First of all id like to apologize if this thread doesnt belong in this forum, I didnt read here before, I was searching infos in google and I found this and I would really appriciate your help.
iv been goin out with a girl, and she told she is a virgin. I do not have experience with virgins and I simply thought 'whatever, I aint even try to have sex'.
But after we got close, somehow now I want her, but seems that she is affraid about it, and it may hurt her.
Last time I tryed, I know people first do the opening with a finger... I mean I almost put in all finger, but there was no bleedin ? (its suppose to bleed ?) and she seemed uncomftble and asked me stop...sayin that it hurts.
Now she is affraid is she lost her virginity, while in other way I am doubting in her viriginity.
what to do... ?!
thanks in advance, Luis
First, why would you have any reason to doubt she was a virgin? Just because your finger managed to fit doesn't mean anything. Some tampons are bigger than fingers. Not everyone bleeds either and it's doubtful she will bleed from just a finger anyways. The hymen breaking is what generally causes the bleeding (and perhaps some other tears along the way) and just because she doesn't have a hymen anymore, doesn't mean she's not a virgin. Lots of girls lose their hymen these days due to sports and such things as tampons.
Second off, in my standards, she is most certainly still a virgin. I classify losing your virginity as the penis entering the vagina (for straight couples at least).