Clothes on; I'm super confident, clothes off; I feel like my boyfriend hates my body and it makes me enjoy sex less.
I left a 5 year relationship and over that time got completely comfortable with my ex and never had these feelings. In my current relationship, I can't help but feel that my boyfriend doesn't find my body attractive although he always tells me that he thinks I'm gorgeous whatever. It's particularly bad when he's giving me oral because I just think that whenever he looks up the first thing he sees is my wobbly stomach, it's really annoying as it stops me from relly letting go and enjoying myself. I've never really felt uncomfortable with my body so don't really know what to do...
Advice??
> Advice??
Yes. I have written this over and over that when a guy falls for a gal he falls for her hook line and sinker--and this includes the parts as yet unseen. Now that he has seen you and continues to inform you that you are "gorgeous", then believe him.
Not to is to sabotage your relationship due to a lack of trust and self esteem on your part.
I understand that you may not like every aspect of your body or personality, however, to not project this onto your partner. Most of us do have issues with these things yet we continue to have wonderful fulfilling relationships. If you cannot or will not believe that what he is telling you is true and accurate from his perspective, then do not find fault with him.
[QUOTE=questioneer;233425]Clothes on; I'm super confident, clothes off; I feel like my boyfriend hates my body and it makes me enjoy sex less.
I left a 5 year relationship and over that time got completely comfortable with my ex and never had these feelings. In my current relationship, I can't help but feel that my boyfriend doesn't find my body attractive although he always tells me that he thinks I'm gorgeous whatever. It's particularly bad when he's giving me oral because I just think that whenever he looks up the first thing he sees is my wobbly stomach, it's really annoying as it stops me from relly letting go and enjoying myself. I've never really felt uncomfortable with my body so don't really know what to do...
Advice??[/QUOTE]
First off is your tummy really wobbly or is it all in your head? A guy burying his head between your legs is a good indicator that he does find you attractive
if you are a little overweight then Is having a toned tummy something you want? if it is then you should start working towards it getting into an exercise routine and starting to work towards having a body you want, it's going to give your self esteem a boost.
MEN DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR BODY ISSUES
So, if you don't like x - fix it or STFU. Plain and simple.
I understand all of not liking this or that but ya know - at the end of the day - it is YOU the PERSON that matters most NOT your PACKAGING.
Focus on being the best PERSON you can be and accept/fix the rest.
Remember: no one's perfect and Barbie does not exist.