My girlfriend is very paranoid about becoming pregnant. we use condoms and i pull out before i ejacuate. however, everytime we have sex she always gets sick like maybe about a week afterwards. I was just wondering if this has happened to any other girls out there. I honestly think that she is so scared of becoming pregnant that she gets herself sick. Thanks in advance for any help.
Sat, 10/30/2004 - 07:01
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after sex...
I can relate to your girlfriend about worrying if shes gonna get pregnant but not about the getting ill part...she must be worrying too much so maybe thats why that happens and if thats not the reason then I have no idea. But anyway, if shes that worried she should consider going on the pill. And since they got those free clinics she (if shes underaged) doesn't have to worry about her parents finding out since its all confidential and anyone can go in. I go to the clinic and the pill is one of the best protection you can use for sex. 99.9% effective if used correctly! With a condom theres just more worries of it breaking or slipping off or whatever so I highly recommend to your gf that she go on the pill and since you guys do use condoms, use birth control pills AND the condoms and I doubt she'll need to worry so much about getting pregnant! Hope that helps...
Just an afterthought here, someone mentioned women being allergic to semen. Perhaps this girl is allergic to latex? (I doubt it, seems like she's just stressing, but worth a look.)
well, i guess its not to be worried so much, in psychology we have studied things such as this, and it appears she may be a hypochondric ... to getting pregnant possibly, its just a mindset which can't really bring anything forward.. but hey
[QUOTE=Quote (weaselsnout @ Oct. 30 2004,00:34)]It seems like if she's so troubled by a possible unwanted pregnancy, maybe she's not ready for a sexual relationship right now.
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I'm trying really hard not to sound like a mother, but I wonder, how much can your girlfriend really be enjoying having sex with you if she's so worried about making a mistake that she becomes physically ill afterward? Just talk to her about it, ask her how she really feels. Let her know that it's okay not to be ready right now. Sooner or later, she will be, and if you're patient, you're going to be rewarded.
I totally agree!!
I mean you must be mentally ready to have sex as well and be ready for the consquences that come along with it.
How old are you and your g/f?
Maybe she would feel more comfortable if you used a spermicide w/ a condom or if she got on the pill. If she was on the pill AND using a condom, and she was STILL worried about getting pregnant, then I'd be worried.
That feeling of "what if Im pregnant?" is a very scary feeling, but if I was that worried about it, I just wouldn't have sex. I couldn't put myself through that everytime.
I must agree with you on this. I don't think there's any other way to explain what your girlfriend is experiencing. I have known women who were physically ill after sex because of some allergy or sensitivity to something in the semen (they were trying to GET pregnant), but since you are taking precautions, I don't think that is the case here.
Now, ask yourself this question, then you can ask HER: Is she having sex with you because she really wants to? Or is it because you really want her to? It seems like if she's so troubled by a possible unwanted pregnancy, maybe she's not ready for a sexual relationship right now.
I'm trying really hard not to sound like a mother, but I wonder, how much can your girlfriend really be enjoying having sex with you if she's so worried about making a mistake that she becomes physically ill afterward? Just talk to her about it, ask her how she really feels. Let her know that it's okay not to be ready right now. Sooner or later, she will be, and if you're patient, you're going to be rewarded.