So I'm fairly new at all this. I need advise. I know this is an odd question, but what should a girl do on the bottom? I mean, I know it's no fun for the guy if the girl just lays there, so I wanna not. And I'm kinda iffy on the "being on top" thing cuz I'm kinda self consious about my tummy jiggling around cuz I'm a tad chubby. (hehe) But what exactly should I do? What can I do to make it more pleasurable for him?
Sun, 07/31/2005 - 03:07
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Advise for girl on bottom
Grab a hold of him and pull him into you, not just 'down there', but into your whole body. Wrap your legs around his back, make noise. It'll drive him wild.
And as for the tummy thing, I agree with earlier posts - don't worry! From a guys' point of view I'm usually too busy looking at the jiggle of the breasts!
My advise would be do whatever comes natural. If you think of something that you want to do then just do it. He's not going to mind at all and then you're not just laying there. Also if you know things that he likes then do them. You have 2 free hands. There are quite a few things you can stimulate with this kind of freedom.
[QUOTE=Quote (lilly2279 @ Aug. 02 2005,16:19)]don't lie there lie a deer in the headlights. maybe close your eyes and make pleased sighs or whatever you are comfortable with (not like you're sleeping) smile up at him if something feels really good. Tell him it feels good, etc.[/QUOTE]
Oh yes, making some noise and moaning is a very good thing. It will let him know that you are turned on and enjoying it, which will make him even hornier!
[QUOTE=Quote (lilly2279 @ Aug. 02 2005,16:19)]Definitely move your hips a bit, if you can. play with your breasts, he'll love the visual stimulation. do this with your eyes closed if you're emberassed. He'll feel like he's witnessing a private show.
As for a jiggly tummy, I doubt he'll notice. When you feel more comfortable with him, try on the top. Don't be emberassed. Trust me, he's not looking at your tummy, he's thinking about you being on top, looking at your breasts, watching your face, etc. it's a common thing for women to be afraid during sex that the man is judging their bodies. I think it's rare that this actually happens. I'm more than a tad chubby and have had no complaints yet.[/QUOTE]
Yep, I totally agree with this. They are NOT paying attention to cellulite or chubby tummy or any of that stuff that we're so worried about. Right, guys?? I think most of the time they're just so darned happy to be getting sex!!
He finds you attractive, otherwise he wouldn't be with you. You might be surprised to find that there's actually a part of him that he's concerned you're noticing. If you're too concerned about what he's looking at, you will be inhibited and not have a good time. Translated: you won't be as apt to try different positions that may feel REALLY good, like being on top!
As for being on bottom, I like my legs put up over their shoulders. Also, when that's done and they move more over top of you and almost rest on top of your legs, there is a GREAT downstroke that happens. Mmmmmm...that you've GOT to experience! Also, as I mentioned in another topic, roll onto your side and put both of your legs to one side of him, almost as if you're in the fetal position. Let him enter you that way. It feels really good, too!!
I, personally, like eye contact when the man's on top. It's very sexy! If he's doing a slow stroke, reach up with your fingers and trace his lips, dip the fingertip in his mouth a little. Bring it back down to your mouth and trace your own lips, then do a slow suck, as if you would his cock. He might like that little show.
Don't be so self conscious during sex and you'll have a great time! Good luck and HAVE FUN!
don't lie there lie a deer in the headlights. maybe close your eyes and make pleased sighs or whatever you are comfortable with (not like you're sleeping) smile up at him if something feels really good. Tell him it feels good, etc.
Definitely move your hips a bit, if you can. play with your breasts, he'll love the visual stimulation. do this with your eyes closed if you're emberassed. He'll feel like he's witnessing a private show.
As for a jiggly tummy, I doubt he'll notice. When you feel more comfortable with him, try on the top. Don't be emberassed. Trust me, he's not looking at your tummy, he's thinking about you being on top, looking at your breasts, watching your face, etc. it's a common thing for women to be afraid during sex that the man is judging their bodies. I think it's rare that this actually happens. I'm more than a tad chubby and have had no complaints yet. Only past boyfriends saying they loved how uninhibited I was with my body and they said they found that the sexiest thing of all.
Well when Im on bottom i do move my hips around some to meet his.
You'll catch on to a rhythm naturally.
Also, I run my hands down his back, over his bum, anywhere I can reach lol.
Kiss him on the neck and shoulders if he's close enough to you.
For me it all just kinda happens I dont really think about too much.
We all find our best position and action. Some with heels on his shoulders and some with legs nearly flat. Probably the most important is to meet his hard drive right before his ejaculation. Rise up and hold steady because men, unlike women, do not prefer motion through their orgasm. Otherwise, smal movements are about all possible on the bottom. And excess weight limits this.