My Husband has recently expressed that he would like me to be more aggressive in the bedroom, which has left me confused. I start sex often with him, I have tried light bondage (which he really enjoys), I was just wondering if anyone had other ideas. My husband expressed that because he is in a high power position at work, and gives orders to people all day, that in the bedroom he wants to be submissive. From what I gather it's not that he wants me to yell at him like a drill sargent, or spit in his face, kick him etc....
He still wants me to be sensual and erotic, but more aggresive. Please I need some help here. I am more then willing to do this for him, just don't really know how to I guess.
Tue, 02/19/2008 - 19:42
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Aggression in the bedroom
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/married_and_long-term_relationships/2272...
Additionally go back to the index and read through some of the info. Much is contained there. Also there are similar threads to read on the same.
Here is a similar post from EEK yesterday with a link she recommends:
"Sorry I am late! And it is DOMME or DOMINATRIX if the one dominating is FEMALE. Thank you.
Now then - YES it is quite common and can encompass sex should the domme wish it to. The spectrum runs from "soft" to "hard".
Soft = no pain, no hulimiation, and no abuse - being more about her in control of the sexual experience.
Hard = pain, humiliation, abuse and being about power and therefore usually not sex.
I am a dominatrix of dominant men - quite a niche' and LOTS of fun for all involved, I assure you.
For more information on this topic please see the website www.wickedwomangroup.us"
**Cited from another post written; Authored by Evilevilkitten, archived 1450 on 2/19/08.
Hope this helps you.
You might also wish to purchase the book cited on the website mentioned.
The book is all about 'softly dominating men'.
[quote=EvilEvilKitten;209319]You might also wish to purchase the book cited on the website mentioned.
The book is all about 'softly dominating men'.[/quote]I hope it was alright to use your post from yesterday! I did cite you though! I was reading and noticed similar topics and your lengthy responses to the other's; therefore, I just quoted you and of course giving you credit for the writing! :)
Perhaps aggression is the wrong word. Maybe he just wants you to be more assertive, as in taking the lead. Its not quite the same thing as aggression.
Not quite, cycle. Aggression ala 'tigress desiring him' and 'pouncing upon him' is always enjoyed by the already attracted male. Face it, most men are pleased if women show them attention. They would be delirious if a woman forwent manners and modesty and clearly showed her *ahem* 'affection' for them.
No, no, Sera - I am quite pleased to be quoted with proper citation. Thank you!
Sometimes as long as the woman's breathing, I'm happy. Not to sound to greedy but I don't need every time to be Earth-Shattering awesome....:)
No, Thresher? Aaaww damn! And here I was sooo hoping... *EG*
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;209348]Not quite, cycle. Aggression ala 'tigress desiring him' and 'pouncing upon him' is always enjoyed by the already attracted male. Face it, most men are pleased if women show them attention. They would be delirious if a woman forwent manners and modesty and clearly showed her *ahem* 'affection' for them.[/QUOTE]
Your posts turn me on. Can I send my wife to you for "training"? :D
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;209348]Not quite, cycle. Aggression ala 'tigress desiring him' and 'pouncing upon him' is always enjoyed by the already attracted male. Face it, most men are pleased if women show them attention. They would be delirious if a woman forwent manners and modesty and clearly showed her *ahem* 'affection' for them.
No, no, Sera - I am quite pleased to be quoted with proper citation. Thank you![/QUOTE]
EEK, that's what I mean by being assertive. In contrast, I tend to think of aggression as meaning conflict and/or violence. (I guess its just a matter of semantics.)
No it is not 'just semantics', cycle - precision in language leads to clarity and understanding. There is a latent or implied violence to aggression, such as I explained. Assertive meaning more of standing up for one's self. Aggression is muc more outwardly focused and assertive inwardly focused.
Aviator, just visit the website www.wickedwomangroup.us