(first post btw :))
I truly beleive this statement. My girlfriend and I have been dating 3 1.2 years now, and have a great sex life. We started dating at 15 and now were 18/19. The thought of anal discusted my gf! she said maybe one day shell try it but it was very slim! I asked her about it so many times but the end result was always the same. Just a few nights ago i mentioned to her that my friend just fingered his gfs ass and vagina at the same time, and pinched both fingers together causing immediate orgasm....this caused her to be somewhat interested, she even said she got wet off that!
Anyways, her rule was never touch her butt without her knowing....BUT just today, we were 69ing hard core, and at the heat of the moment i wet my finger and start rubbing her a hole, she started grinding herself against my face harder, so i figured she liked it, so i started rubbing faster... eventually leading the tip of the finger in and what do you know... instant orgasm!
To all the ass play lovers who's gfs are against it, they are only against the thought, the actual doing is EXTREMELY pleasureable, just dont even bother rushing in... take ur time!:rolleyes:D
for all the girls reading this... my gf told me afterwards she really liked it and it was a tickly feeling...and she was surprised she came within seconds after touching it, should i do it again right away, or avoid it for a bit and then again?:confused:
do women really enjoy anal sex and if so why? Do they also like getting a man's orgasm (cum) all over there face...I'm kinda old fashioned I like cumming on her tummy, back, ass, or even with her lips wrapped around my cock.
Dear mrbdog2,
First of all: welcome to this forum! :) Your questions have been asked and answered, see:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/29708-anal-sex-pleasurable-...
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/30754-coming-face.html
Do a search and you'll find many more threads concerning these subjects. Please realize whenever you ask such a question that we can never speak for all women or all men! As is thoroughly pointed out in the thread you are now. Every individual has different preferences, do's and don't-s.
I'd also much encourage you to look at the index. It contains links to very interesting stickies, sorted by category. This is the place to start and to return to at any time. Enjoy your time here at the forum! :)
Let us see. You have a huge sample size of women: One. From this you infer that "all women ..... if done properly" implying that there is a proper way to do this.
You are wrong on both counts. Some of us do enjoy it; some women will walk out on you. Some of us like it as you describe and others prefer that partners use a different technique. I recommend that you try whatever you tried on, say, one-thousand women. Then plot a graph and see what your conclusion is. Never make such definitive sweeping statements because you will almost always be wrong.
Aww dang it Brandye! And here I was going to tell my wife this, as all info from the internet should be taken as gospel. :)
Just because your lack or respect for boundaries and perserverience has changed the behavior of ONE partner doesn't reflect how other women will eventually respond with the same disrespect and perserverience. My own husband of more than 20+ years also tried those same tactics only to be faced with anger, hostility, resentment, rejection of his sexual advances, and worst of all-threats of divorce that was followed through with actual filling of petition of divorce. I always made it clear that anal stimulation/penetration was a deal breaker and guess what; it's still a deal breaker!!. That will never change!. I don't play with butts, nor will I ever consent to being anally exploited and violated for sexual purposes, no matter the stakes. I'd rather be single and celibate than allow myself to be pressured and coerced into sexual acts that I personally find unhealthy, degrading, insulting to my standards and principles of treatment by my intimate partner and most of all unwanted in every regard. Your girlfriend left the door cracked when she said that "maybe one day she'll try it". There is a differance between being shut out completely and leaving a little opening for "one day" and you've done everything you could to exploit that little opening and she's going allong with it. So implying that all women would respond the same way over time is extrememly flawed and you will eventually find that out should you ever be a free agent again in the dating world.
As far as her new found intrigue with anal stimulation, are you sure it's not just your wishfull thinking? You seem so sure of yourself, why don't you discuss it with her, it's her anus! Or, are you worried that discussing it will jinx your future attempts and make "in the heat of the moment" disgressions harder for you to accomplish "in the heat of the moment"! After all it's only "the thought" she's against as you say so now that you've showed her how pleasurable it can be, why don't you just continue with your pressure tactics and see how she complies over time. That's all your doing now, manipulating and pressuring her until you get the desired responce and that seems to be working for you.
Brandye is spot on! :)
Also, even though you seem to have proceeded "properly" in terms of slowly exciting her, I agree with Lisa that it gives me creeps that you've basically been pressuring your gf into this. It may seem innocent. But you broke her rules. You've disrespected her thoughts. You've violated her body. No matter what the results are; I find your approach wrong. And indeed: perhaps you are making more out of her experience than you should be. Perhaps she's thrilled to experience it again. The only sane approach would be to ask your gf what she wants you to do next time.
Yes, you're right that the anus is a part of the body covered in taboo. A lot of people don't even know it's a potential erogenous zone (even many men who post on the internet seem to only care about their own thrill when wanting to perform anal play on their gf's :(). I used to not know about this orgasmic potential, until my bf told me. And we were both excited to see how my body would respond. Nowadays I highly enjoy anal play myself. But every part of this sexual discovery was done caring and lovingly, with my pleasure as his interest, well-informed about hygiene/lube/anatomy/potential risks/etc and ALWAYS done with my consent. In my opinion; there is no other good way to proceed in these realms.
Dear Miniperl, I do wish your gf and you a happy discovery, should she chose so. Or should you chose to experience it yourself; men have p-spots that could lead to fantastic orgasms for you! And if not; the entire body is a potential erogenous zone so there is a lot to discover :) For more interesting articles on anal play and other sex-and-relationship-related subjects, you may like to start with reading the index (at the top of the screen). Welcome to this forum!
Miniperl - how would you like it if SHE rammed a cucumber up your ass? Oh, I assume she'll lubricate it first but really - would you enjoy being PUSHED into doing it?
Did you ask her why she refused? Did you discuss it rationally outside of the bedroom? Did you discuss it the day after also while out of the bedroom?
I strongly encourage you to STOP automatically assuming the leadership role wheni it comes to sex. I strongly encourage you to STFU and LISTEN to the lady lest she get the idea she should save her breath since you don't listen to her anyway and grows apart from you. Locking her desires away and just going through the motions to shut you up. Masking her boredom with faked orgasms.
If sex for her becomes as exciting as doing the laundry or visiting the dentist you will only have yourself to blame.
Hey, that was well said EEK.
The respect in the bedroom to me is the most important part. Know what partner(s) want and stick to the plan.
That poor guy will either delete his account or buy thousands of flowers to his girlfriend to pardon himself O_o