first off-hello! i'm new! and i love sex! :D yay!
okay i've been pondering for a while...after sex (i'm on birth control and my bf doesn't use a condom) i get "full" and if i stand up or sit up -everything flows out and i make a total mess of the bed. does this happen to everyone? is there something to prevent it? or am i just a permenant mess-maker?
You just got about a tablespoonful of fluid injected into you. About half is absorbed and the other half runs out. Hence, the notorious "wetspot."
i've never met a girl that hasn't said the same thing happens to her.
the best technique (that i know of) to not make a mess is one person has a tissue at the front and the other has one at the back, then as the guy slides out you both push the tissues together...
or u can use a condom- but i do love having sex without!
oh i'm new too! i swear that people don't have enough sex (with me anyway :P)! whoooo! :D
I always end up w/ a towel between my legs, lol.
Then when I get dressed I usually have to put on a pantyliner... I really hate being drippy!
Personally, as a guy, I see no problem whatsoever with the wet spot. I can imagine the "dripping" may feel strange for (some? all?) women but to me it's just part of good healthy sex, with an integral part of it being the feels, smells, tastes and even this slightly cold patch on the sheets until we warm it up with our bodies. On rugs, sofas, car seats or the likes, we keep hankies handy.
... By the way, Gabriel Garcia Marquez in "Love in the times of cholera" has a magnificent line about this blood/semen wet patch on the sheets the night she loses her virginity ...
You aren't using condoms??? So you're the only one bearing the burden in this relationship? Hardly seems fair. OF COURSE it is going to come out again and make a mess all over everything you come into contact with. You also might be ejaculating and making a mess as well. Condoms and towels. Wet spots are COLD!
Happens to us also. We will keep a small towel handy or just use something handy to do a quick wipe. She usually gets up and cleans herself up anyway, but can leave a wet spot before she gets up. We just take a towel and clean it up.