I thought I'd just offer up this bit of advice. I too am new to the lovemaking game and I had the same fears. here are 2 things I've found helped me out so much.
1) be with a girl that you trust 100%. - I did the deed with a girl I'm so head over heels in love with it's not even funny. I liked her for 5 years before we started dating and since we've been dating, we were together 4.5 months before we made love. she never pressured me and totally left it up to me which was awesome because I had some baggage from a previous relationship I had to deal with before I could move forward. so yeah. have a good girl to do it with because if you screw up or lose your bone, you don't want to be with a slut who will make fun of you or feel like **** because of it. it happened to me and trust me it ****s with your head and makes future encounters feel like you're heading for the gallows!!!
2) after you're comfortable with your woman and you get wedged up in her good and tight, pick a position (i.e. girl on top, sitting or laying doesn't matter) where she has to do the work in terms of thrusting and what not. with me I found that when we had sex this way. I was so focused on playing with her boobs, rubbing her body, kissing her, or just listening to her breath and moan, that I totally forgot about myself. I totally stopped worrying about losing my chub, cuming too quickly or anything else that could go bad. I was so focused on her I had no worries and it was amazing. if you're going to cum you can obviously feel it so you just say "baby slow down a little bit" and you stay on top of your game. our first time I for sure thought I was going to cum in like 30 seconds, but honest to god we had a good romp for almost 20 minutes before I exploded. the rest of the night was followed with some pringles and lots and lots of cuddling.
it might not work for everyone, but it works for me, and it COULD work for you.
"shooting their baby cream"?
"Love Potion #9" or rather #1?
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;162857]"shooting their baby cream"?[/QUOTE]
ejaculating their semen.
have fun with your vocabulary.
Yup, just funnin' ya.
Of course, it only qualifies as bona-fide "baby cream" if it contains upwards of 70 million spermatozoa. Has he been tested for potency recently?
"wedged up in her" Interesting choice of words.
If he's wedged up in her - perhaps she's not letting him back out?
Hmmmmmmmm - could be fun. But then he'd REALLY have something to tell his therapist!
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;162961]If he's wedged up in her - perhaps she's not letting him back out?
Hmmmmmmmm - could be fun. But then he'd REALLY have something to tell his therapist![/QUOTE]
are you implying that I have a therapist?
you guys are amazing:)
There it is! Years of counseling!
And no, I'm not implying that you have a therapist, I am saying that much more of this frivolity and you might NEED a therapist!
LOL
I was previously one of the victim of PE, and it really turns me off (not only my partner) until I discovered an ebook on the net. Try look for these guides on the net written by professionals. Try buy one if you are desperate and if you can't find any free one that works for you.
For my experience I have been too emotional whenever I make out. That's the keypoint. Try to control your emotion while pounding her (I know you love her but you still have to control your feelings). Giving yourself too much will eventually result cumming the baby cream too fast into her.
How to control? It's not an impossible mission. You must relax yourself, just tell yourself to stay in relaxed condition and 'follow the flow' and read her body language. Your heartbeat cannot be as fast as you are experiencing whenever you have PE. Try deeper breathing instead of fast paced breathing. I'm not a doctor but I hope it works for relaxation. =)
Please don't ever think about cumming! Anything that flows thru your mind about cumming will result you to cum. This include you thinking about "Please don't cum, Please dont cum now, Not so fast,etc". Thinking about not to cum is just a way of reminding you to shoot your baby cream. The more you are worried about shooting, the faster you are about to shoot it. Think about something else like trying other positions with your partner, perhaps others you might think of.
PE is just about your thoughts and mind. Control them and you can prolong your ejaculation about 5 mins more, at least for a beginner. Hope this helps. Cheers to my first post! =o)
well as long as his girl is happy hehe but some queens english never hurts
[QUOTE=the dude;162786]I thought I'd just offer up this bit of advice. I too am new to the lovemaking game and I had the same fears. here are 2 things I've found helped me out so much.
1) be with a girl that you trust 100%. - I did the deed with a girl I'm so head over heels in love with it's not even funny. I liked her for 5 years before we started dating and since we've been dating, we were together 4.5 months before we made love. she never pressured me and totally left it up to me which was awesome because I had some baggage from a previous relationship I had to deal with before I could move forward. so yeah. have a good girl to do it with because if you screw up or lose your bone, you don't want to be with a slut who will make fun of you or feel like **** because of it. it happened to me and trust me it ****s with your head and makes future encounters feel like you're heading for the gallows!!!
2) after you're comfortable with your woman and you get wedged up in her good and tight, pick a position (i.e. girl on top, sitting or laying doesn't matter) where she has to do the work in terms of thrusting and what not. with me I found that when we had sex this way. I was so focused on playing with her boobs, rubbing her body, kissing her, or just listening to her breath and moan, that I totally forgot about myself. I totally stopped worrying about losing my chub, cuming too quickly or anything else that could go bad. I was so focused on her I had no worries and it was amazing. if you're going to cum you can obviously feel it so you just say "baby slow down a little bit" and you stay on top of your game. our first time I for sure thought I was going to cum in like 30 seconds, but honest to god we had a good romp for almost 20 minutes before I exploded. the rest of the night was followed with some pringles and lots and lots of cuddling.
it might not work for everyone, but it works for me, and it COULD work for you.[/QUOTE]
aww man sounds soo sweet
yea you totally have to do it with someone you love and they love you so u will be completely comfortable.
My first time lasted 45 minutes, duno if that's normal or not
but it was great =D
"yea you totally have to do it with someone you love and they love you so u will be completely comfortable."
Not! Like him/her - yes; but no, you don't have to love him/her.
Does the "not thinking about it" really work? Cos I get so worked up about trying not to "shoot my baby cream" that I just end up shooting early =(
[QUOTE=Hurricane88;163690]Does the "not thinking about it" really work? Cos I get so worked up about trying not to "shoot my baby cream" that I just end up shooting early =([/QUOTE]
re-read what I wrote. maybe not with everyone, but with me it helped a lot. I was so busy playing with her my penis was on auto-pilot. it was great.
practice makes perfect :)