

Also, keep in mind if she is suicidal she requires professional help & there are times suicidal people are also homicidal.

Hello everyone, I just found this board and after reading this thread. I had to post my thoughts and I completely agree with sera. My goodness, if you do not do something about this now it will come back to haunt you.

CrazyJenny, it's okay to be compassionate,BUT IT IS NOT OKAY to assume responsibility for "her" problems!...you DO NOT have to carry any of her baggage! She needs professional help and unless you have a PHD, you can't help her! You can help her by showing her the yellow pages and getting her a ride there and back. FFS, she's 11 yrs older, admits to pushing everyone away and now she is asking you to throw her a life preserver...perhaps call a life guard..don't feel bad, don't feel haunted, do what is GOOD for you and dont get sucked into guilty feelings. I'm worried about your safety since you've invited her to your place...she kissed you in the office and kinda of trapped you in the restroom...what's gonna happen at YOUR PLACE?? good luck and stay safe!

Trading one set of problems for another set. Life with those who are suicidal and emotionally imbalanced is VERY difficult, she needs a professional to help. Many have no one to go home to, pets are great for this. Dealing with being lonely? Get out and meet people. Get in college and keep it going.

She needs a good psych drug and a good therapist. The truth is that very few people are emotionally balanced, it's just the degree of imbalance. This sounds like quite an imbalanced woman, but there's hope if she gets help. I can tell you that living with someone who's emotionally imbalanced/depressed/clingy is no picnic, but it is manageable if you're stubborn and care about the person you're dealing with.

As for the loneliness, I know how you feel. When you first move out away from the parents and the siblings, it seems scary, and the loneliness at night is just miserable. I remember those days, and I thank God every night now that I'm married. Meet people, and remember that the person who is your friend might eventually be your spouse or partner if you fall in love.