k so me nd my gf have been havin sex about 3times now and she loves bein on bottom. i mean to the point where she wont get on top nd she says im good on top, i don't mind much cuz it still feeels awsoemmm but when im doing her missionary style my wrists will start to hurt, we do it on a bed nd a couch so its soft but i can never get my hands to stop hurtin nd it takes away from the pleasure..also when im on top i can never get that feeling to orgasm, is there any simple positions we can use besides her being on top that could work? thanks-
Sun, 04/08/2007 - 17:39
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Aching during sex
get a harder mattress, if it is a spring base bed then put a board (any old doors hanging around ?) under the mattress to make it harder
Elbows. Lie on her. Think.
You could try the 'butterfly' or a variation of it (you standing)
Or the 'deepstick' (one of my personal favs)
Maybe you should tell her about the prob you have with your wrist.
yaa i did the deepstick and she loved it but it kept comin out cuz her hips kept raising...wut do i do about not feeling any orgasm feelings?
[QUOTE=blooms;173803]yaa i did the deepstick and she loved it but it kept comin out cuz her hips kept raising...wut do i do about not feeling any orgasm feelings?[/QUOTE]
Just keep trying different angles/motion untill you find one that works for you
if your wrists are hurting from holding yourself up you may want to consult a doctor. im not sure but u should be able to hold yourself up in a kneeling position for quite some time before feeling pain.
you do not specify how long u last but even 20 minutes or so they should not hurt... you may have some minor signs of arthritus in your wrists.. good just to check.
but if that is the case then there are always alternatives.
If you are beginning intercourse too soon, this may explain why you cannot get all the way to a climax. There seems to be a common misconception recently among young men that lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking is the way to build up to an orgasm. WRONG. This is the purpose of making out and Foreplay. In general you should not start intercourse until you are already at or very near the trigger point of an orgasm. Stroking maintains a preexisting high level of arousal and thrusting peaks it. So, if this is what you have been doing, better, the two of you go back to basics.
There is a Sticky post on this. I recommend reading it regardless of your approach.
A variation of the butterfly is my fav. I guess our bed it tall b/c my b/f has to stand up lol. And my legs aren't over his shoulder... just wrapped around... or my knees to my chest.
k thx...nd when i do missionary im in more of a push up position.. for some reason i can't get it in kneeling it feels awkward and not rite...is there any key points i need to know when using this method
Maybe try it from behind, 'doggy style', if she is happy to do it that way.
i tried that but i can't get the right angle and it never goes in...wut key points do i need doin doggy style 2 get it in nd keep it in
[QUOTE=blooms;174026]i tried that but i can't get the right angle and it never goes in...wut key points do i need doin doggy style 2 get it in nd keep it in[/QUOTE]
Have her arch her rear up in the air, with her chest and bell pointed towards the bed and head down on the bed. Thats what works for us, plus I and my hubby, have unbeleivable orgasams that way.:D
Jejeje.. the position you just describe is also one of my favorites :B i'll just say that you might wanna share with your girl how you feel about the wrist issue and maybe she will like to try some other great positions :O remeber something... the key to everything is the angle :P