Ok, I've met a cool girl and I'm ready to take the plunge! But I have some rookie questions...
After we do it and have the first orgasm, what next? I mean do you take the condom off and throw it in the trash and put oon a new. Or should I shower and put on a new one.
Also, should I talk to her while I wait to get hard or again or should I just chill? Is she supposed to wash up?
I guess basically I want to know about proper etiquette. Should I have a waste basket handy? When we're done for the night, should I go and take another shower?
I aprreciate any tips and advice!
We do talk but usually after we rest. She gets all dazed afterward and doesn't comprehend much; it's really kinda cute. Once she comes out of that we kiss, exchange "I love you"s, and then talk.
She didn't cry after her first time which kind of suprised me since she was a virgin and I was... "experienced" (to say the least). Although she did realize after that she'd scratched her foot but didn't feel the pain during. Is that normal?
Look at me, I'm rambling. Point is, cuddling, kissing, and some chating afterward, maybe sharing a drink (non-alcoholic of course) after sex is so fun.
I feel all warm and fuzzy inside now ^///^
That's what my bf and I do, too. I love cuddling afterwards; it just feels so good to be in his arms after a fun encounter like that!! You might want to talk to her, too. Sometimes, that's all I want to do. Also, the first few times my bf and I had sex, I cried afterwards. That may have just been because of my anxiety, but just know that if she does, it's not a huge deal, but it would be a good idea to talk to her and see if she wants to talk. Show that you care, that will make all the difference.
After my fiance and I get done we like to just curl up in each others arms and snuggle, me tired from my orgasm and her tired from her 2-4. We usually wait a few hour before we go again. We don't want sex to be the only thing to our relationship.
It really depends on what you and your girl like.
to be honest.. i have to take a break after the first round. About 20 minutes of cuddling then touching then kissing to get aroused again. after that im back in the game!
Maybe i should start a new topic-- but I heard on Tv that a man should keep a "toolkit". Like lubes, gels, condoms, oils, etc...
I'm wondering what you guys keep in your toolkits? What are the essentials? Personally, I'm a newbie and all I keep is condoms and lube.
As soon as you ejaculate you need to take the condom off. And make sure you hold it at the base while you're pulling out. You do NOT want it getting stuck inside of her. And then after it's off tie it up put some tissue around it and throw it away. Then you're going to want to wash your hands and make sure there's no semen on them or hers for that matter. Oh and make sure when you take off the condom to face away from her to make sure there is no splatter on her. That could defeat the whole purpose of the condom if the semen ends up getting all over her.
Along with your hands, both of you are going to want to wash off your genitals. As I mentioned before if you get ejaculat on her then you're really defeating the purpose of the condom.
As far as someone said about taking a shower is going to make her feel dirty, that is not true at all. It's a lot better to be safe then sorry. And the two of you could make it fun and take the shower together. This could help if you feel like you want to have sex again. A bit of foreplay so to speak.
It would probably be smart to keep the waste basket handy. That way your'e not running around everywhere with a used condom. Also you're going to make sure you wash up after each time.
without being a downer on the situsation, If you are both virgins, chances are she wont come... I mean she could but you'll have to put in a fair bit of forepla...dont get too worried if she doesn't there is only one way to improve... practice practice practice... tehehehe
Kookutta,
Is she a virgin, as well? I'd like to know the answer to that question.
Um … sorta scared to ask but use alcohol on what?.... if you mean during or after no… if you mean before no…actually just avoid that one entirely … have her use spermicidal foam if you want extra protection. If you mean for after you take your condom off… just wipe it off…
As for what if she doesn’t cum…. that’s up to you what to do….personaly I would try as hard as I could to make her come by some means… some women have problems reaching orgasms from other peoples stimulation so don’t feel bad if you try and fail…but that’s a different topic… back to the topic, reverse the situation and ask your self wouldn’t you want to be finished off?
Should I use alcohol-- does that kill sperm? Oh yeah, what if she doesn't cum... should I finger her or eat her out?
[QUOTE=Quote (HerPleasure06 @ July 09 2005,02:28)][QUOTE=Quote (lilly2279 @ July 08 2005,20:26)]When you get your condoms, read the box. I'm dead serious. You need to take the condom off immediately after you ejaculate, but it never hurts to read directions.[/QUOTE]
Its not so much take it off right away as it is pull out right away...if you are just laying there with it on, as long as your not inside her you can wait a few min to take it off[/QUOTE]
Well, duh. I wasn't saying that sperm is poision and needs to be taken off his penis right away - if he really wants to lay there in a used condom, more power to him.
But I think saying he needs to get it off would also mean he's going to have to pull out.
Anyway, read the directions, they are the true professionals in that area.
[QUOTE=Quote (lilly2279 @ July 08 2005,20:26)]When you get your condoms, read the box. I'm dead serious. You need to take the condom off immediately after you ejaculate, but it never hurts to read directions.[/QUOTE]
Its not so much take it off right away as it is pull out right away...if you are just laying there with it on, as long as your not inside her you can wait a few min to take it off
When you get your condoms, read the box. I'm dead serious. You need to take the condom off immediately after you ejaculate, but it never hurts to read directions.
Do NOT go jump in the shower. She'll feel like you think she's dirty.
There is no needed ceremony for the condom. If a wastebasket is nearby, toss it in, if not ours usually ends up on the nightstand. When we finally get up, one of us picks it up with a tissue and disposes of it.
Is it her first time as well?
You will want to stay and cuddle with her. You don't need to try for round two right away. Just continue body contact for as long as she is comfortable. If she's a virgin... you'll need more advice.
She won't need to wash up unless she feels uncomfortable. Some people jump up and go wash. If you're using a condom, there won't be a mess.
I guess its all personal. I've heard of some people who HAVE to have a shower before and after sex. I dont really care either way.
Yes take off the used one and put on a new one when you are ready. Don't necessarily have to shower each time, sounds like you'll be in the shower most of the night, lol.
Just toweling and wiping off should be good.
Afterwards, my b/f and I just usually lay there a few minutes to catch our breaths and cool off, lol. We'll cuddle or whatever, dont always have to. I know some say thats what ALL girls want but not everyone.
Just do what feels comfortable, dont have to go by a certain schedule or anything.
I usually have to pee soon after, lol, so I go to the bathroom and clean up a little. Nothing major tho.
Some people might be offended if you feel the need to take SOOO many showers before and after sex. I personally dont care but Ive heard of people saying that.