Yes, I think there is a definite difference between simply being kinky and trying to humiliate your partner. When I see ads for gangbang pornos that advertise themselves based on the number of men who successively ejaculate upon the face of a single woman (reveling in the copious amount deposited), it turns my stomach and says little positive about the producers of such porn. Such scenes do little but denigrate the popular perception of porn in the minds of many women, an unfortunate and inaccurate consequence.
My personal opinion is that there are few things in life more glorious than a beautiful, uninhibited woman coaxing a man to climax while she encourages the semen onto her lips (not eyes, nose, hair,etc). It can, however, still be perceived as humiliating to women, if it is done without any reserve. Attention should always be paid to the comfort of the woman and her responsiveness to being 'cummed on'. I hate to indulge in a cliche, but, if she is uncomfortable with this, a good introduction can be had if she is slighlty inebriated as it will calm her down to the suddeness of the ejaculate landing on her skin.
I think, as well, that it may be potentially be seen by many feminists as empowering because it serves to highlight the complete vulnerability of men as they orgasm. I mean, here you are, your penis and testes inches away from her TEETH and immensly stong JAWS, a potentially lethal position! Thus, it has always amazed me to no end how gentle and stong women can be. I guess, once again, it comes down to respect and trust. Make sure that you are not doing it to humiliate her, but rather to excite her, and yourself. I have seen my woman, for example, reach orgasm immediately after she has felt the seed spill onto her cheek, lips and tongue. It has the ability to drive her insane with excitement and I would be a liar if I said that the image burned into my mind is easliy dislodged.
