My boyfriend doesn't understand that it takes me a little while to be able to have an orgasm. No, I can't have one by intercourse..but any other way I've found it possible. (i figured that out on my own hehe) He try's really hard but gets tired and gives up, when I'm almost there!! I want him to be able to experience what its like for me to able to orgasm..vs. him having no problem doing so.
Everytime we get started with me, I tell him what I like while he's doing it, and tell him don't stop, and then he does! So of course in the end, he gets HIS, and I get left hanging..unattended to. I mean I can't help that it takes some time, and he's doing things right..it always feels good...how can I convince him to give it a little more time? and please not leave me hanging...because its so unfair. Any suggestions appreciated :D
Thanks!!
-Tara
Tue, 07/03/2007 - 03:59
#1
About girls finishing first...
If he is trying really hard as you stated he would not just become bored and up and quit when you are telling him you are about there? Personally, if he refuses to listen to you, I'd return the favor and see how he likes it. Perhaps you need to let him know it's a two way street and he should do some reading about women in general.
hm strange and not that considerate if he really cares for you he will put a little more effort into it don't know what to say really except do the same to him
if hes legitamately tired its not really his fault u need to find something new to do to increase the time
I could spend hours pleasuring a girl to orgasm
He could use both tongue and fingers - then it is hardly possible for him to get tired. If he is still oh-so-weak, then ask him to buy some toys to finish.
I still think the problem is more psychological. Are you sure he:
1) knows you haven't come and that you arejust tiny bit from it?
2) cares about you and isn't a selfish person?
What does he say when you talk to him? Look behind it words: even if he says "my fingers are nearly dead, I am soooo sorrrrryyyy" but it sounds more like "couldn't she come finally, does she think it's a pelasure for me?" then it's really the latter one. I definitely hope it's not the case and he just has some misunderstandings and lack of experience.
For the umpteenth time:
One-quarter of all women never, or rarely, reach orgasm.
About half of us never or rarely reach orgasm as a result of penetration and thrusting.
Only one woman in four regularly reaches orgasm through the "sex act." We need more and it is nobody's fault. It is NOT psychological. It is the way we are built and the stimulation is much more difficult than for a man whose sensitive organ is completely encased in us.
Tell him; read this to him; get him the various books on "ladies first;" give him an anatomy lesson. Tell him you appreciate it but this other thing will work.
And add that "finishing" for a woman does not mean that it is all over. We can go longer than any man and we do not have endorphins putting us to sleep right after orgasm.
If you notice from reading on this board, men take [COLOR=black]great[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]pleasure[/COLOR] in knowing they were part of getting their lady to orgasm. Most will go to nearly any extent to make it happen!!! Those who realize it takes her a long time, make her the priority knowing they can achieve their own with ease.
Dump him! any man who hears don't stop durning any type of sex.......DOESNT STOP.....hes lucky you know exactly what you want, and aren't afraid to ask him for it, i wish all women were like that. Tell him you are tired every time he's about to climax and see how he feels.