[Andy]

For a long time, the handjobs or blowjobs I got from my girlfriend were just ok. I know that she loves me a lot, and it's not that she didn't want me to have the most amount of pleasure as possible, but I think she just didn't know better. On New Year's day, I couldn't sleep, so I wrote her a note because I was thinking about sex and all of the things I would like her to do. Yesterday, she gave me a handjob and it was incredible. Yes, I'll admit that I've had better orgasms from sex, but this was very very good.

Here's generally what I wrote for her... Just keep in mind that what works for me may not work for your guy.

I really like being kissed. This may sound weird coming from a guy, but I love it when my GF kisses my neck, ears, shoulders/collarbone, and even my nipples sometimes. If she can do this while giving me a handjob or when we're having sex, it basically multiplys the feelings and brings me that much closer to orgasm.

Watch your BF masturbate. Yesterday I showed my GF how I hold my penis and how fast I do it and the general motion, and she took a lot from it. Each guy knows what feels best, so learn from that.

Rythym is really important. A lot of girls speed up and slow down because either their arm gets sore, or because that's what they like and so they do it their guys. Now, I don't mind a little bit of variation in rythym, but if you vary things randomly, all it does it desensitize me. (I'm not sure about other guys.) So, if you want to change up the rythym, do something like three fast strokes, then two slow strokes, and don't deviate from your fomula. Another important thing is that when your guy is about to cum, don't stop right then or slow down. You have to keep going fast, or the whole feeling is lost.

The last thing that made a world of difference was that I got to lay back, relax, and my GF cuddled up beside me and let me feel up her breasts and bum and run my hands up and down her back. Being able to feel her skin and hold her body close to mine brought a real feeling of intimacy to the whole thing.

I know this is a long post, but hopefully it's helpful. Please post any further questions that I haven't answered.

Andrew