First Rule:
BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL. Try to find it by gently massaging her inside at different angles. You need to either be inside fairly deep or have her pretty contorted to reach it and this makes for easy accidental cervix hits. While some might enjoy this, my current one says she feels like she's being ripped in half if I hit it and we have to stop for a minute.

Are you familiar with the female anatomy inside? If not, do a search and you'll see that when aroused, the inside of her vagina bulbs outwards in the back. This means aim upwards in doggy, or downwards with her on her back.

Try to forget about your own pleasure and focus on using your penis to caress and massager her like it was a stiff finger. You have to work on hip position and angles. Gauge her reaction by watching and feeling for any involuntary twitches or spasms. You'll only know exactly where her hot spots are if you go fairly slowly at first, working your way around inside with longer to smaller strokes in a closing in pattern. Focus on different areas inside her and study her reactions. She must be highly aroused, as the increased bloodflow makes her hot spots more sensitive than during a casual quickie to get you off.

I've had much success starting from a basic missionary with myself upright focusing on her gspot, then leaning forward to kiss her neck while moving knees back together and almost straightening my legs. I then scoot my hips forward, maintaining my body on top of hers, heads next to each other, and use my hip flexors to thrust downwards. I start with longer strokes, shortening the distance I pull out every 7-13ish strokes until I'm only moving about 1-2 inches back and forth right on the spot that gets the most reaction out of her. I stay there for however long it takes for her to explode, while running my hands over her and through her hair while kissing her neck/ears/face.

If you're going to do those extra things, be certain to keep a rythm so you don't distract her

Tsk tsk. You should have asked me. The cervix is lightly covered bone so hitting it is very painful. Some women think sex should come with some pain, their reasons for this need not be considered here, and want a man to do that but most do not enjoy it. The lateral fornices also need not concern you.

Now with her on back before you on the bed, the G-Spot is just inside the entrance and up. Further back, just above where the cervix juts into the vagina, is the anterior fornix. The vagina does not expand above the cervix so there isn't a lot of room - you must be very careful when stimulating here. For both the G-Spot and the anterior fornix a man has to think "up" to get the correct angle.

The posterior fornix is below the cervix, way down in the back of the vagina. When caressing here, a man has to think "down" to get the correct angle.

Before going for the fornices, it is recommended that she have at least one orgasm to make sure her vagina is "primed" and ready. To help her along the way, please read and follow the steps outlined in the sticky post entitled The Program found elsewhere in this forum.

****in wow. Last night was our first night together in over a month due to work travel. It's amazing how much going extra slow and paying extremely close attention helps. All the time off and extra reading helped me think of the different ways she's responded over the last couple months. I made her wait, kissing and massaging her everywhere with a blindfold, but only going around her nipples(likes those a lot) and crotch except for the tiniest touch/breath when passing over it.

After about 20minutes of this she was going nuts, and then I started licking up and down slowly, each time going a little bit less down until I was focused on her clit(about 5min later) and slid 1 finger in. In the past I spent less time on the areas around her clit and didn't have as much of a closing in pattern. Makes sense that it'd make a huge difference though since I start going crazy once I know she's goin down on me even if she just brushes my stomach. Anticipation is great. Instead of making the motion around what I thought was her gspot with 2 fingers in larger motions, I focused on just the one, and paying attention very closely for any involuntary twitches or change in her face. This way I found that it was a much smaller area about the size of a nickel with the most reaction and then checked by asking her.

By focusing there, and on her clit with my tongue at the same time, and NOT increasing or jumpin inside her like she usually wants at that point, her whole body started shaking uncontrollably instead of the occasional hard spasm or constant clench then boom she shot up off the bed and away from me. After a few seconds she immediately wanted me inside and I obliged, but again focused on that spot and after 10minutes she went again. We changed positions some and kept going for about 30-40minutes when I started going in all the way where I was touching the back and her eyes rolled back. Exploring that, I stayed with her knees bent way back and only moving an inch or so back and forth against the back for about 5minutes. The whole time she kept writhing her arms and her eyes were rolling around. She started clenching on and off(feels much better than a constant one) and I couldn't take it anymore and pulled out. Right as I pulled out though she bucked her hips way up, threw her hands over her face and squirted!!

She actually had no idea that girls did that and was extremely embarassed and tried to stop immediately(I hadn't talked to her about that part first like I'd planned). She shook like crazy on the way back down and then it took a lil bit for me to assure her it was ok and I wasn't mad and then today we pulled it off again. I've never seen a face so calm and pure before.

I hope this helps anyone who finds themselves in a situation similar to mine. Overall it took about an hr and 45min the first time, and today she said she had at least a dozen orgasms over about 2.5hrs, but some were very different(spent a lot of time on the clit, g, and deep). This site is awesome, and thank you guys/gals so very much for your help.

Oh, and EEK, nice prediction, I logged on when I got home from her place and saw you'd nailed it. I have no idea what spot I was stimulating while in as deep as I could be, but got the idea of really small rocking motions because when she's on top she likes to grind with me all the way in instead of thrust/bounce until she gets wobbly and stops. Apparently we just needed to keep that going with me doin the motion for her when she starts losing control. What is that back there? I read some things on an a-spot, but there is very limited/conflicting information on the web.

I've read somewhat about multi orgasmic where people manage to separate the ejaculation from the orgasm, however that's something I don't believe I do at the moment(though might have once, that's a diff forum). Thankfully I am able to go for hrs or let go in a few minutes, and have less than 2min recovery time so our sessions have been 1.5-3hrs long. The length of the sessions greatly helps speed up the learning curve. Anyway, new results(been goin for 2-3hrs, couple x/day since).

At this point, I don't think there's a practical limit to how many x she can go off in one session(we'll pass out from exhaustion first).

We're still working on her managing to relax. Any time I switch to a different style such as g focus to fornix to clit/labia to anal(finger/tongue), with the exception of *quickly* alternating g and fornix each couple strokes, that new style will result in her old tensing/clenching. I can get her to have a few in a row from the same approach, but the switching throws her off again. Of important note, I am only switching after she orgasms or for anticipation build up early on, not interrupting the pattern and stopping them short.

One cool phenomenon, that really, REALLY points out the fact that one of the biggest keys to her release is relaxation occurred today. I got a leg cramp about an hr in from sustained deep and hard thrusting but she was really close so I tried to finish her with my fingers on her g, sucking and holding on her clit with the middle of my tongue flatly gyrating on it. She curled around and was face down on the bed and ended up clenching really hard around my head/hand to the point she had wrapped her legs around my head on my shoulders and was holding herself aloft. My hand was pushed out and had no chance of pushing back in past her locked cheeks. Frankly my head started to feel like it was going to implode she was locking up so hard and eventually she fell back down after about 3-5minutes like this to the bed exhausted thinking she was done.
I didn't notice any of the small twitches, slight shakes, or finger/hand writhing right before and during like she has before, so figured her euphoria afterwards was most likely the runners high effect from the workout of holding herself up like that. I encouraged her to sit up with me since any athlete knows that the muscles lock up horribly if you go from extreme exertion to completion motionlessness. We sat in a kind of spoon position with me reaching around on each side to massage her stomach and upper thighs to get them to relax. I made sure to add a sneaky light breath on her ear or neck every once in awhile and she still had that small twitch reaction it brings about when turned on. She thought was was completely done and after about 3 minutes sitting up we laid down forking.

We just sat there enjoying looking at each other for a minute or two with playful pecks(the have a good day at work seen on a family channel sitcom kind, not makeout session style). The next time she leaned forward, as soon as she closed her eyes, I moved further back so she didn't get the expected kiss then stretched out further for it. I then *very* lightly caressed her check with the tip of my finger and a split second after the initial touch moved forward and curled the tip of my flat tongue 3/4 of the way inside her upper lip without touching her with my lips then pressed her cheek with my whole hand and lightly flicked my tongue back to me after a quick side to side. I'd meant to get her wound back up with that.....and instead she orgasmed!!!!

She gasped as her head curled back away from me, body shuddering as her eyes fluttered open while rolling upwards. About 7 seconds later she opened wide looking back at me and gasped, "What did you do to me?!" I looked down and she had squirted!! Apparently she had so much built up from the previous penetration/fingers/hands(about 20minutes worth nonstop) that had been prevented by the tension that all it took was for her to finally relax and the kiss was enough of an erotic surprise to open her body and release the pressure. This had happened last night, when similar tension prevented release and after 5minutes of post session cuddling, my hand running from her face, around her ear, then down her neck to the small of her back caused her to squirt a small amount. That time, she only gasped like a single quick light touch to an erotic zone and said that was a funny surprise feeling, but good.

In summary folks: RELAX, RELAX, RELAX, RELAX, RELAX. PATIENCE. If it's not happening, but you know she can or the tension builds to the point of physical muscle exhaustion try these taking a step back. I've found that my girl can get a lonely or self conscious feeling if not constantly in physical contract so try maintaining it. Don't act like a doctor examining or robot, act like you would cuddling or seducing.

Massage, work your way from petting to circulation enhancing and knot removing then back towards erotic.

Tell her how sexy she looks, how much she turned you on, how happy you are with her there, whatever it is that makes her comfortable.

If you're hard, "accidentally" brush against her while shifting around some or giving her a hug.

When moving to different parts of her body, leave the genitals alone, but make contact with other erogenous zones like neck/hands/thighs/undersides of breaths(NOT nipples, that's too overtly sexual right after stopping genital stimulation from too much tension)

I hope this helps people. Does anyone have any ideas for us to help her relax when that tension starts to build? I'm not worried about it at all, this whole experience has been wonderful, and it's so new that I expect it to take us time to figure all the nuances out, but I'm always up for healthy feedback and tips.